Comments by Tetradon (page 25)

Look at people like this bloke who claims to make $350,000 a year but lives paycheck to paycheck. https://www.marketwatch.com/picks/im-paycheck-to-paycheck-i-make-350k-a-year-but-have-88k-in-student-loans-170k-in-car-loans-and-a-mortgage-i-pay-4-500-a-month-on-do-i-need-professional-help-01664544530 "While having a high income is great, there’s a concept called Parkinson’s Law, which essentially states that your spending will always rise to meet your income no matter how high that income rises," I'll admit my lifestyle has expanded with my income--I wanted to cut down on my Uber Eats. It's addictive to be able to say "I want Indian, or sushi, or Korean (or something else I don't know how to cook) today" and two minutes of clicking plus a 45 minute wait and it appears at my door. Everyone can afford a few luxuries, but not luxury everything. There was a whole other thread about this. I drive a 10-year-old car that I plan to run into the ground. I pay a $3,000 mortgage rather than the $1,000 rent I paid five years ago with roommates, but there's no room to build in my city so housing prices keep increasing. If anything I regret not buying a year before. Most of my clothing is pretty cheap, too. Take a look at your finances. My credit card statement automatically groups purchases by food, gas, etc. I rarely use greenbacks for anything other than clubbing, so my bank itemizes that well, too. Take a good hard look, and you can see where you can really save and what's just nibbling at the margins. You might be surprised.

I've been on most of the apps. If you know how to work it, you might need a project manager to handle all the pussy you're getting. But it's gotten much harder as of late--a lot of apps are now dominated by escorts, crypto scammers, and profiles from girls who either don't respond or drop off the radar. Match - the granddaddy of them all is a good place to find nice girls looking for a relationship. Not so much a one night stand place, though I've had them. It can be hard to sift through all the inactive profiles though. Coffee Meets Bagel - another more relationship-oriented site, but you'll find all types. Probably fewer flakes than other sites. Hinge - my favorite one right now, in terms of both quality and quantity. You'll find a good number of new girls per day, and won't get the same ones over and over. Tinder - despite its reputation, it's a fucking wasteland. If the odds are good, then the goods are odd. Want to fuck here, drop your standards or hold your nose and go for a gender bender. Don't bother with anyone who looks off-the-boat Asian and has too well-done pictures--they're going to ask you to trade crypto with them, only you'll never be able to withdraw your money. It's a Chinese government scam to get western money into their financial system. Bumble - nicer girls, fewer freaks than Tinder, but girls don't _like_ to make the first move. Kind of a waste. I know some people who work it to pretty good effect, but I've never gotten the hang of it. Plenty of Fish - all kinds of girls but low quality. Lots of fat women (bigger than BBWs). I haven't been on it in a while. There are all kinds of niche apps as well, but they don't have a few people. If you're trying to pick girls up at the gym, you aren't lifting hard enough.

"That's why I fucked yo' bitch you fat motherfucker!" -2Pac

South Park said it best. https://youtu.be/gTeKQGlrDuE?t=41

TikTok, between its child-killing "challenges" and intimate ties to communist China, is a cancer on American society and should be banned.

Growing up, it was unconscionable that you didn't get your license by your 17th birthday. Of course, we didn't have ridesharing then, or even taxis in my suburb. When I got to college, I was shocked that some of my classmates had never driven a car. Ridesharing and public transportation are great--I'd rather commute into the city via public transportation than a car--but unless you live in a city, you still need a car.

"Pump and dump" is a scam as old as time, or at least stock exchanges. It plays on the schmuck's greed and desire for easy money. It's hard to cheat an honest man.

^ Scrub is familiar with what psychologists call "untreated schizophrenia." Most blocked member here. Pay him little heed.

Ha ha. Too stiff. Cock-up. Womp womp.

"Nothing gay about getting a hand job at a strip club." Except if it's from another man.

Property owners are a powerful voting bloc. They trend older, and older people vote more. Even if they claim to be progressive, their progressive values stop dead when their personal wealth is at stake. So many Americans have all their wealth bound up in their home that _any_ policy that drops housing prices is as popular as genital warts. The Biden administration said they couldn't see inflation coming. I'm a smart and educated man but I don't predict inflation for a living, and I saw it coming. That's why I bought at very favorable rates in a geographically-constrained area. There's little room to build "affordable housing" around here. Like I said, NIMBYs--and the Mass ones are some of the worst--are gonna keep my house increasing in value. Never fight the market.

@James, could be any of the above. But I'm not going to keep testing out the same club in the hopes that things got better. I'll wait for positive reviews here.

@blah, could mean I didn't see anyone who excited me enough for dances (or at Desire, they're locked up with regulars for hours), or I've gotten subpar dances from them in the past.

"Gay shit is common in clubs though." Remind me never to hang out in your clubs.

This seems like a simple question, but it depends on why a club dropped off. This is independent of my total clubbing coming and going in cycles. If I'm just not seeing dancers I like, I'll give it a few months to turn over. If subsequent visits don't get any better, I'll go longer and longer between visits until it completely drops off my rotation. Fantasies in Providence is like this--it dropped from once a month to once every 3 months to once every 6 months to once in the last 10 years. If they increase prices but service stays the same, I'll visit fewer and farther between. I'd rather pay $600 half as often for a great experience than $300 just as often for a mediocre one. If the service takes a hit, I'll drop off until I hear reports that it's changed back. This was a lot of clubs during COVID. Also happens when clubs change management. Or in small clubs when one regular dancer made the place and her absence broke it--this happened at Mickey's in Cumberland; Cali there was one hot, personable chick in a sea of sub-5's.

"It's like no one on here has ever been to a circle jerk before." Correct. And I never felt like I was missing out.

Non north America matchups*

I've never been clubbing in Detroit, but I maintain there should be a separate international bracket (or at least non North matches. It's a whole different culture and range of options out there. Frankfurt vs Tijuana Bangkok vs Puerto Plata Could be some intriguing matchups.

I don't see how seeing naked women would make you want another man's hand, but whatever floats your little boat.

"It's common sense to not name dancers in reviews" Uh, wrong. The difference between a strip club and any other bar, and your main spending in a club, is the dancers. Surely, clients want to know who provides a good experience (however defined) and who rips you off. Only time that's not the case is when the girls are damn near homogeneous and interchangeable, like Tijuana or FKKs.

Breaking Bad was great for both seasonal and series-long plot arcs. Walter White's slow moral degeneration was awesome. The Wire was great for the dramatic portrayal of urban dysfunction at all levels. @jimmy, agree that the fake serial killer plotline was pretty fucking stupid. I think they wanted some way, any way, to cleanly end the series and that was the best they thought of. The one that keeps me coming back is The Shield. The incident in the pilot episode (and all the Strike Team's bad deeds) comes back to haunt them and build behind the scenes. And the series ends like a Greek tragedy with every character receiving their just desserts. Vic Mackey (Michael Chiklis) might be my favorite law enforcement character ever.

Ballin, you sound a lot like me in my early 20s. Grew up pretty sheltered, discovered P4P before civvie dating. If I lived anywhere near TJ, I might have fucked myself into the poorhouse. It sounds like you’re expecting P4P to fill needs it just isn’t meant to. It doesn’t mean something’s wrong with you, it means, number one, you’re craving something from women other than sex, and number two, you’re not getting the dopamine hit from P4P you were initially. That’s natural. I club/P4P in cycles, and the “power trip” of being able to get any girl easily is fun. Part of why I keep doing this even if I’m civvie dating as well. But it sounds like there’s something deeper going on. You’re not sure what you want and come off as wounded by your relationships. As one of the few _admitted_ mental cases here (I have bipolar 2), with an upbringing that I needed to un-learn (were you raised strictly Catholic by any chance?), therapy can be life-changing if you find the right therapist with which to work through your shit. Go to PsychologyToday.com and find a good one. You can choose by health insurance, gender, specific issues down to a pretty fine level of detail. And with everything occurring electronically these days, you can choose from a broader geographic area. It might sound glib, but the guys saying to go develop yourself are right. Therapy is a big part of it. Lifting heavy weights does wonders for your body and mind. Learn a few skills that are attractive to women like dancing or cooking. Be an interesting person; travel the world, read good books. P4P should be well down your list of hobbies. Good luck.

"But for many its an act of desperation and a substitute for civvie interactions despite what they claim." @Icee, and so be it. Are you really trying to alter the life choices of 90% of the board? Sometimes you just need to live and let live, unless you're trying to taunt people and create conflict. As I described on the other thread, I don't _want_ to date 20-somethings. I find them shallow, dumb, and materialistic, and whatever they have in youthful looks, 30-somethings have in how they carry themselves. To me, P4P is the perfect interaction to have with a 20-something. And a 47 year old guy dating teenagers is a creeper, no matter how good he is socially. By guys pretending P4P isn't P4P, you're talking about the South Bay schizophrenic. I don't know anyone else who doesn't think P4P is P4P.

"Oh wait trolling is fine as long as its against me." Umm, you insulted three women close to other members, including at least one (Rick's daughter) who is underage.

"Stop pretending like the guys here actually want to be tricks. They don't. Snd its obvious." P4P is a different thrill than civvie. The thrill of walking into a room, selecting a woman, and what happens is only limited by your willingness and your wallet. There's a purity about the transaction.