Comments by jack_s

"NOT a bad thing if you have common sense. " Crap.. I'm doomed.

Hey folks, thanks for your comments-- both the serious and the funny. They're appreciated.

"Not sure what CT means, but IMO it is a important observation if this is indeed a Portland, OR venue." It is in Portland, OR. Why does that matter?

Dudester: That makes sense. Thanks for the quick response.

georgmicrodong: Interesting! I say that because I'm not a big fan of intense 'grinding' myself. In pvts., I much prefer a girl who uses her hands and hair and whole body to rub against me to one who just does intense grinding with her butt or groin against my crotch. This doesn't necessarily mean 'extras' but just a lot of contact all over. I thought I was in the minority on preferring that to the grinding. Maybe we are not as alone as we thought!

"I think it's simple to understand. Paper thin pants with no boxxors makes the girls feel dirty. Last thing you want is a girl weirded out, the dance won't be as good so get something with some weight to it." This is a good point-- that its not just a question of our pleasure or the dancer's physical comfort, but of the dancer's mental comfort. Having more cloth betwen the girl and Mr. Happy may make the dancer feel more at ease, which may result in better attitude/better dance. That I understand. However, the dancer I quoted really seemed to be thinking that wearing thin clothes would make for a less pleasurable *physical* experience for the guy... simply because it would cause pain for him. That wasn't my experience, which is why I posted this thread.

Bonus points to Shadowcat for listing a mythical place (Avalon)!

Thanks!

Is this for real? It almost seems like a parody.

TUSCL_Brother: I posted a comment in response to yours. Anyway, Thanks guys, for letting me know I'm not alone.

Anna asked: "Here is something I wonder...do you guys think strippers can tell something about you based solely upon your appearance?" I'm sure they can. I'm sure I project "Middle-class, middle-aged liberal white guy" pretty clearly. If they miss that, they need to refine their interpersonal skills a lot. :)

For me, I never like answering questions about my private life. "What do you do?" is reasonable, but beyond that, I feel like it gets intrusive, "Where in the city do you live?" "Are you married?" "Do you have a girlfriend?" Leaving aside the fact that, If I *DID* have a wife/GF, talking to a stripper about it would make me feel guilty about cheating, I just feel that this is a bit intrusive. I mean-- I wouldn't ever ask *HER* these things (particularly, where do you live, which would make me sound like a potential stalker). I guess I'd kind of like for her to show the same respect for my private life, as I would show for hers. But maybe I'm just kind of fussy?

"What are the laws here? Are they allowed to naked lapdance or what?" I haven't had any fully naked lapdances in Portland. ALthough I've had some at a few clubs where the girls went topless and showed what was down below. I'd be curious to know what the law actually is on the subject.

The Florida vote on gay marriage was no surprise (lots of conservatives and old folks). The same was true for the gay adoption measure in Arkansas (a very conservative state). The Arizona ban on gay marriage wasn't a shocker, as there is a conservative streak in the state.... but I thought it might fail because western conservatives usually have a libertarian streak. The California vote, however, stunned me. Why? Well, the fact is that gay marriage has been legal there for several months-- and obviously, society has not crumbled because of it. Also, it was trailing in the polls pretty much up to the night of the election, from what I can tell. From what analysis I've read, it seems (ironically?) that Obama being on the ballot for President may have led to the California anti-gay-marriage measure passing. Black and Latino Californians came to the polls in record numbers to vote for Obama, but those tradtionally Democratic group are often quite conservative socially, in part for religious reasons. (A lot of African Americans come from the southern baptist traditions, while most Latinos are Roman Catholics). Although I'm saddened by the overturning of gay marriage in CA as a step backwards, I think it *could* be a good thing for the Democratic party to realize that its future success depends on it standing for something other than defending women's right to abortion and being on the pro-tolerance side of the so called culture wars (of which gay marriage is just a facet). Afte rall, that really is what the Democrats have been about for the past 20 years. The Democrats, if they want this to be something more than a one-off fluke, need to offer the AMerican people a broader, populist vision of the American dream being realizable-- a vision of hope, and a forward-looking vision of change for all Americans.... and they need to be sure that vision is something that can include-- no, not just 'include', but can IMPASSION those Americans religious and social views on things like homosexuality and abortion may be quite different from the liberal base of the party.

I live in a vote-by-mail state. I voted two weeks ago.

I guess there are also different things a dancer can do on stage to turn me on and get me interested in pvt later, that are different that things she'd do when approaching me on the floor. A couple of stage tactics dancers can do that always get me interested: -- When I tip her, not just taking the money, but making a show out of taking it. Picking it with her breasts... or her tongue.... or asking me to slip it her bra or g-string (if they're still on). Or something spcial like that. -- Whispering something to me while she's on stage. It could just be a thank you for a tip, or a 'Do you want to buy me a drink later?' or something? But if she leans over next to my ear and whispers something, it creates the feeling of a private moment that makes me want more. -- One thing a dancer did once that really got me excited for a pvt with her later was

I'm following up on my own post here. I should add that what made this gal's approach so effective was not the crotch grab on its own, but her doing that while making a sexy offer. For me, that's something that makes a world of difference-- is when a dancer comes up and says something sexy. Or, even if it's not quite so direct as this girl was.... just plain flirting, with smiling and eye contact can be a major winner.

The crotch grab/stroke, though perhaps a bit blunt-- is effective. I stopped in a new (for me) strip club last week, planning only to have a drink, look around, and get a feel for the place. I was not planning to get any private shows. In fact I was on my way out the door when a lovely blonde walked up to me, smiled, introduced herself, and began stroking Mr. Happy, saying, "I'd love to do a private show for you. We can close the door, no-one can see us, and we can do whatever you want." Needless to say, I didn't leave as quickly as I had planned...

Isn't the Lusty Lady in San Francisco all female-owned?

Wow guys-- these are some great and amusing suggestions. I do notice a trend here in these, though-- the idea that these will work only for so long! Maybe at some point, I'll just need to fess up!

I think 2 years is fine. Having older reviews available as an archive on the site would be cool, but not necessary IMHO. I definitely don't think older reviews should be included in the rating.

On the "Are you married?" question-- yeah, I find that one pretty weird too. I find it even weirder when I say no and they then ask, "Do you have a girlfriend?" My first reaction is always like what-- "Well, thanks for reminding me about that! Are you trying to make me feel guilty and like I'm cheating?" But, I've started wondering if this is actually some sort of marketing info gathering strategy that dancers use to size up the guy-- what he wants, how much he's likely to pay, etc. Maybe married guys and single guys spend differently? Or maybe it's a way for the dancers to figure out that there are specific things they should try and avoid doing( getting lipstick on you, rubbing highly perfumed areas on clothing, etc.)?

One of the more unusual comments was, "All right! An American guy!" If this had been in Russia or something, I would have understood. But it was in Seattle, and as far as I could tell, almost all the guys in the club were American. (Maybe some were secretly Canadian or something...)

George this is an awesome post. Thank you very much for this.