how do i?
icedawg
so about a year ago i was in a club, and had a dance (or 5) from a girl. i was smitten. 'twas awesome. she disappeared (im not that creepy. really) last week, i was in a different club and it took me a while, but i recognized her.
1. do i bring up how i know her from elsewhere?
or
2. start a new?
1. do i bring up how i know her from elsewhere?
or
2. start a new?
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End of answer, now for the story...
The other night while I was waiting for my new project to finish up with a weirdo (should have thanked him for the champagne she brought me afterward, though) I made the mistake for taking a bite on "every dancer has a story". She was a girl I hadn't seen before and I was money she hadn't seen before, and while talking a hole in my head it reminded me why it is the rare, rare dancer who I'll level with about life OTC. I asked what her story was and wished I hadn't, but since she was nursing her drink something fierce I wouldn't get nagged as long as she was there. The tradeoff was getting sized up for more than $$$ ITC (again) before watching two dancers who clearly don't speak attempt awkward smalltalk. Which is why I don't like to be a regular anywhere.
The point, if you can get what you're looking for without going too deep then appreciate that and enjoy.
It's tempting to just let it pass, to "start anew" and not disrupt the flow. However, when I do, I invariably wind up feeling a bit uneasy, having to act and say things as though I'm meeting her for the first time. So, I've learned that it's best to just mention it as no big deal at some point (which it is) and carry on with the usual bullshit and groping, whatever.
(BTW, interesting variation on the scenario in the 'Favorites vs. Luck of the Draw' topic.)
If you wrote you saw the girl at a store or restaurant, some strippers dont like mixing their work with their outside life, so going up and saying too much might not be a good idea, all depends on how well you know her.
Strippers move club to club alot, they actually wish they could take good customers with them.
I also try to never predict what's going on in a dancer's head until it gets down to the hows "how will she deliver? how long? how much?". Every girl is different, even if many of the patterns are the same.
If you didn't speak to her the last time you saw her, the easiest thing to do next time is say "hi". If she saw you and didn't speak, it's either because she didn't recognize you and didn't want to or did and still didn't want to. Either way, you're basically at square one. If she just didn't see you, the suggestion is still the same. Have fun.
to the rest. thanksmuch. imna try and see what transpires. its weird. were both techincally at a club to interact, and theres a sublte cat and mouse aspect to things.
Maybe she'd gotten out of the business and wound up needing to dance again because the economy went South. Maybe somebody kicked her ass at the other club and she had to leave. Or she refused to blow the owner. I've heard all three and many more lately. Maybe she'll feel a better connection because she shared and someone listened, or maybe she'll get all pissy for the night. Who knows?
But, hey, that's what makes good stories.
The second, I also met at my favorite club. She got fired and moved to a different club. She was happier than a pig in shit to see me again. We had a couple of drinks and then went to the couch room. I enjoyed FS there and again at my hotel room the next day.
You just never know!!!
Quick Story: I totally remembered a dancer I got some extras from last time I was in the club. She didn't remember me, and like I said, I never brought it up. Long story short, when I asked about those same extras later on, she quoted me a price that was HALF what I paid last time. I paid it happily, but I was still kicking myself for paying so much the first time.
Other scenario--you buy the drink and she doesn't remember you. You now have a certain guage of her personality and professionalism that you didn't have before. That's valuable. Then, you could mention that you remember her from wherever and that's why you bought her the drink. See how she reacts and then decide if you want make to make further investments.
Unless there is some reason for embarrassment, in my experience, no dancer has ever been adverse to becoming re-acquainted under the circumstances you describe. Most would welcome it.