Odd thing happened to me tonight at the local club. I just got home and am still irritable so am writing about it.
I went to the club three times this week to get dances with my current favorite dancer, a cute blonde in her early 30s. Had a stressful week at work so just felt like going out more. Have spent lots of money on her over several sessions in the past.
Anyway, the first two nights I went were weeknights earlier in the week when the club is a little slower. I got several sets of private dances with her and she was awesome: good conversation, touchy-feely, some cuddling, excellent two-way contact dances. One of the super important intangibles for me was the great conversations we had. We talked about deep things, laughed about other things, etc.
Tonight was different. Now, granted, I did go late. And full disclosure, she was very very tired. She was in rooms basically all night before I got there, and she also has a couple of kids, so she's working til 2 am and then apparently having to get up at 8 am with them. So, a recipe for exhaustion.
I didn't know this, though, before I shelled out a bunch of money for a timed VIP room set.
The bottom line: We get into the room and she dances sluggishly the whole time. OK fine. She's tired. But she's also completely unfocused on me (cracking herself up with corny jokes and having laughing fits); there was another couple across the room (it's a semi private VIP), and the guy with the other dancer was talking a little loud, and she's looking over there straining to listen to what he's saying and laughing at his jokes. Finally, she kept talking about how great she did tonight money-wise with other guys while she's in the VIP room with me.
She's never been like this any other time, and for really the first time ever in a club, I found myself getting actively pissed off, at one point mumbling under my breath, "What the fuck"? She was very close to gaining ATF status for me, and now that's been interrupted for now.
It's not really about the money. It's just the fact that she was really really not trying tonight. I almost felt ignored while I was in VIP.
Anyway, not sure whether I should just give her a mulligan because she was tired (and try her again next time). My current feeling is to not get dances from her anymore, but I might just be having a bad night and maybe I'll feel more mild about the whole thing next time I go.
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last commentYou were paying her for just lapdances? When you “shelled out a bunch of money for VIP”, what did you shell out and was it just on lapdances?
Just stop seeing her. Some non extras dancers get very comfortable when you keep seeing them and get lazier and more complacent.
And some non extras dancers also put more effort into talking and conversation. They have to, to try to keep people coming back.
She can’t really be an Atf if she doesnt provide extras. Maybe shes just the best at that particular club
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Ive noticed some of the non extras dancers and strict non gfe escorts will really start yapping away trying to make all sorts of conversation. I think its a business strategy.
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Based on your description of her behavior, is it safe to say that she might also have consumed a bit too much alcohol by that point? If the answer to that question is 'YES', then I'd say it was probably just an unfortunate combination of her being both fatigued, AND a little bit too buzzed at the same time. And if she was a little too buzzed, that might have made her oblivious to the fact that she was basically giving you a really subpar experience...
Anyway, it's never any fun when a dancer you've looked forward to seeing throws in a complete dud of an effort, so sorry to hear about how your night went.
As for how to proceed next, it would be understandable if you choose to give her another chance, or if you choose not to. If I were in your shoes, my next interaction with her would probably carry a lot of weight in my decision on how to proceed. If she's genuinely apologetic before I can even bring up the subject, and maybe even offers some type of reasonable explanation, then I'd probably give her another chance. If I have to bring it up myself, and she seems oblivious to my concerns on top of that, then I'm likely to never dance with her again. There's no right or wrong answer here, of course. It just depends on how you feel about her, and whether or not she makes things right from your perspective...
Good luck, my friend. Let us know how it turns out if you'd like...
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Thanks for the reply, Chunky. I did a block of a few songs for a total of $60 (this takes place in a room with couches), and then another block in a bit more private area for $100. With a few other things, probably only spent $200 total tonight. I'm just taken aback at the no-effort performance.
Might go in next Tuesday or Wednesday and try one of the other girls that work those days. This is a small club in a smallish town, and usually there are only 3 girls working Tuesday & Wednesday nights (she's one of them). And usually there's very minimal customers there those days. She's had my attention and money for awhile, so a switch to another girl will be noticeable and might very well piss her off. Oh well.
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ClubFan--
She doesnt drink. She gave up drinking at work months ago and this seems to be the truth. She only ever drinks water and has politely declined drinks every time I've offered her one. She specifically mentioned to me tonight that she didn't drink anything, and I believe her. I think it's just she hasn't been getting any sleep. Her actual behavior, however, was the same as someone who is tipsy heading toward drunk. So you can imagine how it went.
I was already thinking about the idea you suggested yourself. I'm going to pay very close attention to the beginning of my next interaction with her. If she apologizes, or is back to her sweet, soft-spoken cuddly self, it'll all be ok. Otherwise....eh...
I'm moving on.
I also think it was probably bad for me to develop an emotional attachment to her that, embarrassingly for me, may have been the beginnings of me falling for her a little bit. I really should know better than this. I've always had the most fun at these clubs when I'm just enjoying the high mileage dances in a sexual way, without trying to project other emotional stuff onto it. We'll see what happens.
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@IronFox22
As you said, it's a whole lot easier if you can keep those pesky emotions at bay! If you can enjoy the experience for what it usually is, rather than what the heart sometimes hopes it might become, then it's easier for you to deal with the sometimes unpredictable nature of these customer/dancer interactions...
I like your plan...see how she behaves the next time you see her, and then go from there!
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