OTC retirement farewell gift
GGmd64
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Monday, August 26, 2024 10:22 PM
I'm sure I am setting myself up for ridicule but I still have the question-
2 years ago after several ITC visits I started seeing a girl OTC. Once the OTC started I stopped going to the clubs, so dropping $500 every couple of months seemed reasonable. Basically I was spending the same money, just with 1 person and in an environment of my choosing.
Over the past 18 months we were comfortable communicating about life, friends, family, dreams. I know her real name and family background and have visited her house. We seemed to connect beyond the $$ and sex despite a 25+ year age and life perspective difference.
After a while I was comfortable advancing $$ prior, if she asked. Or would "tip" her between visits. Last month I advanced $$ a week prior to a scheduled meet. Once that evening rolled around she needed to cancel (babysitter problems) with a promise to make it up on our next visit. Over the past 18 months a couple of visits needed later rescheduling, it was never a big deal.
Well a few weeks ago, she announced she is quitting the club and retiring. She has started a relationship with another girl who wants her to quit the club and P4P. Additionally she asked me for a farewell gift. Apparently in her mind it is a common courtesy, for a long term OTC relationship.
My question is this- is a farewell gift a common courtesy with long arrangements?
2 years ago after several ITC visits I started seeing a girl OTC. Once the OTC started I stopped going to the clubs, so dropping $500 every couple of months seemed reasonable. Basically I was spending the same money, just with 1 person and in an environment of my choosing.
Over the past 18 months we were comfortable communicating about life, friends, family, dreams. I know her real name and family background and have visited her house. We seemed to connect beyond the $$ and sex despite a 25+ year age and life perspective difference.
After a while I was comfortable advancing $$ prior, if she asked. Or would "tip" her between visits. Last month I advanced $$ a week prior to a scheduled meet. Once that evening rolled around she needed to cancel (babysitter problems) with a promise to make it up on our next visit. Over the past 18 months a couple of visits needed later rescheduling, it was never a big deal.
Well a few weeks ago, she announced she is quitting the club and retiring. She has started a relationship with another girl who wants her to quit the club and P4P. Additionally she asked me for a farewell gift. Apparently in her mind it is a common courtesy, for a long term OTC relationship.
My question is this- is a farewell gift a common courtesy with long arrangements?
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Does the farewell gift include one last OTC? I would hope so.
I bet you anything you’ll hear from her again down the road. She’ll miss the money too much.
My advice is to tell her that you’ve already given her a gift but didn’t know how to break the news. Then tell her that syphilis is curable if treated early and she should see her gynecologist soon. And she may want to take her girl friend along with her.
"Apparently in her mind it is a common courtesy, for a long term OTC relationship."
Just like in some girls' minds it's customary to tip 100% after a no-extras VIP.
I actually know a hooker in la who married a girl. But I doubt she'll retire
Maybe her can join to make it special 😏
You basically had an 18 month business agreement with her.
I have no idea what your feelings are for her, I think I would take that in to account but I probably wouldn't pay her for nothing.
She doesn't have to control how much $, or if a gift has to be done. Just listen to your own heart.
She asked you a request. She didn’t lie, cheat, steal from you so don’t harbor any negativity.
Hopefully you didnt lose money paying her for a visit ahead of time that she never rescheduled?
she is soaking you back for you being a cheap fuck - $500 every couple of months.. OMG that is like what I spend in appetizers every month.
To give all that money to one girl on a repeated basis is absurd. Hes not in a relationship with her so it should be a random visit whenever
Also $500 is a high price per meet
At the same time, does it matter what is customary or typical? Do what you want. If you want to give her something to say thanks, do it. If you're offended by the ask, tell her to kick rocks.
As someone else mentioned, don't be surprised if she reaches out in a few months either way. I doubt that giving her a farewell gift or not will change that. Odds are she'll break up with her SO or find herself in need of quick cash and come looking for either a handout or a hookup.
Anyway, if it were me, I'd tell her that I think I've already been fair, including the last "advance" that I gave her for a date that didn't happen. But if she wanted one more chance to earn a going away payment, I'd be happy to oblige.
If you feel like giving her (or anyone) a gift, and you can afford it, why not. But, face it, if you don't give her a gift, the chances her feelings will be hurt are slim to none.
@twentyfive, @TheeOSU, WiseToo, @rickdugan, @hankMoody, @Dolfan and @stainglass- all good thoughts and appreciated.
It will be interesting if I hear from her in the near future; as money runs out, or as her relationship fades.
Since she is an ATF, I may stoke the fire in a few months. Or start looking for ATF#2.
Just kidding, I trust Karma.
I'll chime back in, if/when she contacts me.
But it is okay to be vengeful in the event you were stolen from…
Of course, as youve stated, you dont think its a problem if a dancer or hoe robs a client
Like others said, she'll call you again when the relationship is over and she's broke and doesn't want to work a real job.
Maybe certain positions/acts/etc will be off limits because they are more severe cheating than other acts and positions.
Finally, if the encounter is “cheating” she will simply be more tempted to scam you altogether, which is what it appears this dancer did with that final advance payment she took, as well as her falsely claiming its some sort of courtesy to give a farewell gift. Some may define it as “hustling” but it is also scamming and frauding, to pretend something is a courtesy when it isnt.
To answer your question, no, most of the time hookers who provide bad service do so because they have a controlling pimp boyfriend in the picture. The drug addict ones would actually get more into it and provide better service, possibly even behaving improperly and going bare. Drugs and alcohol create loss of control, so even a pimped hooker may provide good service since she would forget all the pimps restrictions.
Are you autistic or just trolling?