FindMyPhone
Jacks4thson
Seems my SO of several years is insisting I share my location with her on my iPhone since she shares hers with me (which I never asked her to do.)
This will undoubtedly cause me problems with some of the locations I wind up.
Other than leaving my phone somewhere else, any ideas ?
This will undoubtedly cause me problems with some of the locations I wind up.
Other than leaving my phone somewhere else, any ideas ?
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I'd be more inclined to push back and refuse, or acquiesce and either stop going to the strip club or come clean and keep going. If she's insisting, I'm guessing you've already resisted and if she wasn't already suspicious, she is now.
Refuse to activate it.
Leave her.
Not many options here.
Tell your SO of several years to fuck off. You should've set up those boundaries when she offered to share her location with you.
You could drive off a bridge and if your location tracker was on, your SO could help the police locate your car and rescue you.
Or, conversely you could see young naked women.
No brainer! Leave the tracker off !!!
I know lots of companies monitor their employees with tech like this and, as much as I don't like it, I can't find anything morally or legally wrong with it. I just think it sucks. But in a personal relationship? Fuck no.
Sex is the single stupidest reason to be in a relationship and the single stupidest reason to end one.
Two examples in your neck of the woods of restaurants sharing parking areas with clubs:
Boardroom Cafe and Ten's in Salsbury.
I would ask her: "Are you sure this is really important to you? Because this may well be the end for us."
If these are both Nos and you want to go to strip clubs, please dump her.
There's probably a bunch more, those are just the ones that spring to mind. But that's not really why I'm back in this thread. I have actual advice:
Turn on tracking as requested. Go to a strip club. When she asks about it, turn it around on her. "You are aware they have food at a strip club, right?" Then get all indignant and refuse to answer any further questions.
For those that may not get the admittedly obscure reference, that was a response from that Royce White guy who was questioned about spending campaign funds at Gold Rush.
I didn't say it was good advice.
If you think she can't handle it, then...
If you don't live together: leave the phone at home when you club.
If you live together: turn off the phone when you club, either when you leave the house or when you are 1/2 way to the club. Turn it back on when you get 1/2 way back.
...if it looks like you are at home or like there was a glitch that didn't update your location for a while, you are in the realm of plausible deniability.
https://www.iphone-to-pc.com/how-to-spoo…
There are several similar apps for Android phones but they seem less invasive. Like, you can simply spoof your Google location without messing with your Uber connection. Here's one
https://play.google.com/store/apps/detai…
I've said this very thing to people for years. In fact, I could have written most of what you did in your two posts. Except for the practicing law part. 🤣
Almost 40 years of marriage being as open about this stuff as it's possible to be. My wife doesn't usually ask, but when she does, she gets all the details she's asked for.
She used to have an account on here, but she doesn't sign in anymore because she said it was all boring.
I simply cannot imagine having to hide anything from her.
When a woman grabs your balls like this, it means you haven't grabbed your balls enough yourself to make sure they're still there. Chances are you have not beat her pussy into submission enough, but that's just a guess. And I mean really kill that mf'er. Like, put a hurtin on the bitch. Make sure she comes hard, preferably multiple times. You do that to her, and she tells you she wants to know your location, you tell her flat out, hell no. You are not an "on the grid" guy. You need the freedom to at least be by yourself. You tell her that after you've made her come hard, and she'll be ok with it. If she's not ok with that, then you didn't beat the pussy hard enough, and it's probably time to move on. If you negotiate on this, it's like negotiating with a terrorist. You will always be negotiating. Draw the fucking line. Do not be afraid of her, of her leaving you, or any of that shit. Be nonchalant about it. You wanna leave? Ok. I don't want you to, but it's your choice. Be the man, so she doesn't have to be. I'm fucking serious.
That's not a bad way to go. If I ever get the urge to try the domestic thing again I'm going in with my hobby stuff known.
But like others have said, if she is asking you to turn this feature on there may be a trust issue in the relationship. It could be a temporary hiccup or signs of a bigger problem.
Option 2 - buy a second phone on an independent line - leave your phone at your hotel, home or wherever and take your second phone with you.
This will cause you to need to open a second small checking account and Credit Card - use your work address or a P.O. Box as your billing address / turn on e-statements
Then, open up a cash so, Zelle, etc off of that checking account, this way you have other options to pay your “friends with”’ take cash from your primary and deposit it into your second bank account, no online records to your secret checking / credit cards
If she sees the CC on your credit bureau, just call it fraud
This allows you to always have another phone, for Ubers, cash app, organizing OTC, etc. never link the two
You can also use the CC to book trips, buy gifts, etc all under the radar
Then, there is the hope and prey option, turn off Bluetooth and wifi - then turn your phone off before you get to the club, turn it back on when you need an Uber, turn off last know location, and hope she doesn’t look for you while you are in VIP
But you have to turn Bluetooth and wifi off, otherwise even with phone off, you can still be tracked - this option is more dangerous as your have to turn it on to get Uber, but, could add some risk element to the fun in the back, or at the back at the hotel - feels better when 1/2 your shit is on the line, some pussy is worth that, not all…
Good Luck ~~~ Tuscl ~~~ Strip Cheers
(my ex wife.)
Stipulating, of course, that no one is doing secretive naughty things...
If you Google this tech in conjunction with marriage, you'll see that a lot of the questions and articles target guys who think their wives are cheating on them just as much as the reverse scenario. There's also a lot of content on the legality of using this collected GPS data in divorce proceedings.
The reality is that it's getting harder to get away with stuff, particularly in a marriage. There are still some short-term means to get around this sort of digital accountability, but if a spouse wants any sort of habitual extra-marital fun then they should prepare for eventual failure.
It’s really not that difficult to understand.
Reading through all these uppity comments from “Dumb” posters shows me they failed to read your post, which is the wife isn’t demanding anything, she is simply doing what most women do, which is they follow others in the group with their ultra herd mentality. Since her offspring is onboard with the tech feature she believes she should also follow so it may be time to agree with her, but come up with the excuse that your phone died whenever you go into the club for what, an hour or so? Simple solutions for which common sense seems to not apply to those that are “Dumb”!
"Seems my SO of several years is insisting I share my location with her on my iPhone since she shares hers with me (which I never asked her to do.)
This will undoubtedly cause me problems with some of the locations I wind up.
Other than leaving my phone somewhere else, any ideas ?"
If you're the administrator shut off your location sharing in the app on your phone it will show on her phone as "location sharing paused" when it's brought to your attention play dumb turn it back on. After several hours turn it off. Repeat as many times as necessary claiming You have no idea why it's doing that must be a glitch in the app.
If you must reinstall the app and/or pretend to take it in to your provider.
Sorry honey it just doesn't seem to want to work on my phone nothing I can do about it.
I've had life 360 for years able to see her location mine still shows up as "Location sharing Paused"
Worked for me.
Everyone already offered solutions. Mine is just a repeat: buy a second phone. Phone 1 will be the phone you use in your regular life. Phone 2 will be your strip club phone.
Set Life360 or whater findmyphone app to Phone 1. Leave Phone 1 at whatever location your SO thinks you'd be. Get creative and find a new hobby (ie a socially acceptable hobby) like bowling or camping, preferably something that doesn't include a large mass of people.
Please replace "total" with "partial" and "sometimes" with "pretty much always" and let's shake on it.