Do you TRY to get yourself horned up?
Book Guy
I write it like I mean it, but mostly they just want my money.
I ask because I find myself in a conundrum sometimes. It often happens that I'm prepared to go to a strip club. F.e., I scheduled some free time, made sure I didn't have any outstanding appointments and wasn't expecting anybody to contact me or come over, got rid of any dangling extra responsibilities or family connections. I did all this to be free to go out to a club. But then when the time comes, I don't really feel it any more. I'm just feeling, "meh, I'll stay in and order pizza." I know I'm likely to regret the fact, of having failed to avail myself of the limited strip-clubbing opportunity that I would have had, so I often do attend a strip club even though I'm not necessarily feeling desperate to be in a strip club.
Basically I "force" myself to go. This has the obvious disadvantage of requiring some kind of self-management "effort" to bring about the right mood. Looking at porn? Playing obscene video games? Writing TUSCL posts? Whacking off? What's your method? Mine might be, f.e., to get out the old "Super Deep Throat" Adobe-Flash video game. Having a drink or two at the club often helps, too, but I have to get there first.
The "forcing" also has a secondary disadvantage, that I am not particularly keen on being there once I arrive. I notice myself failing to banter adequately, failing to really pay attention to the where-abouts of a stripper who might on another night turn me on. I try a few snappy come-backs but they don't come across as witty sarcasm, but rather they come across as prickly negativity. I notice that I'm being annoying (even more than usual).
What's your method? Lose the opportunity and simply don't go? Or drive up your desire to go in some manner? What is the technique to your manner?
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I have however made bad decisions chasing pussy when I really shouldn’t have.
I go if I'm horny and in a social mood.
If horny but not social, out comes the hand lotion.
If social but not horny, a restaurant or bar is better.
I don't go if I don't feel like it, unless I've agreed to meet someone. Almost anything I can do in a strip club is something I've already done before so taking a night off is just taking a night off.
The correct question is: What does your heart tell you? To go or not to go.... Hear what your heart tells you and do it...
Everybody will have their own reasons, and ideas, based on their history, age, locality, availability, timelines, commitments.... And their reasonings dictate their actions - it doesn't have to dictate yours...
Do what your heart tells you and you will be fine.
Were that as true today as it was 10 years ago, at least for this rick, lmao. 😆
OP, there's no sense going to a strip club if you're not going to enjoy it. That's just a waste of time and money that could be better spent elsewhere. I for one never force myself into a strip club when I don't feel like going.
I totally get this OP. I've been there plenty of times.
My local area sucks for clubs, so I only monger when traveling. And that usually involves some planning ahead, scheduling a flight a day later, clearing off the schedule, etc. Then when the time comes, maybe I'm wiped out from traveling and working and I'm not feeling it.
90% of the time I force myself to go. And 95% of the time that's the right decision. The one sure fire cure for not being horny is to surround myself with gorgeous half naked women in a club, that will snap me right out of the malaise. Point being: usually once I get to the club I'm glad I came.
So the solution IMHO is just to deal with it like dealing with any other worthwhile activity that you might procrastinate on for whatever reason. Focus on the next concrete thing you need to do before you go to the club. Take a shower. Put the club clothes on. Call a Lyft, etc.
Vitamin V helps with this problem too. 😁
Same advice applies if I don't feel like going to the SC because I'm tired, stressed or any other reasons. Like some other commenters, I have very limited time windows when I can get out to the clubs, and those opportunities will evaporate down to nothing with retirement looming. I can't get out to a club when I'd like to much more often than I can but don't want to, but that's no reason to squander time and money chasing what is likely to be a mediocre experience if I'm not in the right frame of mind. And if was ever considering looking at porn to get in the mood to go to a SC, I hope that I would decide to do something else altogether, or do nothing at all.
I'd tweak that a bit to say don't go if you're going to stay in a bad mood. Probably 80% of the experience you get out of a dancer you've just met is determined by your energy not hers. If I can tell I'm probably not going to care enough to put my game face on when it matters then I won't go.
To me it's not a matter of getting horned up. The right girl will solve that instantly. It's about whether I'll be motivated enough to get a dancer who doesn't know me and doesn't have to bring her A game to decides it's worth her time if I spend on her.
Obviously if she's the type who'd jump a tree then just have a pulse and a dollar and you're fine, but we're not talking about them lol.
During fav droughts, then yeah. Because you know your visit to the club will probably at best be mediocre. But, for me, it doesn't help that situation to try and get myself worked up with porn or anything. If there's a dancer I click with, I can get horny in heartbeat. If not, the fact that I came into the club already horny just makes the disappointment worse.
These days I mostly club when I'm traveling. If I'm in a place where I know the clubs are good (e.g. Detroit, South Florida) then I generally don't have a problem getting in the mood to go. I've probably been looking forward to it. OTOH if I'm in a place where the clubs aren't that good then I'll let my mood decide. Just this weekend I decided not to hit the clubs where I was because I wasn't feeling it. No great loss.