"Do You Have a Condom?"
AITM (am I the misogynist) for wondering why I should ever be asked this question at the SC? It happened most recently the other day in an extras club with a dancer with whom I have enjoyed CFS on previous occasions. In her case, she apologized and explained that she had spaced out on transferring condoms from one purse to the other. That's ok. Stuff like that happens.However, it has happened a number of times in the past with other dancers (always on a first meeting) where no such explanation was offered. I've considered that it might just be a gracious way of bowing out of FS, but, on a couple of those occasions the dancers ducked out of VIP and wrassled one up from their coworkers, and off to the races we went. Also, on rare occasions I have been asked the question and actually had one on my person, and the festivities proceeded.
Condoms are a particularly radioactive form of contraband that I can't afford to have inadvertently turn up on my person at home. I'm sure I'm far from the only SC patron in that boat. Unless you can find one of those gas station restroom vending machines (not even sure I'd trust what comes out of those) you've got to buy a 3-pack minimum, and, since the majority of extras-inclined dancers do keep them on hand, that means three (or at least two) condoms that will have to disappear, unused, before I get home. Typically, I'll make a feeble attempt to pay things forward by leaving them on a prominent horizontal surface in a public place where, hopefully some condom-deprived person will see them and snatch them up.
While the condoms protect both of us, I don't think it is sexist to expect the extras-oriented dancer to be equipped with them, since having them on hand should make a difference in their income. When I take my car to the shop, I would be taken aback if the mechanic asked if I had a spanner on me, just as I would if the barber asked if I had scissors.
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In the end, she is there to make money and you are the one spending money. Just like a lot of girls expect you to pay for the motel if you meet otc, a lot of girls expect you to cover the cheap cost of the condom. A three pack of condoms per visit to the club probably doesn't add up to much for you over the course of a year, especially compared to what you spend in the club.
Also, as much as condoms are contraband that can cause you serious grief if found at home, they can also cause the girls grief in the unlikely event of a raid by the local LEOs.
I was in and out of the club in 15 mins wondering what the hell just happened lol
the extra clubs i go to are basically brothels. the moms have boxes of them, so they can always get it from the moms
Also, the only way a LEO could learn that a dancer had a condom in her possession in the course of a raid would be as a result of a bodily search incidental to a lawful arrest. IOW, the LEO would need to have probable cause to arrest her, presumably for prostitution, or soliciting prostitution, which means the gig is up: There was sufficient evidence for an arrest, and conviction, independent of what the dancer had on her person or in her locker (which likely wouldn't be subject to search if the only crime for which there was probable cause related to prostitution). Anyway, in almost all of the clubs where dancers didn't come through with condoms, other dancers at that club have done so on other occasions, as have dancers who came up short on previous occasions.
Now, many of us have encountered dancers who are cagey about working around club rules as far as where they keep condoms and when and how they break them out. For example, they make that suspenseful trip back to the dressing room before heading to the VIP. So, fear of losing the job isn't a plausible motivator for failing to have a condom on hand.
As far as the cost of springing for a 3-pack is concerned, if the entire SC extras industry was oriented around a BYOC regime (which it isn't, IME), or, if a particular extras-friendly club was a BYOC club (which I also haven't experienced), then I'd have no problem stopping by CVS and spending the nominal cost for a 3-pack on each outing. But, that isn't the norm, and it makes no sense to spend the money on the off chance that this is one of those rare occasions that the dancer isn't equipped, only to end up leaving the purchase on top of a kneewall somewhere.
I'm probably only moved to write about it because, in the most recent case, where I've already said the absence of a dancer-provided condom was due to an excusable lapse, the VIP room was equipped with mirrors (which should have had an "Objects in Mirror are Probably Smaller Than They Appear" warning) and I was looking over at the reflection of an unrecognizably large white hard-on being caressed by the dusky hand of the naked woman who was sprawled across me while my hand was buried in her vagina, and I was puzzled about why that pussy wasn't descending on my dick.
I think it's also common that extras clubs want to be in a position to throw the dancers under the bus if problems with LE should arise. Amygdala may dance on stage with two condoms as earrings. But Panspermia may be on the manager's shit list, so she's worried about being seen with condoms. Doesn't want to the dancer that management can tell LE they recently fired for doing extras.
Also this: https://www.hrw.org/report/2012/07/19/se….
If having an appointment with a sex worker and on the drive to her place, she texts and says, "Hey, can you stop and get raincoats?" Being a nice guy and you make the purchase and then show up with the condoms, it can be an entrapment with the intent to have sex for money. Unless you know the lady, you are better off to decline.
More generally, the idea that LEO need "sufficient evidence for a conviction" to make an arrest is, unfortunately, laughable. Police arrest people all the time with nothing real to charge them with, often just letting them go after hours or days in jail with no charges. It's wrong, and abusive as hell, but it happens.
I have no problem understanding why a stripper wouldn't want to have a string of condoms in her purse.
I have said this before here, but I never go to a club without a condom or two, even when visiting a supposed non-extras club because you never know. If a girl says, "Do you have a condom?", there is only one good answer, and it's not, "Gosh, no. I wish I did!"
so whenever that dickhead would be on patrol i would go across the street. if i had 3 rubbers on me i would hide 2 in my shoes and the 3rd i would place on my dick as i would stand between 2 cars while under an overpass railroad.
2 - If a PL wants/expects FS, it's wise to BYOC. Also, then you can use the ones that you prefer, and don't need to wonder if they were subject to tampering.
3 - I'll buy a small pack (generally 3-pack), then discard if not used, prior to getting home. It's a small investment, especiallly compared to the cost of FS, even if not used. $6-$10 is a nominal amount in the overall scheme of things.
Stores such as Wal-Mart and Target link credit cards to login accounts, so even if you don't use the card specifically linked to your Target/Wal-Mart account, if you scanned a barcode during checkout, the system learns which cards are associated with you, and purchases are added to your purchase history, which could cause some issues with SO.
Given the $10 cost, I'm asked if I have one fairly frequently at extras clubs. It is rare that if I don't they don't either, but that's an extra $10 in their pocket if we us mine so they ask. If I leave the house expecting to go to the strip club, I'll usually bring one. If not, I don't. I do agree it's a little annoying if they have to run out and get one while I'm sitting back there with my pants off, watching the clock tick.
I can't relate to the radioactive nature, I'm a single guy so having condoms on hand is just part of life. The closest I can come is that I did have one civi notice a bunch in my drawer and react negatively. But I told her I bought a 12 pack at cause they were like 2 bucks more and I'm a sucker for value. The negativity passed and we used half the pack that weekend and joked about it for a while.
Own your space at home, and keep them there. Nobody, and I mean nobody, should be rummaging through drawers or boxes or anything that's in your personal space, for any reason. Or your phone, or your computer. Fuck that shit.
I bring a couple of condoms, and (you can read all about it in my replies to the LDK article) I often wear one.
Even if a wife isn't spying, she could accidentally stumble upon stashed contraband.