Falling in Love (or lust) with a dancer
Just wondering if any of you PLs have found yourselves falling for a dancer. In the last year, I have found myself infatuated with a 35 y/o Brazilian woman (I'm married and a lot older). I know intellectually that it's her job but somehow I let her get into my head. Any similar experiences and what did you do?
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If this infatuation is headed past your monetary limits then walk away cold turkey. Go pick up one of your older hobbies guns, woodworking, whatever. Dump money into that to help you replace the endorphin rush, and keep at that for a while until things fade.
I will play along and comment on your discussion:
Q: Falling in Love (or lust) with a dancer…
Just wondering if any of you PLs have found yourselves falling for a dancer…
Any similar experiences and what did you do? Any similar experiences and what did you do?
A: Who hasn’t? It is just one of the facts of life in the bizarro world of Strip Clubs.
“High levels of dopamine and a related hormone, norepinephrine, are released during attraction.
These chemicals make us giddy, energetic, and euphoric, even leading to decreased appetite and insomnia – which means you actually can be so “in love” that you can't eat and can't sleep.”
Now that you “have fallen in love” with a Brazilian woman/dancer/stripper YOU have to decide, in advance, if you are interested in her for an OTC “relationship”, as a one night stand, “escort”, sugar baby, girlfriend, future mother of your kids, kept woman, 🏆 trophy wife, dinner date, etc etc etc
In my humble opinion and limited experience OTC with sex (full service) happens maybe 50% of the OTC times, however the ultimate goal of a heterosexual healthy man is to have sex with a female he finds attractive.
Make sure you “pay her for her time and compassion” and everything else (sex) is something that happens because you both like each other and is not being paid for.
What other consenting adults do in the privacy of their OTC encounters should be nobody else business.
Good look and remember
Pics and Vids or it didn’t happen.
:D
Don't catch feelings for dancers. The odds are solidly against you.
I'm not qualified to be the love of any woman's life. I prefer sex with a young, healthy woman who just wants my money, over sex with an older or unhealthy woman with whom I have an emotional bond.
I kinda did with my 1st lap dancer, but then I found tuscl, and read a dozen times that it ain't real. Enjoy the moment, enjoy the memories. But don't do that 😕.
That doesn't mean I have no feelings for my regulars. I went to visit a favorite regular one time and was told when I got there by the other strippers that she had a severe asthma attack and died in the ambulance on the way to the hospital. When I was driving back home, I felt quite miserable and unhappy about it. I treat my regulars kindly, don't ask them to do anything that might get them fired and spend my money on them in the club. I think it is important, though, not to try and jump in and rescue them when they get themselves in trouble. I got in trouble several times when I was young, and it was a good learning experience for me.
Can't imagine anyone feeling that way about a stripper. Think about how rediculous that is.
Nope, never. Not ever. At all. Never happened.
Stripper or not, the problem with healthy love is that people try to get it without giving it. You'll probably get it from your mom, maybe your dad. Beyond that, the odds of it happening get very long.
I fall in love with multiple strippers everytime I enter a club and they fall in love with me. Lol
But, it's short-term and ends when I leave. Then, they find soneone else to love.
Take a few trips, if you have not already. This should help put things in perspective for you.
However, if he is not an experienced traveler, it would advisable to find and go with an experienced wingman.
For OP try this link:
Costaricaticas.com. Pretty sure you can find a reliable wingman there.
Or, maybe someone on this board would be willing to show you the ropes.
You will have a bumpy road ahead of you if don't get out ahead of this. If you've caught feelings, the best approach is to cut all ties with her. Otherwise, you will end up even deeper in the situation, and will be clawing your way out of it for months, and it will become increasingly damaging, both emotionally and financially.
An H-E-B gift card and she'll be putty in your hands dha.
If she's sucking and fucking ITC, then maybe thinking about how many other guys she is servicing in a day will cool your ardor some. Maybe also look for another girl to give you a little ass to help you shake it off.
But I'm also married and in a difficult marriage.
So I try to avoid getting too attached nowadays and I let girls know my situation right away because I have had a few young ones get attached to me and then become very depressed when I don't leave my wife and get a divorce. If I'm lucky, I'll be free from marriage by the time my kids graduate and then I could have a better relationship, but for now I look for the more emotionally mature girls who are able to make a connection and share with me, but understands its just about money or something advantageous for her, and affection, dances, love, kissing ,sex, whatever she is willing to trade comfortably.
I'm not trying to come off as arrogant. Of course most dancers are just there to make money and have a good time as much as they can and aren't going to get attached to me. I'm only referring to the few edge cases of maybe 3 out of hundreds. I always try to find a girl I like, treat her well, and then leave her alone. Most girls want my phone# and try to keep in touch texting with me and I don't mind it. I generally only text them back when they text me, because I don't want to be that annoying guy.
Anyway, good luck, let us know what happens. The odds are slim, but you might have met the one.
really good connection and no expectations for anything more than ITC.
I recently met someone really special in Miami who I could really fall in love with, but again, I can't offer her anything in the way of a real relationship. I can only offer money, advice, my company, conversation, maybe a nice trip somewhere, dinner, backrubs, sex. I wish things were different, but they aren't.