SD/SB culture starting to seep into clubs?
rickdugan
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For starters, young MILFs are finally returning! More of the young Dayjob girls are also becoming more seasoned and converting to F/T dancing. All of this is opening up many new avenues of opportunities. Just as I finally pulled back from a binging phase, temptations keep rearing its ugly head. 😉
The most interesting aspect of these opportunities involves girls who are opening up to what they consider Sugardaddies. Just in the last 2 weeks, two different girls (both hot as hell btw), who have been long time NOs, expressed interest in having a Sugardaddy. One even bemoaned the fact that two of the other girls who she wants to go on a stripper trip with intend to fund it from money they earn from their SD's, but that she doesn't have one.
Hey, if a hot ass girl wants me to call her a "sugarbaby" in order to feel good about going OTC with me, cool beans. I have always used the term "friend" in describing what I was seeking to promising but hesitant prospects, partly to make it feel more like an arrangement rather than just some tawdry sex for money thing. But of course one must shift with the times, especially when changing cultural influences are doing some of the heavy lifting for me. 😁
Man I think I may need to send a thank you letter to SA and maybe one or two other sites for popularizing and, to some degree, normalizing the SB/SD concept.
Anyone else seeing this seep into their clubs more?
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If there are more MILF’s around with hot bodies - looking to cover expenses - that could be a great opportunity for filthy older men - with perverse taste in women…
No, it has not. Not in this way anyway. If it had I wouldn't have raised it as a topic young lady.
What’s the difference between a recurring OTC relationship and a PPM SD/SB relationship? They seem to me to be very similar, with the only distinction being the OTC relationship was established in the club, whereas the SD/SB relationship established on-line. This likely results in a slightly different candidate mix (I believe there are SBs out there who would never consider working as a stripper) but at the end of the day they’re hot girls willing to fuck for money.
I don't mind the long term part, which anyone who's ever read any large number of my older posts should already know. That's what my ATF and I had, and my current is a de facto sugar baby.
I can't even count the number of dancers who claim to have a sugar daddy who doesn't want sex, but are known to have put out in the club, however rarely.
Strippers have always had regulars they string along and sugaring relationships have always been latched on to when they could find them.
It looks like you're too stupid to know what goes on and just focus on the semantics of what the relations are called.
I've had SB's I met in strip clubs before Seeking was just a wild idea in Brandon Wade's hind-brain. We didn't call it sugaring then. We called it "I'm gong to bang that hot stripper in my apartment again to avoid splooging extra VIP fees on the club owners."
The ability to rationalize an action matters, especially to some women. The increasing normalization of sugaring is giving some girls who previously said no to me the fig leaf rationalization they need to say yes. This is a good development. I've almost never heard the word sugardaddy come out of the mouth of a stripper, including any of the countless strippers I've taken OTC out of clubs in 14 states. Hearing it more recently tells me that they are using it as a way to rationalize saying yes. Good times.
LOL GMD. I really do hear you, but tbh I'm not remotely worried about this. Strippers more than anyone else know what guys want when they take them OTC. I have never had a situation, in all that I've done, where a stripper agreed to an OTC outing where the expectations were ambiguous. In about 1 in 10 negotiations the girl will actually confirm what I'm seeking, but in the other 9 out of 10 it doesn't even need to be said.
I was going to post something about sugar daddies being a thing before Seeking Arrangement. And the internet for that matter. But his post covered all that. There's lots of names for sugar babies. We use a lot of them here on TUSCL when we feel like being rude.
At the same time, it also has a lot to do with how (by way of Seeking and other portals) being a "sugar baby" has turned into a profession, or at least a side gig. I've said before that Seeking, etc., has essentially "Uberized" sex work and made it available to women who don't want to fully commit to stripping or escorting. I also think that Seeking simultaneously benefits from and encourages the normalization of sex work. Perhaps what we're seeing is that, as people get gradually more okay with sex work, we're replacing the derogatory language and labels that were created solely to create shame where none need exist at all.
I'm fine with that.
Right. It lets a woman who does not think of herself as a sexworker, both engage in this and continue to not think of herself as a sexworker, while also making a decent amount of extra cash from just one guy who sees her often.. In addition, the fantasy story on tiktok/youtube/etc is that SBs can get thousands of dollars, cars, expensive purses, etc., all in a PLATONIC sugar relationship, where an empowered SB is the one preying on old rich simps. It gives our hypothetical non-sexworker woman aircover with friends -- she'd be stigmatized and outcast in her social group if they thought she was a prostitute, but now if they find out or get suspicious she's got air cover that she's just going on platonic dates with rich old dudes.
These are girls who exhibit none of what I'd consider the traditional escort working as a stripper traits. They seem to be more likely candidates to try a romance hustle than to be straight escorts. Then when OTC comes up, they like "its xxx/hr, how many hours do you want?" What's more, when I back away because I don't like that model, they still wanna sit and be friendly in the club. They'll literally sit with me for 2-3 hours. If I push the issue and try to get them in a room without the chitchat they seem offended and some have literally said "not yet, can we hang for a while first" which is shocking in and of itself, doubly so for a girl who charges like an escort. The economics of it as another story altogether, but I don't want to completely hijack the thread.
So, I guess it is the opposite in that I've seen less of what I'd typically encounter with OTC friends, which much more closely aligns to the Sugar Baby/Daddy model.
Yep, exactly what I've been saying for years. Nearly all strippers have profiles, many of those profiles are inactive, but it leads seamlessly to a conversation abouto OTC or exploring sugar today. And yes, many strippers actively want an SD even if they don't want to put in the work, so many react very positively
Anyway, glad to hear someone else is seeing the same thing!
Let's get the ego saving out of the way first. Yes, some dancers want to hang with you because they prefer your company to some other wallet's. Other dancers want to tie you up so it's less likely you'll meet another girl you like. If they know you're a potential source of dollars outside the club this increases their interest, because they can cash in on you OTC and make other people's money on shift because you're taken care of. Example, a dancer sees you on the way to work, gets your money, and starts the day ahead. Even better, you got your nut already so are less likely to wander into a club and meet a girl you like better. Everybody wins.
Internet platforms didn't create this. They just offered a platform for it.
Also keep in mind that the persona they portray to their tricks isn't who they really are. These girls are seasoned and know what they're doing.
Acting like they're not into it and trying to make the trick feel special is a strategy that works on older white men. Just like acting shocked at what other girls do.
But in my previous experience, the girls who were working as strippers to find clients as an escort didn't generally do that sort of stuff or at least did it infrequently. A girl who wanted or even was willing to sit and hang out for hours on end with no guarantee of a return ITC didn't turn around and have a by-the-hour charge model OTC. They'd essentially do the same thing OTC as they did ITC. There were other indicators too, more subtle ones that I'm too lazy to write out explanations of. What I'm noticing now is that correlation no longer holds, more and more girls seem to want to bill by the hour. I'm inferring from that cost model they are less inhibited from related hang ups with that and there wanting us to be friends or sugar baby/daddy to justify it, which runs contrary to Rick's observations, and it seems many of the other commenters in the thread.
I don't know why my experience isn't in line. Maybe it's a fluke and not indicative of any trend. Maybe I've lost my touch and I'm just doing a shitty job weeding out the escorts in stripper shoes. Maybe there's a different dynamic in my area, possibly area we're further along the normalization chain, past the normalization of SD/SB relationships and and we're moving into the normalization of sex work without any veil or air cover as Subra calls it. Maybe it's a local phenomena related to the immigration status of many of our strippers, or economic conditions, or something else unique to our area.
It's definitely the situation that makes Icee so limited in her thinking. Almost everyone in Vegas is a hustler, a hooker or a tourist. It's just the nature of the place. Yet she thinks that because she lived with a crack ho stripper for a while and got to know a few other local dancers and maybe a few club staffers that she understands how these things operate everywhere. She doesn't get that Vegas is the aberration, not the norm. Most clubs elsewhere don't operate like the Vegas clubs do and dancers elsewhere don't necessarily operate the same way either.
We all have our different perspectives, which is what makes this place so interesting. :)
Shame on you.
I was thinking that there is nothing shocking today about a retired dancer doing some SB or OTC work. I can imagine the cash flow differential between the club and a straight job is significant, and if she's meeting the same guy she got along well with ITC for OTC, it's probably not much of a stretch emotionally. Plus, it seems like everyone is doing it anyway.
We shall see!
Would you really? So you wouldn't mind if the girls in the DR were trash talking about you behind your back? Or telling their worst customers how much of a whore you are? Maybe you wouldn't care if guys thought it was OK to stick three fingers up your ass in the LD room or just try to "slip it in" because, after all, you are a whore. How about when one of the other bitches tells your BF that you'll fuck anything with a heartbeat and a wallet? Or when management at your non-extras club tells the LD monitor to keep a careful eye on you?
You and your PTSD Sister-in-Arms Icee keep saying the same shit over and over and I get it. But there are a multitude of reasons why a girl doesn't want to gain a rep for being an indiscriminate whore. Not every place is like Vegas or Miami or Detroit. In many places getting that label has negative consequences.
Girls are open about what they do.
You just fall for the act they play on you to make you think you're special and not just another trick 🤡
Also time and again you pull my family into the discussion when you know nothing about my home situation. You're an angry child and you're out of line. Your personal baggage and overall emotional anger do not justify abhorrent behavior like pulling children into adult discussions. Shame on you.
And ironically she says other TUSCLers are pretending that they're not paying a hooker for prostitution. 🤭🤡😂😂😂
^ First question:no. I have had bitches talk shit about me a # of times, and like you can't possibly begin to give a fuck about all of the bullshit. I couldn't care less what bitches say, but if they wanna get violent they might make the cold-blooded psycho come back out behind my sedating meds. I've never had a dude try and finger my ass or pussy. Or maybe they try and I am too good at blocking idk? lol. Most guys can sorta sense not to try a whole lot with me or if I make them not do something I think they can tell I will get violent instantly if they disobey idk. I just have that effect I guess :) Dudes don't try 1/4 the shit with me they do with other girls, idk why rly but ye! I don't give a fuck if mgmt watches me extra close in privtes, I've already had this happen as well cuz I was outselling jealous bitches. I am not actually doing anything in privates that would ever get anyone fired based on that. Let a girl tell any guy I'm seeing or talking to that I'm a total hoe, I'd laugh.
Idk quite frankly none of that would affect me? Or I've already been thru a lot of that and don't care. Just send them perverts and their money my way, yeah I'm a total hoe/biggest hoe here/ etc which are all lines I've used describing myself to get guys to go in the back. Like I have word vomit, and don't care too much what I say rly but I will not make Hitler jokes and that's about my only limit.
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Moreover she's obsessed with making this distinction on TUSCL and accusing others of being a trick. She tries so hard to differentiate herself but at the same time she admits to spending a lot of money on them.
It's like she's using TUSCL just to convince herself she's not a trick. It's clearly a coping mechanism.
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And Iceydodo was her supplier/dealer.
LMFAO so of course a junkie is going to tell her dealer anything she wants to hear.
Ok blah, maybe none of that shit would affect you, but IME it's stuff that a lot of other girls worry about, especially in the lower mileage clubs. Of course you're burned out to a crisp and a bit of a psycho, so I suspect that you're long past caring about a lot of things. 😉
What I agree with you on is that when a girl really likes you and is a hoe she won't always tell you right away if at all. Theyll talk about what others do though. And when they talk about work. It's about club drama bitching about management. They hardly ever talk about customers unless it's gross weird or funny.
"you dumb bitch."
"It looks like you're too stupid to know what goes on and just focus on the semantics of what the relations are called."
"Ignorant sick fuck"
^^^Just pointing out the irony in Iceydodo's own words in this thread.
Her ultimate issue is that she lives a lie in her own head. And she can't keep it consistent.
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So you're saying that blacks and Latinas are more likely than white women to be unabashed and indiscriminate whores? FFS. And to think that Icee was just in another thread accusing Muddy of being racist...
FWIW IME this is far from universally the case. Yes there are plenty of brothel clubs that seem to be heavy on Latinas and black girls. But IME those you meet in cleaner clubs are just as likely to follow the rules as any other girl on shift.
Seriously now ladies...
I don't understand, Rick, what the fuck is your problem with whores that are comfortable and proud with themselves? It is like you prey on girls that are reluctant, and then manipulate them/twist their arm a bit to do things they regret. Then you post on here about bitch after bitch crying.
Shouldn't you be ok with whores that are comfortable with what they do considering that you are a PL that seeks out whores?
I don't want any dancer to think she has more of a right to me than any other.
If I wanted to screw one girl until it became routine, I'd get a girlfriend.
Am I? If that's what I wanted, there are plenty of clubs around the country - including a couple locally - where I can find plenty of girls who will gladly fuck and suck ITC. I don't frequent those places because I don't look for chicks who would fuck anyone with a heartbeat and a wallet.
Now I know that there's no real distinction for girls like you and Icee, who are angry and bitter and, I suspect, have some PTSD issues that may even include the need to protect yourselves from guys. To you, a girl from a low mileage club who agrees to OTC with me is the same as one who is servicing five to eight cocks a day in the LD room.
But to me there most definitely is a difference. I'm certainly not foolish enough to believe that I'm the only one ever for any girl, but I have ample reasons to believe that any girl I see OTC is not doing high volume, simply by virtue of the fact that she's not doing the stuff ITC and she otherwise has other home/life obligations. There are only so many hours in the day and only so much energy any one person has. And if a girl like this doesn't want to think of herself as a "whore" or open herself up to any swinging dick with money to spend, then I don't see anything wrong with that.
LMFAO it's just like you are saying about rickdugan and sam_jose_creep. 🤭🤡😂😂😂
@ilbbaicnl they can get into a platonic relationship with a guy that helps them financially- it just won't be these higher amounts like 8k or whatever that some of the hookers talk about. It would involve actually staying in touch with the dude which the SO wouldn't like. Same time if they aren't married to their SO or at least live with him and he pays all the bills then like why would they care about their stupid SO's opinions?
What guys talk about on here aren't even real sugaring relationships. They talk about hookers they see on a regular basis. A real sugar daddy betters her life. He doesn't just pay to fuck
Rick’s ignoring you at this point, he just copy/pastes the same response every time you chime in. You’ve got more ignores than sjg now. Is there a point at which you course correct?
Why would he course correct if this is exactly what he wants?
The Icee character is just a silly young girl who believes that because she's met a few people in a few clubs that she has a handle on how things work with every guy and girl everywhere. So as long as she makes the same 3 or 4 blanket trolling statements, she's going to get the same responses. She's either going to eventually learn how limited her experience set actually is or she isn't. Fine with me either way. 😁
Do you think you could get me some recommendations from Iceefag which taco trucks in South Florida have good tacos.
Please provide one subject matter (be it on or off topic) where Icee weighed in and eventually admitted that he knows less than anyone else here? Just one.
And there might even be one, but I bet you're going to have to really dig around for it.
Point being, the validity of the argument is far less important to Icee than just starting an argument and having that argument be the thing that dominates the thread (all of them...).
Every girl I know with a real sugar daddy benefits a lot. In terms of mentoring elevating her etc.
When I had sugar mommas I had a lot of opportunities opened to me. Met a lot of people I wouldn't.
For example she just made a strawman argument about how TUSCLers talk about sugaring. She has no clue that she made a strawman argument and she's simply too big of a dumbass to know this.
If everyone else is doing it wrong, doesn’t that suggest that you’re the one with the misconception?
Even I, with zero SB experience, am aware that sugaring can range from platonic support for conversation over dinner, to ppm sex. I also know that advice can be thrown in at any level. God knows middle aged men like to give advice. Moreover, it is routinely described by SDs and SBs as just another word for prostitution. So yeah, a SB is a hooker, whore, prostitute, escort, SW, etc. as well as a “baby” that gets “sugar” from a “daddy”. Aka a young woman who gets money from an older man (for sex).
You might like the idea of sugaring as some sort of paternalistic “uplifting” but that doesn’t mean that your definition is the only one.
Now of course you'll tell me that she's just a hooker and I'm a trick and that she does it for anyone, at which point I'll respond that I've been doing this long enough to know the differences between low volume and high volume girls. Then you'll ignore that experience and retort that I'm just a trick who wants to feel special and that I'm deluding myself...rinse, repeat.
Then I'll once again throw up my hands in dealing with a girl who can only think in binary terms and has far less experience than she thinks she does, yet feels that she's positioned to lecture guys who have been doing these things since before she was wearing a training bra (and in some cases before she was born) and say...
Icee, are you educating us again honey? It's always cute when a 20-something year old girl shares her deep wisdom with guys twice her age and with 50 times her experience. Keep up the good work kiddo. 😉
Rick you get played by believing a hooker has only a few tricks and you're special.
Again she wants to convince herself that she doesn't need money (and drugs) to gain the love and affection and sex from a stripper whore. And, even though she literally gives junkie stripper whores a lot of money and drugs and they give her love and sex in exchange, just like she accuses others for being delusional when they do it, she too wants to believe that she's the special one when it comes to relationships with a junkie stripper whore. For whatever reason, her money and drugs is different than everyone else's. And desperate junkie stripper whores want her for totally different reasons than they want other tricks.
And on sugaring is where she's trapped. So what does she do? Rather than admit she pays junkie stripper whores for the SB experience and is thus a trick just like everyone else, she's now trying to change the narrative of sugaring and state that it's totally different than a trick-hooker relationship. Now she wants to believe that sugaring isn't about the sex anymore. Rather it's now about "bettering the life" of the sugar baby. It has nothing to do with paying for sex anymore.
Such is the life of Iceydodo. When you live a lie on top of a lie on top of more lies, it eventually catches up to you and you get caught up into it. 🤭🤡😂😂😂
You're tilting at windmills.
LMFAO again her money and drugs are "different" when it comes to paying desperate junkie stripper whores. 🤭🤡😂😂😂
What is the going rate?
There's really too many variables. But, I'd start by looking at the rates for escorts in your area and expect to pay somewhat more than that if you're looking to just meet a girl and have sex. Others here have more experience than me, but it's sort of like asking "How much are extras?" It's a pretty broad question.
Also, what site should I go to to generally find escort rates and maybe even consider one?
Nope.
"...like how much are we talking approximately for an 'allowance.'"
Whatever she decides she's worth. Or whatever she can get you to pay. Or something in between.
"Do hotter girls expect like 1K per week for allowance or less/more?"
Probably less but sometimes more. Depends on the region and the girl.
"Also, what site should I go to to generally find escort rates and maybe even consider one?"
Eros.com. TER (The Erotic Review). Or search for escort agencies in your region. Google is your friend.