what to do when seeing a regular at a club but want to try another dancer?
GrayFox
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New dancer at club and would like to get dances from her but current dancer got upset when i did get a dance before when she was busy on the stage.
Do you get a dance from the new dancer and see what happens and might lose the regular one or stay with the current one you have a good time with?
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remind her that you will only continue getting dances if you enjoy them. You won't enjoy her dances if she is nagging you or starting a fight. If she wants to continue getting your money, you need to continue enjoying her dances.
If she was being cool, say “I want to see you, but I’d like to get some dances from other girls first tonight”, but she’s not.
New dancer is doing her job, get some more dances if you like.
They’re remarkably perceptive, if you are clear that you aren’t putting up with her bs, she will know.
I'm a big favorite stripper kinda guy, so this is certainly something I deal with pretty regularly. But I do periodically like a little variety. When it happens to me, I don't make it into more than it needs to be. I'll tell her I want dances with someone else. I try to be clear about it being a "right now" or "this time" or "today" kinda thing if that's what it is. Most of the time they'll just be like "okay, I'll see you later" Occasionally they'll be some fake pouting or whatever when I say it. But it's exceedingly rare that the original dancer won't be more than happy to dance for me the next time I'm there. Or 10 minutes after I'm done "cheating on her" with another stripper. It's certainly possible the original girl will lower her service or whatever, but I've not really noticed it much. Its equally likely she'll go the extra mile to win you back so to speak. Realistically, it almost never has any impact beyond the 30 seconds it takes to tell her. It's just not that big of a deal, don't make it one.
Like shadow suggested, you can have a little fun with it. I once sang a little bit of that Megan the stallion song. "I'm a slut guy, guy, I do slut shit. Spend my income, on a lap dance." or I've gone the other way and pretended to break up with them, complete with the whole "It's not you, it's me. I'll always cherish the time we spent with your tits in my face. I hope we can still be friends" kinda shit. It's easy to miss the mark and come off like a jackass if you try to have fun with it though, so be careful if you go that route.
After I've seen the same dancer two or three times, I'll set expectations up front that I'm not her "territory" and that on some nights I might want to spend time with other dancers. It can help cut off some of the drama ahead of time.
Her negotiating position is extreme. The fact that you didn't immediately reject it means there's a good chance that being her customer is a bad, self-destructive habit for you. Like drinking too much. Best to cut such habits off sooner rather than later.
I will play along and comment on your discussion.
Q: what to do when seeing a regular at a club but want to try another dancer?
Do you get a dance from the new dancer and see what happens and might lose the regular one or stay with the current one you have a good time with?
A: What has worked for me, In order to have access to both is to ask the new dancer if she would be interested in OTC, (if you want we can meet outside so you don’t have to share with the club and we both can have a better deal.) make sure the new dancer knows that you want to “discreet and anonymous”
If you can afford it you will have access to both. With little to no drama as long as the new dancer and you are discreet.
If the old dancer becomes suspicious or asks you questions you should respond “a gentleman never tells, I will never tell anyone anything about you”.
Just remember: “Don’t Buy Things You Can’t Afford”
I'll just add that, while a lot of girls come around in these situations, some don't. So be it - you have to let her walk. Don't let fear of conflict or of "losing her" get in the way. The alternative is having one favorite dictating your club experiences for some indefinite period of time, which is just not acceptable, at least for most guys.
I have a lot of regulars. I'll always pick my regular. When I come into the club, they usually head straight for me with a smile on their face when they see me. If I started saying "not today but maybe some other time" that might no longer happen. The exception is when it is obvious my regular didn't show up for some reason. I'll sometimes pick another girl. This can turn into a problem, though, when I go back because I may have two girls heading for my table at the same time. Usually, if I want variety I visit on a different shift or go to a different strip club. The only problem with doing lap dances in different clubs is if I have regulars in three or four clubs and they all move to the same club. That's happened a couple times.
My advice is to discretely ask the girl you are interested in when your regular girl isn't around what days she dances. The two girls rarely dance on the same day. If you know the days your girls dance you can see the new girl when your girl isn't there. 9 times out of 10 this new girl will fail to meet your expectations and you can tell your old girl that you had a sudden urge to visit if she learns of it.
A bit more work than growing a pair of balls, but even at clubs women are women. They remember everything, hold grudges, get catty with other dances. As Doc said I have tried to play the field and found a drop in service with my regular or being hounded by the new girl I didnt click with
Partiers: act rando in the club, may hustle a little when they get an eviction notice or run out of weed.
Haters: prefer self-hating PLs, whose comfort zone is being shit on. $ is a secondary priority for them. They'd beat out the Whale Hunters if they actually made the $ they brag about making.
Whale-hunters: They're conventionally pretty, work out, spend on cosmetics and clothes, hair, botox and plastic surgery. Wealthy men like these women for the same reasons they like Audis better than Toyotas.
Career Strippers: plan to move on to a different career sooner or later. Stripping is what they do for work, not who they are. But, when they work a shift, they wan't to get every dollar they can.
The OP's fav is maybe a Whale-hunter, but probably a Hater.
I stick with the Career Strippers. In general, in the places where I club, as long as I spend at least $100 on them when we're both in the Club, they'll consider it worth it to prioritize me. But even a non-Whale-Hunter may have a whale or two. If he shows up at the club, just your bad luck. That's when your glad if you have more than one fav.
Dolfan, customers get butthurt if a dancer gives other guys dances? Thats laughable. Are they unaware of what the dancers job is? Or if they want that loyalty from a dancer, are they willing to pay her the 4k+ per month she makes from the job?
It's not unreasonable to expect a dancer to try to convince a customer to spend exclusively on them. It's up to the customer to set expectations, either sooner (which is better) or later. And if the dancer reacts badly or insists on exclusivity, then it's up to the customer to either go with it or find a new favorite dancer.