Decreasing money spent on the hoby

I'm at the point where no matter what happens, it's just not as fun as it used to be. Not a money thing, just feels like a waste of money about half the time now. Last summer I went about 25 times in August and September. This years its been 6 times as we approach 1/3 of the way through September. Covid has taken away the joy aspect of this hobby.

Hey desertscrub, kill yourself. No one will miss you.

If you're spending a lot on booze, then lower that spending. If you're able to park without a valet service, then do that. Basically, look at lowering all costs not related to paying dancers.

If you want to cut back on what you spend on dancers, then you need to figure that out on your own. That ties directly into how you have fun and it's very subjective.

When it comes to a mongering "budget", I'm a lot like the US Government. I just raise the debt ceiling when I go over that amount.

This happens to many PL’s sometimes. The feeling of spending more for less enjoyment.

I would recommend taking a little break - and then giving the hobby another try.

If that doesn’t help, then I’d recommend taking a longer break.

Sometimes you just hit a spot where it’s not as much fun as it was.

If it feels like you're building a tolerance, take a break.

Just because you post here doesn't mean you're obligated to spend a certain amount a month on strip clubs.

It's cyclical for me. I find a good dancer or a few of them I like, and I enjoy things more and spend less by focusing on that dancer. Those relationships start out mutually beneficial but tend go sour after a while, for any of a myriad of reasons. At that point I have to find another, the costs of finding that dancer can be significant in terms of time and money, with a number of trips to the club where I spend a lot and get a little. When things aren't going well in the clubs for the girls, it tends to exaggerate things either way. If its a good time, it'll get even better, but if its bad it'll get worse.

I do tend to take breaks from strippers from time to time, so there may be some value in that advice too.

Try going less. Avoid going to the club just out of habit and wait until you really miss it. Maybe develop other hobbies to keep yourself busy at night.

I was really on a roll before Covid hit. Yeah, I was probably spending a little more in the last couple of years than I had prior to that, mostly because I had more time on my hands than I used to, but I was having lots of fun on a regular basis. Then the lock-downs hit so everyone went on an involuntary hiatus for, what, almost a year?

I don't even remember how long everything was totally shut down, but what I do remember is how crappy everything was during the long gradual period of reopening with all the insane restrictions. I was so excited to start getting back to the clubs that I went as often as I could, regardless of having to sit outside, wear masks, and whatever other stupid bullshit was going on. Didn't last long. It sucked so bad that I went back on a self-imposed strip club holiday.

Then once I became aware that things were mostly back to normal, I tried again a bunch of times, but honestly it was never the same. Many girls that were regulars to me had left the business. The ones I found were of lower quality and demanded higher fees/tips. Yeah, not really so much about the money, it's more just the lack of fun, but I cut way back on the frequency of clubbing. Finally, I took another maybe 8-month break. A couple weekends ago I hit up four clubs. If you read my two most recent reviews you'll see they weren't great visits, and the other two I couldn't even write a review for because they were so uneventful.

I suppose the worst thing for me is the one club I was visiting almost exclusively prior to Covid never opened back up. I'm afraid that place was the last of what is now a by-gone era. Anyway, I can't imagine a life where I'll never club at all, but what was once a twice a week habit has definitely become more of a once-in-a-while test the waters type of thing.

Only spend $300-$400 maximum per each dancer, if its dances with no extras. If they dont offer otc or do extras, stop seeing them.

Only spend $300-$500 maximum for each otc encounter. $500 should be someone pretty extraordinary. Limit otc to once a month maximum with the same dancer.

Limit all escort and strip club and sugaring spending to $1000 a month total.

Living near Baltimore it is really easy to NOT spend any money in strip clubs. So I save up and make 3-4 trips per year to South Florida, maybe Dallas, maybe PHX. Then I have a pretty good budget to spread out over 2-4 days. I manage to meet at least 1-2 awesome ladies each trip and they help me make some awesome memories. So good that I forget all the lame clubs and lame dancers I meet during the same trip. Currently planning my next trip south probably in October. 4 days of golf and strippers. What a vacation!

I think many of the vets on here feel that if they enjoyed their time in the clubs then it was money *spent* vs money *wasted* - if one is gonna be in this hobby and one wants to enjoy it, one will usually have to *spend* money to have a good/better time – I think many of us, particularly early-on in our PL-career, felt we *wasted* money on subpar SC experiences – but with time/experience/TUSCL, many of the vets figure-out how to get decent-to-good bang-for-the-buck to where they don’t feel they are wasting their $$$ - if one’s visits start feeling “meh” and/or one questions why they’re going to clubs vs enjoying them, then it may start being a waste of $$$ vs an expenditure – if you’re enjoying your time in the club, then you are not necessarily wasting your $$$ - but if you leave the club feeling like it was a waste of time and $$$, then one may need to reconsider their SCing and if it's worth the expense and if that $$$ could be better used for something else.

Monogamy!

OR

My Organization, where the women are always very well taken care of and all of them are yours.

SJG

I’ve been going less because the experience is less enjoyable, at least for what I like. The clubs haven’t recovered from CoVid. I prefer the coed, girl next door types and I prefer seeing the faves I’d seen for years. Most never returned and they’ve been replaced by Cubans with more curves than I prefer.

So, I’ve been spending less, not for financial reasons but because of the quality of service available.

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Yep, here's the creep reigning over his organization.
BTW, his name is leonardo not lloyd.

https://blogs.ancestry.com/cm/leonardo-t…

Yeah I feel like I pretty much took this year off from strip clubbing. Maybe next year I'll get back in the game.

^ Took off from clubs? I was going to count up all your reviews you have done in 2022 but gave up after I reached 82 😅

Although I am relatively new to clubbing, I myself have been about 10 times this year and feel as if I am not getting that wow factor anymore. Luckily football season has started and I have recently picked up some after-work hobbies including playing bass and working out. It keeps my mind off one wanting to make random trips to my only SC here to see the same girls I've seen before.

I spend less going the same amount of times or more. Even with crazy cover charges. Girls making less are used to less. I'm vegas snd la. I used to spend between $600 and $1500 a visit. Now its like $300 to $500 for the same shit

^ cool story bro
LULZ

"When I first started I feel I had a much lower budget and had more fun. Any thoughts?"

I'd say starting out with lower spending is where most of us were at who clubbed at a young age. This site gets a bad rep because guys here are trying to get the most bang for their buck, but what does that turn into when guys who got everything they were looking for on small dollars increase their spending?

Wallanon this site is mainly men looking for cheap hookers. That in and of itself wouldn't be that bad. The bad reputation comes from the disgusting talk about bartering with hookera. Seeking out the most desperate ones around rent time and holidays. The general misogyny.

Supporting higher prices everywhere but strip clubs and hookera.

It's gets old pretty quick.

I think spending is going down overall. Girls aren't making as much coz men have less disposable income. It's trickle down economics.

So I googled this. Apparently the proper spelling of hookera is heuchera.

Icee what did you spend $600 to $1500 on?
So you spent $1500 on non extras lapdances? Or stage tips? What did you get out of it?

TLDR, but in case nobody said it, less is more.

i’ve cut way back. i’ve been clubbing now for 10 years and I was crazy spending in the wrong places early on. it was lots of fun… but I can’t keep up that level of spending. and the inflation… and many of the girls haven’t come back... so I’m going to the clubs a whole lot less than what I was and looking for more quality and bang for the buck.

I found a way to cut back by only seeing a specific dancer, going to do this until I get bored. It’s easier to hit someone up and meet them at work then you don’t have to spend money or time on other dancers.

I'm lucky to have a pretty sizable nest egg, so I'm not trying to save any more. A (small) problem I have is I get attached to favs, and they get somewhat dependent on me. Currently I've got two favs who'd be in some $ troubles without me. Then there's my favest fav, who doesn't have much time for me. Which isn't all bad, since it keeps me from having to dip into savings to stay naughty with all three of them.

Pretty much everything gets less fun as you get more and more geezery. And there are times when you cross through a fav desert, where all your favs are kinda meh. But, even with the ups and downs, there's just nothing else I could enjoy more with the $.