Why I never worry about ROBs
rickdugan
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Why do I feel this way? Simple. Because I am so naturally in control of my own space and experiences.
There is one commonality to pretty much every ROB story - it required the guy to willingly cough up the money. Sure maybe she pressured him, or made promises that she didn't keep, or she overcounted, or led him on, etc., but in the end, he lost the money because he made the choice to actively handed it over to her.
Now one might throw a pickpocket into the mix as an example of a ROB who doesn't need active customer acquiescence, but how often does that truly happen? In the easily 1,000+ nights I've spent in strip clubs over two decades, I've encountered this a grand total of once. I don't think it's terribly common for any number of reasons.
Maybe it comes so easy for me since I'm long past the point of being fazed by dramatic noises from females, IDK. I'm nice to everyone until it's time not to be, but I'm not afraid of conflict, including negative reactions to rejection. IMHO any guy who is intimidated by, or resentful of, girls in their underwear (thanks to 25 for the gift that keeps on giving with that phrase) should seek another source of entertainment.
Now this all may sound a bit self-congratulatory and maybe it is, but the takeaway from this is simple: Be in control of yourself and you never have to worry about ROBs. This obviously includes things like not handing over large sums of money upfront, but perhaps even more important is the emotional self-control necessary to use sound judgment and calmly weather manufactured female drama.
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Mine, of course.
A woman at a club a couple months ago offered myle a blow job for $500 OTC. I laughed. She said "What's wrong you are too poor to afford the best blow job of your life?". ROBs will often think you are a sucker and overcharge or assault your manhood by challenging the size of your wallet.
The going rate for OTC here is $200. She was a decent looking MILF.
I told her "No I can pay you $500/month. But I want full sex for a couple hours twice per month.". She laughed. Later that night she came back and accepted. Then I took control and told her exactly what I wanted in the first session to make her my regular.
What I learned long ago is that to smoke out a ROB you have to end the negotiation on your terms with you in control. And if she is a bad fuck or does something other than promised on the first date she's not getting a second
What I do avoid is becoming some girl's big payday unless I'm happy with how things went. This is a function of everything I posted above, most notably self control. For example, knowing when to walk away instead of throwing good money after bad can be tough for some, but as many of us know it's critical in keeping small losses from becoming big ones.
Another truth in your comments is that we all pay some tuition. I'll readily admit that I did, champagne bottles and credit cards included. Thankfully my education ramped up quickly enough that I didn't do too much damage.
i do feel a responsiblity to pay the expensive acquired wisdom forward to cut the learning curve for all unsuspecting baby-pls.
YES. So much this.
I'm not sure that this is representative of what most people are dealing with here on this nationwide board. A more customary example is a place with some minimum timed amount for $150-250 or so plus a negotiated tip. In that situation, IMHO the answer is to shop as carefully as you can, but be willing to walk if it's not going well. It sucks to have a misfire and lose the room fee, but it also sucks for her as she's usually only getting a small % of the cut on the fee itself. If, however you paid her the full tip upfront because she insisted on it, then that's on you as much as her.
Most experienced SCers have gotten burned at some point and usually take steps to mitigate that from happening in the future – but at the end of the day part of the SC model is based on the “honor system” for lack of a better word; i.e. based on the custy getting what he paid for or the dancer getting paid for what she provided.
One can mitigate getting ripped-off but not eliminate it 100% - there are times where one has to eat a room-fee etc – and their at times one will be in a position where it’s a “he-said she-said” and depending on the club one either has to pay the ROB or just have to leave the club and potentially never return (often times the club/staff is not purview to what was agreed-to/not-agreed-to and it can be a crapshoot whether the club takes her side or stays neutral).
IMO it’s a bit disingenuous to state one doesn’t worry about ROBs if one rarely does ITC things like VIP or get dances – if one avoids these things then of course very-little to worry-about – but if one routinely partakes in ITC VIPs and/or dances, then it can be an issue especially in certain types of clubs.
SCing while worrying about getting ROBed of course can take away from the fun – but in certain clubs the ROB-factor is def warranted especially if one partakes in a lot of ITC activity – at the very-least one needs to be aware of the potential and adjust accordingly based on the type of club one is hitting and the type/level of “ITCing” one is partaking in.
Most on here just talk about buyers remorse and their own lack of common sense coupled with social retardation.
Personally I have never brought any girl through a preliminary makeout session and not had her totally crazy for my cock.
SJG
This is almost exactly the case with PT's here in Louisville. Yes, there are some guys who "get their money's worth" (except that it costs insane money, so not really "worth" it at all) in VIP there, but the vast majority of girls will take your $1,500 per hour fee, and delay, excuse, delay, excuse, delay, excuse, delay, excuse until time is up.
If you promise someone a service for money and take the money but don’t deliver the service, that’s scamming And fraud. Robs only get away with it cause prostitution is illegal so customers cant take legal action or any action against a lapdance scammer.
Actually its likely that robs can even get away with something like telling you you can touch their ass ir boobs, and then not let you do it once you pay.
This is all considered scam, fraud, something people with no morals do.
An honest john and honest hooker are superior to a scammer. It doesnt matter who’s more desperate, needs more money etc.
SJG