Difficulties adjusting to new clubs after a move
Jimmybigtits
Western PA
So, I'm struggling a bit and have been reluctant to post about it actually.
So I recently moved from a city plentiful in quality ass for both ITC and OTC fun. I like creative, smart, a bit older dancers. I just vibe with them. I do well with women in the club and civvies but not looking for the civvie thing right now.
I'm semi retired and can probably afford 3 OTC dates per month just to give you some sense of finances.
But I've moved to a more rural area and the women are very different. I've been to the clubs and OTC and even ITC fun isn't hard to find. But I've been spoiled with higher quality women where I used to be a PL. Here I find poorer women, some cute, but little depth. I just get turned on by women with more depth and more interesting inner lives and I definitely found that in bigger cities even when I traveled.
The clubs here are all dives. That's ok but I'm just telling you so you get a sense of the dancers here.
I think I need to reorient my expectations.
I know this is a silly post but a serious one. It's actually a little depressing
Has anyone gone through this? What did you do? Any advice?
I assume the only answers are either to keep looking or learn to enjoy busting a load in a whisky tango stripper who makes more dollars than teeth on only half the nights she works, and just adapt and overcome.
So I recently moved from a city plentiful in quality ass for both ITC and OTC fun. I like creative, smart, a bit older dancers. I just vibe with them. I do well with women in the club and civvies but not looking for the civvie thing right now.
I'm semi retired and can probably afford 3 OTC dates per month just to give you some sense of finances.
But I've moved to a more rural area and the women are very different. I've been to the clubs and OTC and even ITC fun isn't hard to find. But I've been spoiled with higher quality women where I used to be a PL. Here I find poorer women, some cute, but little depth. I just get turned on by women with more depth and more interesting inner lives and I definitely found that in bigger cities even when I traveled.
The clubs here are all dives. That's ok but I'm just telling you so you get a sense of the dancers here.
I think I need to reorient my expectations.
I know this is a silly post but a serious one. It's actually a little depressing
Has anyone gone through this? What did you do? Any advice?
I assume the only answers are either to keep looking or learn to enjoy busting a load in a whisky tango stripper who makes more dollars than teeth on only half the nights she works, and just adapt and overcome.
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You may also try Seeking.com although that is an a different kimda game requiring different kinda skills.
Seeking is a bust here also
Some distance might actually work out for you dine it lends itself to overnight stays.
Good luck and keep us posted.
I think I need to just learn to enjoy something different like the singular joy of fucking an avg looking stripper in her trailer for $100 who is likely willing to do about anything judging from my most recent conversations ITC. What I lose in classic sexiness i make up in her utter willingness to do contribute to my utter and complete moral decline lol
I recall early-on after joining TUSCL and clubbing hard during that time, that I created a thread where I asked folks if SCs were a consideration when choosing where to retire – I was in my early-40s then but had only lived in Miami and Dallas both cities having good SC scenes.
At the time I couldn’t phantom living in an area with poor or a-bad SC scene – when I created that thread I assumed most TUSCLers would reply that “yeah they would like to retire in an area w/ a good SC scene” but to my surprise (at the time) most said it was not a consideration when choosing where to retire.
Below is the old thread I’m referring to – it was actually from 2014 but I thought it was older:
https://tuscl.net/discussion.php?id=2903…
I've slowed down too despite the current spike in activity. As I travel more I will probably become of of you traveling PL types. But a fella needs to bust a nut locally once a week without getting a marriage proposal so civvies are problematic
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comme…
I was surprised that the experience of guys there was similar to my OTC with lower income white dancers generally.
Ok I won't go too far off topic anymore lol
"... My first girlfriend ever was pretty white trash. I was 14, and she was 21. She had three nipples ..."
Sounds about right LOL
https://images.app.goo.gl/WV1cWQoHiDfy7j…
Again, not meaning this harshly but food for thought.
And I grew up white trash so please guys take my humor with a grain of salt lol.
I don't mind rural women I've just been spoiled with more options elsewhere
Approximately how long have you been living in the new area? I think for many people it takes at least a year to "kinda" get used to a new area/place; and they become more accustomed by year 2 and 3.
in the meantime it only takes one or two cool dancer interactions to have a decent time.
uh, weed helps.
absence makes the hard-on grow fonder?
sorry, that's all i've got. lulz.
Then a miracle happened by the name of Follies. It is gone now to be it's legacy can still be found in metro Atlanta if you take the time to look for it. Covid put a damper on things for awhile but I am back in a better than ever situation now.
For 10 straight weeks now I have a cute dancer 50 years younger than me driving 50-60 minutes to my house once a week. She spends the afternoon with me including going out to lunch. It's impossible to get better sex ITC at any price and she is not messing up my finances.
SO just Hang in there. Things are always changing.
I do appreciate all the comments. I think I just need to adjust expectations. There are some advantages to having money here since it's a poor area. And I'm decent looking and funny so I get lots of positive vibes. So what I lose in beauty queen I will probably make up for in quality experience and having the pick of the litter.
It's mainly single moms I'd say a 6 out of 10 on the scale. Hell the vast majority of them make out A LOT with you so I guess it can't be all bad.
Thanks for the support fellas
You wrote and I quote:
“ For 10 straight weeks now I have a cute dancer 50 years younger than me driving 50-60 minutes to my house once a week. She spends the afternoon with me including going out to lunch. It's impossible to get better sex ITC at any price and she is not messing up my finances.”
Pics and Vids or it didn’t happen.
:D
Good Times, Good Times.
Then I got to the Jacksonville club scene and it was almost 100% "country" in its vibe and dancer mix. I guess it didn't bother me as much as I enjoy attractive women of all varieties, but I did miss some of the flavors that I used to enjoy. My northeast accent seems to play well with some of the girls down here, which doesn't hurt.
But, like Shadow said, times change. Jacksonville has grown significantly in the last decade, with lots of finance and tech companies expanding operations here. With that growth came more money and, not surprisingly, a wider variety of dancers. The herd always follows the money. The pandemic also brought a lot of girls into town from the shutdown states and some of them never left when their home clubs opened back up.
But with all of that said, I doubt that rural PA is going to be experiencing the renaissance that certain southern cities are enjoying with large population and job inflows. In fact, in another 10 years you might not even have those clubs. PA has been losing population to warmer lower tax states and affluent people are overwhelmingly the ones moving. If I were you and I wanted to keep what I had, I'd be out there gratefully supporting the clubs I do have as much as possible.
I don't even bother with local clubs and make a trip to Florida or Phoenix at least once a month on average. I'm lucky that work sends me these areas to cover some of the expenses but I go on my own as well.
You can be grateful that you have something relatively decent to go to in your area.