Difficulties adjusting to new clubs after a move

Jimmybigtits
Western PA
So, I'm struggling a bit and have been reluctant to post about it actually.

So I recently moved from a city plentiful in quality ass for both ITC and OTC fun. I like creative, smart, a bit older dancers. I just vibe with them. I do well with women in the club and civvies but not looking for the civvie thing right now.

I'm semi retired and can probably afford 3 OTC dates per month just to give you some sense of finances.

But I've moved to a more rural area and the women are very different. I've been to the clubs and OTC and even ITC fun isn't hard to find. But I've been spoiled with higher quality women where I used to be a PL. Here I find poorer women, some cute, but little depth. I just get turned on by women with more depth and more interesting inner lives and I definitely found that in bigger cities even when I traveled.

The clubs here are all dives. That's ok but I'm just telling you so you get a sense of the dancers here.

I think I need to reorient my expectations.

I know this is a silly post but a serious one. It's actually a little depressing


Has anyone gone through this? What did you do? Any advice?

I assume the only answers are either to keep looking or learn to enjoy busting a load in a whisky tango stripper who makes more dollars than teeth on only half the nights she works, and just adapt and overcome.

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Papi_Chulo
2 years ago
Are there any decent SC areas within a 3-hour-drive? If so you may need to spread your PL-wings a bit and do some exploring/road-trips.

You may also try Seeking.com although that is an a different kimda game requiring different kinda skills.
Jimmybigtits
2 years ago
Thanks Papi. Yes there are but for various reasons I'm not currently able to travel the 90 minutes to get there. And from what I read here the pickings aren't that great there either. So I'm stuck looking here.

Seeking is a bust here also
twentyfive
2 years ago
Out of curiosity where are you currently ?
Jimmybigtits
2 years ago
In the Midwest but for various reasons I'd like to keep it at that. Small town/rural
Jimmybigtits
2 years ago
Oh hell it doesn't matter. Eastern PA but nothing here so have to explore the Ohio side
twentyfive
2 years ago
I guess i don't have any advice for your situation, where I live there's all kinds of clubs within 25 minutes drive in any direction. My favorite clubs are less than 40 minutes drive, I've done the Seeking thing but it's too much bullshit for my taste, I have great beaches within twenty minutes and lots of mixed pick up spots close by as well. One of my best pick up spots has been a high end mall, and Whole Foods has been a pretty good resource too. Hope your situation improves .
Jimmybigtits
2 years ago
Western PA not eastern. Sorry, I'm drunk lol
iknowbetter
2 years ago
Not sure how far west in PA you are, but you might look into the SA scene from Cleveland. I spent some time in CLE a while back for work, and I was surprised to find that there were more attractive women there than I would have ever expected.
Some distance might actually work out for you dine it lends itself to overnight stays.
Good luck and keep us posted.
Jimmybigtits
2 years ago
2 hours or so away. 90 min maybe. I'm a club guy tho. SA seems like a lot of work. The escorts here are aweful looking online and I'm not escort or AMP guy.

I think I need to just learn to enjoy something different like the singular joy of fucking an avg looking stripper in her trailer for $100 who is likely willing to do about anything judging from my most recent conversations ITC. What I lose in classic sexiness i make up in her utter willingness to do contribute to my utter and complete moral decline lol
Papi_Chulo
2 years ago
I started clubbing in 2000 but was more of a semi-regular-visitor – after I joined TUSCL in early-2012 is when I started clubbing hard and did so till about 2017 or 2018 when I started slowing down a bit.

I recall early-on after joining TUSCL and clubbing hard during that time, that I created a thread where I asked folks if SCs were a consideration when choosing where to retire – I was in my early-40s then but had only lived in Miami and Dallas both cities having good SC scenes.

At the time I couldn’t phantom living in an area with poor or a-bad SC scene – when I created that thread I assumed most TUSCLers would reply that “yeah they would like to retire in an area w/ a good SC scene” but to my surprise (at the time) most said it was not a consideration when choosing where to retire.

Below is the old thread I’m referring to – it was actually from 2014 but I thought it was older:

https://tuscl.net/discussion.php?id=2903…
Papi_Chulo
2 years ago
Are you going to the club on prime-time (Fr/Sat eves) - perhaps you can meet some better looking girls at that time and maybe try to arrange something with the top-talent (for the area) - no guarantee but in desperate times one has to exhaust all options
Jimmybigtits
2 years ago
Thanks Papi. I will read it. I like my wife open spaces, land, hunting and fishing. When I began preparing for the move here 20 years ago I wasn't a club goer so it never entered my mind lol.

I've slowed down too despite the current spike in activity. As I travel more I will probably become of of you traveling PL types. But a fella needs to bust a nut locally once a week without getting a marriage proposal so civvies are problematic
Jimmybigtits
2 years ago
So I decided to consult reddit to humor myself on what it's like to date white trash women lol. Of course OTC is not dating but here it is:

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comme…

I was surprised that the experience of guys there was similar to my OTC with lower income white dancers generally.

Ok I won't go too far off topic anymore lol
TheeOSU
2 years ago
Keep looking there are gems everywhere, you just have to find them.
Papi_Chulo
2 years ago
One of the first responses in that Reddit thread said:

"... My first girlfriend ever was pretty white trash. I was 14, and she was 21. She had three nipples ..."


Sounds about right LOL
Jimmybigtits
2 years ago
Yes lol. Reminds me a dancer who I met who had an eye tattooed between her titties
TheeOSU
2 years ago
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Jimmybigtits
2 years ago
I feel like if I had OTC with one of these women and I knocked on her trailer door to do the deed this is what I'd find:

https://images.app.goo.gl/WV1cWQoHiDfy7j…
Jimmybigtits
2 years ago
I can just see the thought cloud for the kid in the chair in that picture, "I wish mommy would tell me which one of the five guys that she spent an hour in the bedroom with today is my new daddy."
Huntsman
2 years ago
I don’t mean this to sound too harsh but might you have pre-judged the new locals as not having “more depth” that you say you seek? Perhaps if you have preconceived notions of what rural women are like, you’re either not giving them enough of a chance or you’re finding ones that fit a hayseed stereotype because that’s what you think is out there.

Again, not meaning this harshly but food for thought.
Jimmybigtits
2 years ago
Huntsman that's a great question. I've been to each of them at least 7-10 times so I've got a pretty good feel for them. Now I haven't met all the dancers but most.

And I grew up white trash so please guys take my humor with a grain of salt lol.

I don't mind rural women I've just been spoiled with more options elsewhere
Papi_Chulo
2 years ago
I guess moving from a large vibrant metro-area to a smaller/slower more-rural-area would def be a step-down in many respects.

Approximately how long have you been living in the new area? I think for many people it takes at least a year to "kinda" get used to a new area/place; and they become more accustomed by year 2 and 3.
Jimmybigtits
2 years ago
About a year but I've been back and forth travelling here for 25 years. Only going to these clubs for 8 months or so
Jimmybigtits
2 years ago
Thanks for all the advice fellas
Icee Loco (asshole)
2 years ago
Id Gove the clubs a shot. Go without any expectations and see how it goes. If after a while I wouldn't like it I'd just stop going. There's no point in forcing yourself to waste money on something you don't enjoy
psycho_trick
2 years ago
gots to be some turnover coming. days or weeks, fresh meat is on the way.
in the meantime it only takes one or two cool dancer interactions to have a decent time.

uh, weed helps.
absence makes the hard-on grow fonder?

sorry, that's all i've got. lulz.


shadowcat
2 years ago
When I moved from L.A. metro to Atlanta metro back in 1987 after living in CA for 45 years, it was a major change in culture including strip clubs. I found myself making road trips to find better clubs. First Memphis and when that dried up to Columbia SC.

Then a miracle happened by the name of Follies. It is gone now to be it's legacy can still be found in metro Atlanta if you take the time to look for it. Covid put a damper on things for awhile but I am back in a better than ever situation now.

For 10 straight weeks now I have a cute dancer 50 years younger than me driving 50-60 minutes to my house once a week. She spends the afternoon with me including going out to lunch. It's impossible to get better sex ITC at any price and she is not messing up my finances.

SO just Hang in there. Things are always changing.
Jimmybigtits
2 years ago
Thanks Shadow. On a side note, I was sad to hear about the demise of Follies. I used to travel to Atlanta for work 5 or 6 years ago and visited Follies 5 or 6 times. Never failed to enjoy myself both in and out of the club. It was like shooting strippers in a barrel. It was hard to miss.

I do appreciate all the comments. I think I just need to adjust expectations. There are some advantages to having money here since it's a poor area. And I'm decent looking and funny so I get lots of positive vibes. So what I lose in beauty queen I will probably make up for in quality experience and having the pick of the litter.

It's mainly single moms I'd say a 6 out of 10 on the scale. Hell the vast majority of them make out A LOT with you so I guess it can't be all bad.

Thanks for the support fellas
CJKent_band
2 years ago
@shadowcat

You wrote and I quote:

“ For 10 straight weeks now I have a cute dancer 50 years younger than me driving 50-60 minutes to my house once a week. She spends the afternoon with me including going out to lunch. It's impossible to get better sex ITC at any price and she is not messing up my finances.”

Pics and Vids or it didn’t happen.

:D

Good Times, Good Times.
rickdugan
2 years ago
When I moved from the northeast to NE Florida a decade ago I definitely experienced the exact same thing. I was used to more sophisticated and elegant dancers. Those full blooded Italian girls...aiyee! I also had quite an appreciation for the Russian girls once I started getting to know them - they tended to be smart and, when they thought you were worth the effort, incredibly seductive. I enjoyed some of the other ethnic diversity as well.

Then I got to the Jacksonville club scene and it was almost 100% "country" in its vibe and dancer mix. I guess it didn't bother me as much as I enjoy attractive women of all varieties, but I did miss some of the flavors that I used to enjoy. My northeast accent seems to play well with some of the girls down here, which doesn't hurt.

But, like Shadow said, times change. Jacksonville has grown significantly in the last decade, with lots of finance and tech companies expanding operations here. With that growth came more money and, not surprisingly, a wider variety of dancers. The herd always follows the money. The pandemic also brought a lot of girls into town from the shutdown states and some of them never left when their home clubs opened back up.

But with all of that said, I doubt that rural PA is going to be experiencing the renaissance that certain southern cities are enjoying with large population and job inflows. In fact, in another 10 years you might not even have those clubs. PA has been losing population to warmer lower tax states and affluent people are overwhelmingly the ones moving. If I were you and I wanted to keep what I had, I'd be out there gratefully supporting the clubs I do have as much as possible.
DickyDoo2
2 years ago
Not sure how far you are from Akron, OH? There are a number of extras clubs in Akron.
Jimmybigtits
2 years ago
Hey Dicky. About 90 min. It's a little far out for me right now
MackTruck
2 years ago
I make big farts
theeastcoast757
2 years ago
Sounds like my dads dream
skibum609
2 years ago
Instead of 3x a month - consider taking one long weekend a month and flying to a strip club city.
mike710
2 years ago
^I agree with what skibum said. I live in what has become a strip club wasteland in San Diego. I do have options north and south of me but I hate LA and going across the border has it's own pains these days.

I don't even bother with local clubs and make a trip to Florida or Phoenix at least once a month on average. I'm lucky that work sends me these areas to cover some of the expenses but I go on my own as well.

You can be grateful that you have something relatively decent to go to in your area.
Jascoi
2 years ago
from where I live in NW Arizona it’s worth a drive to crusty’s favorite place. tj. I avoid las vegas due to the money I have spent here for a number of years. yes. the selection In Las Vegas is good but the cost is outrageous in my experience. and I found much better opportunities in metro Los Angeles. but I’m still looking for closer good opportunities.
Jascoi
2 years ago
and to read that article of the houseboat on Lake Mead over the last number of years… I admit I’m slow. but that would’ve been a good way to go. but now that opportunity is pretty much passed.
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