For me it's not a hypothetical.
Earlier this week a former ATF contacted me via text. It's been 7 months since she's texted me last, and even longer since we've seen each other in person.
I thought maybe she might had stopped dancing altogether. I no longer saw her at the club I was going to. I chalked it up to oh well, theses things happen, and life goes on.
I have another reason why I went no contact with her.
There seemed to be a strong chemistry with her, she's sexy, fun to be around, we have a similar sense of humor.
I know better than to go looking for a traditional romantic relationship in a strip club. I was thinking party buddy or fuck buddy.
Her dances with me were really aggressive, she would ride the fuck out of me, I could often feel her pussy getting so wet, we had open mouth kissed once before, she put her nipple in my mouth once.
I tried to see about extras with her. It was a no go, wasn't happening.
I tried to hook up an OTC with. When I first asked she said we could go on a date if I paid.
I brought it up again she outright said no.
My thought was this isn't going anywhere, or at least not in the direction I would like, so I went no contact.
And then she texts me out of the blue.
I wasn't expecting that...AT ALL.
But I did read in an article on this very site that "strippers are anything but consistent," a straight to the point, matter a fact statement but really profound and insightful.
I will probably see her again, to catch up and have fun, as she suggested, and see where things go.
But this was so trippy to me.
Thoughts?
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What did she say in the text? Is she back to working the same club? Maybe she took some time off and now that she is back she is hitting up some of her former regulars? Sounds like you enjoyed her in the club, would you be open to paid OTC with her? There a ton of different approaches here, depending on what you are looking for.
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Just go with the flow. and keep it simple.
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well you're doing way better than most guys are regarding this hobby of ours - you've been in her head and she's thinking about you for probably a while now. next step is to see if she's willing to make time and put in the effort to meet you. if yes then meet and screw. if you screw her real good you'll get to rinse and repeat.
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It looks like shes just hitting up regulars to come see her at the club
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Its unusual to open mouth kiss but not be open to other extras/otc. Was she drunk when she open mouth kissed
Maybe her not wanting to do otc is just a trust issue more so than her not being open to it
Did you try for any ITC extras? Did she also refuse extras ITC?
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I think a lot of that depends on what you have going for yourself now. Do you need her? Want her?
I had one contact me by text a year later. We had had a platonic relationship OTC...diners, etc but she wouldn't take it any further because she had and on and off relationship with her boy friend. In her new test she made in clear that she had finally broken it off with her boy friend and things could be different. I think she was hubby hunting as she was now late 30's.
At the time Follies was going great and I had no need with renewing a relationship with her. I simply did not reply to her text. I did read that she did get married about a year after that.
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The club that I would go to has a number of annual theme parties.
There is an upcoming theme party soon and that she will be there and that we could have fun "for old time's sake."
She opened the text with "Hey, I'm not sure if you're still interested in me at all."
I think that in itself is telling and was trippy to see.
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After 7 months I wouldn't even recall meeting, her let alone fucking her. Life should move forward and never backwards.
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Sounds like quasi-dating, at least for you if not for her. The best you can say about quasi-dating a sex worker is that it may only involve as much getting jerked around as conventional dating often does. I have no use for commercial sex unless it's like a typical paid service. I give her money for what she will do in the moment. If she disappoints, I move on to another sex worker. From the location of your single review, I'm guessing the lack of alternatives is making you more desperate than smart. See her if her past dances were worth to you what you paid for them. If you see her with hopes that it's going to some next level, buy $1,000 worth of Powerball tickets too. Roughly similar odds of coming out ahead. It's common for strippers to be in and out of dancing. A common reason is, they leave to make a relationship work, but it doesn't, and they come back. Don't take it personally. Consider moving if possible. If you (like me) prefer lower population densities, one area I've considered is the rural counties near East St. Louis, IL.
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I’m with Skibum on this one I wouldn’t remember who she was after 7 months.
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25iq can't remember anything more than 7 minutes ago!!
But to the OP: check her out in a club or other public space. If she's still looking good and makes sense, then seize the opportunity.
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^ I remember one thing for sure, you’re a moron and the stupidest poster on this site, oh yeah I also remember you’re a fucking weirdo. LOL
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To OP - Don’t over think it. It sounds like you’re interested, so follow up and see what she’s up to. Is she just letting you know that she’s back to dancing and looking for club customers, or is she looking to line up OTC customers? Or is she really into you? Chances are she’ll flake out and go dark on you again. If so, she’s definitely not worth your time and effort. But if she responds affirmatively, then engage in a relationship on your terms.
Let us know how it works out.
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Why would you have an atf that you never fucked?
She better be begging for a creampie.
She is contacting you because she needs easy money and you have a sucker target on your chest.
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I think she needs money now.
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Go find out. If she took a break from dancing she may just be letting customers know she’s back. Or she’s reconsidered your OTC offer. No way to know unless you go and ask her why she reached out. And btw, one open mouthed kiss and one lick of a nipple is barely an extra, let alone a sign that more is on the table.
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If shes just coming and going from dancing then nothing may have changed regarding otc. Is she open to itc extras
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