@Cashman, really dude, do you FIV your mamma with the fingers you used to type that?
Such a mix of apples and oranges. If a stripper can't handle it that customers will WANT to exceed her boundaries, yes, she's in the wrong business. But like any human being, she has the right to be disgusted with anyone who doesn't ask for things as politely as possible.
Yes, it's greasy that you generally won't get honesty beforehand about what the boundaries are. But, if you can't get over being torqued about this, you are the one who's somewhere you don't belong. And really, you feel deeply victimized because you didn't like the second dance, that you got AFTER not liking the first one? Man up dude, that's why it's called a long shot.
I frequently prefer dancers with stricter boundaries over ones with looser boundaries. So, maybe PLs like me are to blame that clubs don't fire dancers with stricter boundaries. But, sorry, you're not fisting me for it unless you can hold me down. However, I can't see a good reason to decline to piss on someone, as long as they'll buy me a diet coke with free refills.