Have You Ever Considered............ Marrying A Dancer ?

Sure I have...it was a mistake to think that though IMO. I hate to stereotype, but I don't think that I've met a stripper yet that had her head on straight. They tend to have issues with abuse, body image, money problems, kids, ex-bf's or husbands that won't leave them alone, daddy issues, mommy issues, drug and/or alcohol issues, etc., etc., etc. Plus, I think we should be wary of getting too involved with people that are basically really, really good actors and/or liars if they end up doing their job well...that has to be hard for anyone to turn off once they're outside the club.

Sure...I've met some really hot strippers that knew how to converse well and turn me on, but dating 3 strippers so far in my life has been nothing but a pain and an annoyance to me personally. They sure do fuck great though...lol...especially that one that had no gag reflex (that was of course due to her stint with bulimia/aneorexia though). :)

I dunno anything about SC waitresses or bartenders. Sounds like you should definitely fuck that hot stripper Bones...then give her name out so we can all have a turn... :)

I once had that crazy idea many years ago. Sanity returned and I tossed it aside rather quickly. All I will say is that this confirms

BONES HAS GONE CRAZY!

Just kidding. Really... because I already knew that. As someone in the 82nd Airborne told me one night though, "that's ok, I am too."

Getting serious, where's the wedding going to be at? Las Vegas?

By the way, thanks for making me feel young again. She's older than me. I have gone out with older dancers though so no problem there.

dude. NO! This is your older brother talking. Remember the 4 F's. I have known one who did and after 20+ years they are still together in Ft Meyers FL but this is an exception. Get your shit together. You know how much I want to fuck my spinner friend but it ends there. I am not stupid and nigher are you.

No. Never. Only if the reasoning part of my brain were surgically removed would I ever consider this.

I've never thought of it myself. I have, however, known a married couple, the wife a dancer, the husband working for me. To make a long story short, she made a lot of money, paying off many debts, then proceeded to move on with a customer to presumably, greener pastures.

Good topic, Bones7599, and it would be interesting to here any positive stories. I would hope that the key word, "marry", overrides the bf/gf stories.

MisterGuy - We did do the "nasty" back in the VIP room, that's why I used the term, "drips" with sexual aroma, i.e., she get awfully wet below. I'm wondering what it would be like 'having' her in a bedroom environment, vs. a SC divided & partitioned off cubicle. No rushing anything, just hoping Santa brings me a date with her.

casualguy - You crazy dude you! Her, being 42 years old, doesn't bother me since I'm 61, but a young 61. No engagement, no wedding, not even thoughts of a permanent relationship at this point.

Brother Cat - Simmer down Bro simmer down. Everything I mentioned so far is "in the mind", making Mr Happy "on the run"! LOL This (temporary ATF) has a pregnant daughter who waitresses at the club, who has groped me once or twice. She also 'harbers?' other younger dancers, i.e., transports them back and forth to the club, as they all live in a city 30 miles from the club. She's like a mother hen to them. They hang out together and eat out (NOT THAT WAY!) together. My mind wanders wildly at this concept! Get in good with "the Mom".... and maybe get some "daughters like" action in addition. This situation is at a "FANTASY" level at the moment.

clubber - I had never seen this topic posted before, and figured there had to be quite a bit of interaction between TUSCL brothers and dancers, in additon to fantasies about this type of situation. I hope we get more responses generated.

Forgive my babbling on about my 'temp ATF', I get carried away at times. I more interested in the responses from fellow brothers that may have been or thought to have been in this situation.

I would not do so, for the above-stated reasons concerning mental and emotional stability. However, about nine years ago, a colleague of mine left his wife of 15 years for a dancer. The late 40 something lawyer and the mid 20-something dancer lived together/were married for that entire time, only recently getting divorced. That nine year time period probably compares favorably to the average length of a marriage in which one party is not a stripper. However, who knows how long he stuck with her because of the quality of the sex (which was, I understand, at least at the beginning, very high--isn't it always, though?)?

Have I ever considered (1) marrying a stripper - no; (2) becoming her Sugar Daddy - yes. Nuff said.

If it flies, floats, or f*&ks..... RENT IT!!!

Marrying a dancer. . . NO

Going on a long honeymoon with a dancer. . . CERTAINLY.

As for Bones comments on this thread, the only thing I can say is that Evilcyn is probably getting awful jealous.

LOL of course.

Since dancers have "rules" to never date men that hang out in clubs, we should adopt the rule to never marry girls that work in them. Let the non-clubbers marry them, that's who the dancers really want in their lives anyway. Remember, dancers view us as scum compared to all of the "normal" guys that don't go to the clubs. Now I'm starting to think and write like David999..., sorry dude I'm stealing your thunder.

Last, I recall one of FONDL's old posts, strippers are interesting because they are very mature in some aspects of their life and very immature in other aspects. That feature makes them very fun and interesting to socialize with, but very dangerous to live with.

Bones - I was joking. I can read between the lines. I'm really not that dumb. :) Here's to hoping that Santa brings you what you realy want this year...you bad daddy you...

I agree with chipitin...we SC-goers are widely viewed as "perverts" by strippers. I've heard many stripper friends of mine refer to customers that way many, many times.

Um, fuck 'em two or three times then forget 'em I say!

Are you out of your fucking mind?

No. On second thought, hell no.

LOL@ClevelandTom, not at all... I always enjoy Bones, he just pours off this sexually energy, so I can easily see how any good dancer would enjoy dancing for him... I am glad to hear that he is enjoying himself, he deserves it, and he makes life better just knowing him... I know he'll be back around cleveland soon enough for me to rock his cock..

Thanks, Chipitin. I'm always amazed that anyone reads my posts, let alone remembers them. Maybe I should start paying more attention to what I say. Nah, that would take all the fun out of it.

I like minnow's analogy! Very sharp!!!

No prob MisterGuy. Bad bad daddy is ALWAYS wanting mo pussy!! LOL

CT - Was never worried about making evilcyn (my Cleveland ATF) jealous. She knows me very well..... and I mean in the MIND and THINKING process also. Of the few ladies I've been hanging with over the past 3 years, evilcyn probably knows the (inside of me) the best. She not only is a very sensual dancer and person, but also makes a very good therapist for me.

evilcyn - Funny you mentioned about me being around Cleveland soon enough, because I had been thinking about making a meet with ClevelandTom and going to Elyria this coming week! What can I say, two minds think a like? CT-I'll be in contact with you to see which day/eve is best. Cyn - My usual warning..... be ready hon! Email me for a recommended day next week to cum.... oh, I mean come! Licks

For all my other brothers and sisters, Uncle Bones hasn't gone off the deep end. LOL At least, not yet! I would probably never marry a YOUNGER dancer, with only one exception.... that would be my girl in Elyria. But, I know she's happy and very content and I am very happy for her!

Qestion of the Day: Could you just imagine marrying a bi-sexual dancer who would be bringing her dancer friends home with her???? W--O--W !!!

Bones: Just keeping you straight. I have not forgotten about the gang bang. As for your last question. I only know of one BI dancer. I have introduced you to her. She is married. I believe that their baby is now 9 months old. I would not want her to bring her husband home with her.

As a lot of you may know I have been married to a now recently ex dancer for the past 10 years which is longer than I was married to my "conventional" wife. Here is it in a nutshell with the pros and cons

PROS generally they are attractive and stay that way for many years never see "granny panties" lying around very concerned about their appearance and you are never ashamed to be seen with them can be the same loving partner that any more "conventional" woman can

CONS when they stop dancing they constantly nag you for money shopaholics nail and hair aholics you will only know her friends by their stage names that week calls to the house at all hours of the night

Good Luck, and by the way I am happily married, and have to deal with only the first 3 few remaining cons.

Until there's a dancer who would agree to marrying YOU, isn't any question of "considering" rather moot? All the protestations of "no thanks, too many headaches" seem like sour grapes. Admit it, you'd be on top of the world to find that your ATF would ever consider marrying you instead of her bad boy lover.

Shadowcat - I'm beginning to have regrets about not getting involved in that invitation go a gangbang. I know my family members don't surf the porn net, so if film or pics got out, chances are 'family' members wouldn't know. What would worry me would be all you horny fuck-site surfers from TUSCL! No doubt emails would be flying around with the subject MEET BONES! LOL If I get the invitation again, I'm going for it, fuck what happens!!!

I wouldn't mind being in lotsoffun201's position (not with his wife of course)! I can hand the nail and hair thing, as I would be right with her getting mine done too. As far as the money nagging, I haven't met a woman that didn't! I could care less about her friend's real names, just BRING THEM HOME TO ME BABY!!!

Hell yes, I dream about it all the time...and then I wake up:)

Will you ask her to stop dancing after marriage? Do you make enough money to keep her happy with all of her whims--shopping, sleeping late, not doing housework, no cooking--and just sitting around all day looking for ways to be entertained on your dimem. Remember, she's not dancing anymore and you have to pick up the slack and then some. Now, what if she wants to continue dancing, not for the money, but the fun and attention. Can you handle that? What if she agrees to stop dancing only if you agree to stop clubbing? Can you make and keep that promise? Old boyfriends, tax problems, unpaid bills, kids and horrible insecurities are now your responsibility. Are you ready to carry that cross? Dancer, 44 years old, looks 25, B.A. and M.A. tells me that she knows that after being groped by men for money she cannot commit to any kind of a real relationship, but she would consider getting married to het her bills paid.

..to get her bills paid...

Yes... my ATF has had me thinking along those lines for sometime. It appeared to be a very distinct possibility - though not in the near future - until recently. Some of you have been privy to what has been going on with her and I recently, and you know that my foundation has been shaken a bit, and what everyone (including those little voices in the back of my mind) has been telling me about never being able to form a REAL relationship from a dancer/customer connection was appearing to be true.

At this point, I've pulled back a bit, and have a better handle on MY feelings, and am in a VERY cautious and wary mode, but after spending a bit of time with her last night, my suspicions have - at least temporarily - been doused.

Although things are still very much in limbo in my mind, and there are still some things that leave the red flags waving, I could see us working through these issues and becoming closer. Of course, it is going to require a WHOLE lot of convincing on her part, for me to overcome the doubts that have increased.

(yeah, I know... feel free to go ahead and respond with a resounding "SUCKER!" - will probably find out later that it's warranted)

And oh yeah, IF there was ever a wedding, the dancing career would HAVE to be ended.