Age of your average TUSCL'er?
I know this could be a touchy subject. Answer if you want, ignore if ya don't. How old are you and how do you think it affects your success at SC's?I'm 26, and I feel as though I am a bit more approachable, but also come off as an easier target. I look younger than my age cuz I'm asian.
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My advantages in, in order of importance:
- I generally drop $500 to $1,000 when I go to the club, as much as possible on dances. I think this is well above average, except maybe in the most "upscale" clubs.
- I don't feel entitled to any of a dancer's time except what I pay for.
- I'm polite, and I don't see strippers as people that one doesn't need to be polite to. I don't try to badger strippers into doing anything they are hesitant to do.
- I generally like strippers, I find them to be typically interesting and less pretentious than people in general.
My only big disadvantage is I don't like buying drinks for dancers. Some dancers have a strong preference for working with a buzz on, and naturally prefer not having to pay for their own drinks. But I think they sometimes end up losing $ if the club is busy. They could buy their own drink, shotgun it, and be banking in VIP. Instead of sitting at a table, talking to a rick and despairing at the human condition.
Several strippers said I have a resting bitch face which makes me look unapproachable, but once they talk to me I'm a cool guy who they know spends.
Seems they pick up quickly on who treats them with respect.
One difference compared to years ago is that every dancer in the house is now a possibility. When I was in my twenties, I would have never considered a dancer over 30. In fact, my sweet spot now is probably 30-40 even though I sometimes choose younger or older dancers.
I can pretty much have my pick of young Latinas. The hood ones especially like me.
Old dancers tend to ignore me.
I started clubbing semi-regularly at 30 and looked young for my age at the time - particularly in the more upscale clubs w/ "more business minded dancers" I noticed I would at times get passed over for the older 50+ y/o guys; in certain clubs I'd be sitting at a table and multiple-dancers would walk past me as if I was invisible and head straight for the older guys and throw themselves at them like they were George fucking Clooney - I notice this rarely happens now in my middle-age.
Some younger and/or less-experienced dancers prefer to "party at the club" and have a good time vs making-$$$ being their top-priority - but I'd say IME and/or observations, the older guys often get more and/or better attention b/c at the end of the day the dancers are not there "to hook up w/ a hot guy" and are there to make as much $$$ as they can o/w they wouldn’t be doing what they are doing (getting naked in front of a room full of strangers and allowing strangers to grope them etc).
“All things being equal” one would assume they’d prefer a young and/or good-looking guy that spends over an old-geezer that spends – but the perception is that younger guys are often unable and/or unwilling to spend (at least as much as older guys) and are often there to party w/ their friends; etc – many dancers also complain about younger-guys spending their time in the club asking them out or trying to pick them up vs spending which is not what most dancers are there for.
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I’m not sure what you mean by “easier target”. Younger customers I’ve noticed tend to be faster decision makers and they are either interested or not. Are you maybe saying you get “wanna dance’d” more?
I'm not loaded $$$. But I'm 6'3, not fat, and relatively decent-looking. I shower, brush my teeth, wash my clothes, and I don't go in there smelling like I'd just played basketball or got off from a shift digging ditches in July.
I drink alcohol. If a girl sits down w/me, 95 x out of 100, I will offer to buy her a drink. I don't generally get dances right as I get there...I like to hang out and have a few drinks first, and I will be up front about that with them. They're welcome to stick around and wait and hang out, or leave and come back. If I'm 100% not interested, I'll figure out something reasonably considerate to say other than "EWW". But, there's usually something attractive about almost out of them. When they choose to sit down, I'll flag the waitress or bartender for her drink, or our shots. And generally just have a normal conversation than usually results in them laughing, i.e. I don't say, "hi, my name is _____, here's your Patron. So, what kind of kinky shit are you into?"
I don't push for extracurriculars or OTC, and I keep my hands to myself until she says otherwise or just puts them where she wants them. But if a girl decides to push boundaries or go the extra mile on her own, hey, that's cool.
I won't ask for their numbers, but if they ask for mine or they offer theirs to me, I'll exchange them. If I'm interested, I'll follow up a few days later to see if they wanna get a drink. Sometimes they just wanted to exchange numbers to sell me OTC (sorry, not my thing). Sometimes it was so they could text me that oh gosh, they miss me so so much, and to come in and see them (not happening...I go in when I'm bored). A few times it's been to get together for drinks and / or to just fool around. But I don't make presumptions and say "hello" by texting, "hey, wanna bone?"
Although...rant time! This summer I did send a "hello" msg by asking if she wanted to come over and finish what she started earlier. Hey, I was getting drunk in the pool...seemed like a good idea at the time! She was NOT thrilled, apparently wanted to have a normal date, and got pissed, telling me I only said that to her because she's a stripper. No sweetheart, I said it to you 1) because I was drunk, and 2) because two or three times you said we should exchange numbers, and each time was right after kinda moaning that it felt really good while grinding around on top of me. Had you mentioned it while we were bullshitting and goofing off having a drink, I wouldn't have immediately thought you just wanted to use me and treat poor, poor me like a piece of meat.
In Memphis most think because your AA you’re a pimp. Other cities you’re more approachable I’ve really enjoyed, Indy, Chicago and of course Atlanta, LA was ok for me as well. Now I’m trapped in the hell hole of Nashville but occasionally go to Huntsville and whenever I get a chance to go to Atlanta or Tampa for business I’m the first to sign up.
Frankly, I prefer older dancers and my favorites now are all in the 29 to 52 range. I don't ever remember having a hard time attracting dancers.
Then again, maybe they figure they can outrun a geriatric dude if I get too handsy, lol.
When I was a good looking, poor 26 year old, I had no interest in strip clubs.
I think this, rather than your age, is what may make you more "approachable".
The *perception* is that Asians are on avg better-off financially whether bc they are business-owners, or are well-educated and have good paying jobs/careers - they are also considered to be well-behaved.
I would say in this case, my initial assessment of my position is def not quite accurate. I still usually don't have an issue being "wanna dance'd", but I think this is at friendlier clubs.
I guess I at least have good strip clubbing to keep me happy as I grow older. Thanks for the outlook ya'll!
I’m respectful of dancers, I shower, brush my teeth, and wear clean clothes, when I go clubbing.
My approach has changed dramatically in the last 20 years of mongering. Early on, I would drink myself into a state of feeling no pain, before I would get dances. That was stupid, and it made for many bad outcomes, and lots of wasted money.
Now, I may have a beer or bottled water, as I enjoy the dancers. I chat with dancers who show interest, but I’m not there to make chit chat. I won’t waste a dancers time. After a few minutes, I will direct the conversation to buying dances, and determining what extras are available.
So, as I’ve aged, it’s much less booze, less chit chat, and a more direct approach.
Men are only as old as the women they feel!
And there are entire establishments built and operated around that exact sentiment!
^ This explains why you feel the same... you're welcome 😉😁
But I’m not, because being a Boomer is an honor. We invented the internet, personal computers, the artificial heart and your beloved cell phones
Id like to try out one of those those establishments, if you only worked closer to my zip code I’d live in an establishment like that. 😷
But I don't look a day over 63, unless I'm tired or sad. Which has never happened at a club. 🙂
I don't think my age affects my 'success' at the club. I show up showered, shaved, hair and teeth brushed. I tip for my (water or ?) drink, and start tipping the stage. That affects my 'success'; and soon, it's off to the lap dance room 😜.
Just enjoy seeing and feeling young naked bodies.
Didn't we meet a few years back at Vixens shortly after it opened in Davie?
22 kinda when I Started in AdultBiz🥴
@twentyfive. 🤔 Probly have, hopefully maybe start workin there more?? I was at our old Scarletts a lot and 1st year a lot at Vixens when we opened it. Haven’t been much to Davie or Ft Myers Club lately🤷🏻♀️
Maybe Our Ybor Club?? Where I’m At Almost Always!!
I’ve only had about 3 TUSCL guys really introduce themselves.🙄