Dating in the 1950s through 1980s.
Icee Loco (asshole)
I'm a fucking loser
If you have personal experience what was it really like? Was it harder or easier to get laid?
I think it had to be easier before aids....and in the 1960s and 1970s.
I think dating today is just fucked up
I think it had to be easier before aids....and in the 1960s and 1970s.
I think dating today is just fucked up
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I was pretty much average. Girls said I was "kind of cute" a few times but a lot of guys did better than me. My best friend then did much better than me. He told me one time his secret was that he dropped a girl if he wasn't getting anywhere with her and moved on to another one. I would get a crush on one and stick around and try to win her over if she wasn't immediately interested. Looking back, that was a bad idea. Guys who would tell younger girls what they wanted to hear would do better than more honest guys and I was a little too honest so that hurt me too.
I did better in my thirties, in spite of the appearance of AIDS in that time period, than in my twenties. Women my age were more interested in having sex with me as we both got older because as they got older they wanted a long term relationship more, had given up trying to get one with the top guys, and sex was a way to try to lure me into a long term relationship.
The single biggest difference between that span of time and right now is online dating, dating apps, and social media in general. Even then, in terms of easier or harder ... who knows? I'm sure that for some dating is easier via apps, etc., but for others it has created a social hole that keeps them from going out and actually talking to people at all.
I'll be interested to hear what others have to say, but you might be overestimating the impact of the AIDS crisis. It certainly made some people more cautious about sex (and increased condom sales by orders of magnitude), but I'm not sure that it slowed dating that much. I also remember a lot of guys not changing their behaviors at all, because they thought it was something only gay men had to worry about, which was not strictly true.
By the way it’s the same them as it is now, I assume. Guys with a good rap or a good job get pussy, except if they’re pompous or ugly. Which one is icee the nigga?
I think my generation hasn't been taught to cope well. We weren't prepared for how fucked up the world is when we became adults. Pop culture the media the entertainment sector all present idealistic impressions of relations between the sexes but the opposite is true.
Sex is easy to get. But anything more is the hard part. Being toxic is normalized. Cheating is normalized when instant gratification isn't present.
Half of online dating profiles are camgirls, cyber-beggars who list there Venmo or CashApp, or girls who expect to be showered with gifts because they have titties. I had this talk with a friend, the latter are a less-honest version of hookers.
I like Skibum's stories from dating before AIDS and rampant STDs.
The 70's:
Girls wore halter tops and tube tops with their low rise hip huggers. Braless was in fashion.
Birth control was free at County health departments and most girls were on the pill.
STD's could be cured with a week long round of antibiotics.
Girls equated feminism with sexual freedom and were still enjoying the sexual revolution.
You could go to a party on a Saturday night and pretty much know you were going to get laid; usually with someone you just met.
Went to high school from 80 - 84. I was young having just turned 13 before starting 9th grade. Didn't get laid until senior year but that probably had less to do with the societal impact of HIV/AIDS than the fact I was high all the time and didn't really have good game. Went away to college in 1984, age 17. Still high, didn't really try that hard, but got laid a lot. Small private school where AIDS was still considered something that only affected homosexuals or heroin junkies.
If a weekend went by where I didn't have sex it was because I was drunk and passed out before I could get my pants off. You didn't even have to ask for it or have a game plan. It just happened all the time. I was a stoner and just an average looking dude but got more than my fair share of pussy. I can't even imagine what it must have been like for the captain of the football team.
I got kicked out of that school near the end of my first year. Had to move back with my parents, get a job, and start commuting to a local college. Not quite the environment I was used to, but still no complaints in the getting laid department.
The big difference back then vs. today is that there was no social media. Shit, we didn't even have cell phones or e-mail. I kept in touch with lots of people by hand written letters that were sent via the US Postal Service. Imagine that! But most everyday personal interactions, whether romantic pursuits or just hanging with 'da boys, was face-to-face. I think that caused people to develop more effective communication and interpersonal skills, which subsequently led to getting laid more.
I'd hate to be a kid growing up in today's world. If they're not miserable, it's only because they don't know what they're missing.
Adding in some serious shyness and a wrong headed idea of niceness, and I missed out on ever having teenage sex. Fortunately soon after someone liked me and took me by the hand to their bedroom.
Naturally, I still remember and occasionally think of her.
I graduated in 2010. Dating was easy in high school. It was really shallow. If a girl thought you were cute she'd put out. If you got drunk or smoked a girl out you were guaranteed sex. But there were also a lot of couples who were together then and married right after high school. Many are still together. I pretty much tried to fuck as many girls as I could.
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