IME most strippers don't want to go to Olive Garden with you

This is exactly why "Would you like go for a quickie behind the back alley dumpster?" is and has always been way more appealing than "Would you like spend and wonderful, luxurious evening with me at Ruth Chris Steakhouse?" and will remain that way, to the disappointment of some of my fellow "baller" PL's.

Some PLs think the $$$ they are spending on a dancer for dinner is part of her compensation as if they are doing her a favor buying her dinner when in reality most dancers would like to be somewhere else doing something different with someone else but they gotta keep their regular or potential-regular happy.

With some exceptions the dancer is only having dinner with the PL bc that is what the PL wants not bc of the free-meal.

This is the exact reason why I like sugaring better than OTC with strippers. You are correct. Strippers view this as a business. They may OTC with you but it's all about the money. They want to spend a little time with your as possible and still get paid. Sugar babes are the exact opposite . They want the "experience ". They want to be wined and dined. They want to get an emotional attachment. Now that is always good though. Breaking up is a lot like breaking up with a girlfriend.

^ That is NOT always a good thing.

There has always seemed to be an interest among strippers to go out to dinner with me but only as long as I appeared to not be interested. One time I told a stripper the next day was my birthday and she offered to take me out and buy me dinner for my birthday. Another time I mentioned going to a restaurant to a stripper and she got a sad look on her face and said she wished she could go there, probably an attempt to get me to offer to take her there. Another time I asked a girl in a club if she thought my regular in that club would be interested in having dinner with me and she quickly responded "I'll have dinner with you".

I think this may be a ploy to lure me away from a regular in the club I'm spending a lot of money on by offering to do something they think I'll like. Also, these girls do get jealous if a customer is paying attention to another girl and not them. It's not sexual jealousy but more a desire to divert the income stream going to another girl over to them. But it's not just that. Strippers also like male attention because it gives them an ego boost that the males in the club are focusing on them and she is out competing the other strippers in the club in being the focus of all that male attention in the club.

Listen, I can’t help that you PLs are not as charming as Juice, Dugan, jackslash, Subraman and myself. Strippers WANT to hang out with us because we are cool. It also helps that most of us handcuff them to the bed too.

^^^I won't argue with that. And it doesn't help things that I look like Sloth from the Goonies but being that I am still one of the more handsome guys on here I feel comfortable speaking for the lot.

I think it varies a bit from one girl to the next. I agree that a lot of girls want the in and out, but IME some do want the other interactions at least initially. Not so much because they crave spending hours of their time with someone old enough to be their Dads (or for some of you grandpas), but because it gives them the fig leaf to believe that they are not [hookers, prostitutes, insert your own description here].

But yes, even the ones who initially want to go to dinner eventually revert to the in-and-out model once they are comfortable with the arrangement.

In an ideal world, my preferred form of interaction is to socialize with them ITC and then take them directly to my hotel for the OTC finish. Unfortunately my schedule has become a lot more constrained lately, which now makes that approach more difficult to use.

On a serious note..

Two examples -

1. Most of the time, I just want a stripper to come to my hotel room and have sex, and get out anyway. Sometimes it’s hard to make small talk for 2 hours before sex during dinner when the only thing we have in common is we both think she looks good in lingerie.

2. For the most part I’m a pretty normal guy, and a few strippers LOVED that. With my ATF, I think I was the first guy to have a relationship with her since she was in junior high that didn’t have a criminal record. She found that irresistible. The closest thing to a “normal” life for her, was spending time with me. Her ideal night was hanging out in a bed in a hotel room me watching TV while she read a book. To each us own I guess.

I wasn't aware of a surge of people on here arguing that dancers wanted close, personal relationships with customers...

Well look this is thread partly tongue in cheek and me fucking around. But it’s interesting to think about. I personally like going out in the town but it’s gotta be with the right stripper. Some people are fun to hang around, others ehhh you just want to get in and get out

Muddy, once time you said you look like Jason Statham and today you said you look like Sloth. I’m guessing you’re somewhere in between, like probably Chris Farley.

I don't know why on earth either the stripper or I would want to have dinner together. Dinner (out) has a limited set of uses:

1. Enjoy quality time with someone whose conversation you are interested in. This could be the case with your stripper date, but it's unlikely. I might just become pals with my mechanic, barista, butcher, or other service worker, but probably won't. They have their own friends.

2. Suffer alongside co-workers or family because some busybody on the team thinks you should. I certainly hope this doesn't apply, but if it does you have my condolences.

3. Improve the chances of sex by impressing your companion with what you pick to shove down your pie-hole. Imagine the poor stripper's thought process: "oh great, now the fat fuck is grinding up garlicky snails in his mouth as well. That's going to taste great when he shoves his snail encrusted tongue in my mouth later! How sophisticated, how suave... how... how in the hell did I end up here?"

To be fair, I have to imagine #3 running through the mind of any sugar baby as well.

IME, most strippers do want to hang out. It's likely selection bias, I've got no doubt that if I considered the group of all strippers instead of the ones I spend time with that it would lean more in line with your experience. But, I can say of those I associate with it is common for them to want to do more than get in and out. I have little doubt it's more a function of not wanting to go back to something than it is than expressly enjoying my company. But the fact remains, many strippers do in fact want to go to Olive Garden. At least metaphorically. More literally they often want to sleep in, order food, and hang by the pool. Some do like the handcuffing to the bed thing, but I think that's really a different topic.

Oh, and IHOP is 24hr here. I thought they all were.

Iye is the key here...m

Once stripper hoes get a taste of me they can't let go lulz

What about Red Lobster?

What about McDonalds or Wendys? Taco Bell or even Del Taco....and possibly In N Out haha

^^^ I didn’t know you lasted that long.

"it's like a box of chocolates". One dancer that I was so friendly with that I had been to her house numerous times suggested that we dress up to go out to dinner. She said "I want to see the tongues wag when I kiss you and call you daddy".

I normally do not arrange OTC but I have been out with several strippers. In each case going to dinner was their idea. There was no OTC involved. Just dinner. Never an expensive place. They just honestly seemed to want to do something with a normal person. Only one let me pay. Go figure.

One actually took me to her house and cooked me breakfast and plied me with Mimosas. All under the watchful eye of her policewoman girlfriend glaring at me from the next room.

These were all over 20 years ago, so I'm sure the scene has changed. Either that or I somehow found nothing but outliers.

The honeys love the OG.

"Listen, I can’t help that you PLs are not as charming as Juice, Dugan, jackslash, Subraman and myself."

You can't turn this shit off. Sometimes I forget to turn my swag off at night, and I wake up all covered in bitches.

joking aside, definitely true some strippers would rather just get to the banging and get out. But there's been plenty of times strippers are the ones who, when asked after dinner "what should we do now?", picked the bar hopping or strip clubbing option instead of the hotel option. I've had strippers want to go back out drinking again after the sex. To Warrior's point, I've had plenty of strippers act more like SBs than strippers. Just plain not true all strippers just want to get to the hotel room and then run. Might be true if you're getting the more escorty strippers

If it's a pre-planned OTC, that is scheduled a few days in advance versus a first time meet in club and then go to hotel after her shift, I offer the option of meeting for dinner/drinks, then go to hotel, or just go straight to hotel, their call. They usually choose dinner/drinks first, with their preference for drinks usually being at another strip club. So no, I don't think OP is correct. But I go to better places than Olive Garden. Well, OP is probably partially correct. They still don't want get to know me. But they like nice food and free drinks.

The part I chuckle at is some of the comments that get thrown on here disparaging the strippers with larger bodies…but hey good idea to take them out to these places with massive food portions, liberal pours of canola/soybean/corn oil, generous pours of salt on the dishes. And alcohol on the side.

The dancers I would take out to dinner are not necessarily the dancers I would want to fuck. Different skill set.

canola/soybean/corn oil

These are 3 of my favorite food groups! Juice likes MSG.

Taking dancers out to dinner and fucking thrm is the same thing. All the girls want me for dinner, because I AM THE BEEF!

For $1,000 OTC.

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Seems like I've mostly gone to restaurants with good (non-fried) seafood with strippers. That seems to be popular with women in general. Many strippers are very good company. But, crude or not, it's about the sexual gratification for me. I prefer a dancer who thinks I'm boring over one who I have good conversation with if the dancing is hotter.

"The part I chuckle at is some of the comments that get thrown on here disparaging the strippers with larger bodies…but hey good idea to take them out to these places with massive food portions, liberal pours of canola/soybean/corn oil, generous pours of salt on the dishes. And alcohol on the side."

Well yes, part of the game is to fill them full of neverending popcorn shrimp, then ask them nonchalantly if they're gaining weight 🤣

Like doctorevil, I actually wine and dine the strippers I like (or at least give them an option), but on this forum that's looked at as a character flaw LOL

Btw muddy, I just want to say Olive Garden = classy dude! 😂

Guys who think strippers like them are sad. Think about it. The broad has a life outside of dancing and if she is actually hot, why they hell would should she want to fuck an old fat dude for fun. Most are screwed up and lazy enough to fuck you to pay their bills but don't take pleasure in hanging out with you without the $$.

Some people have unconventional ideas about what's attractive. Being people, this applies to strippers. But not necessarily a good thing. Women (stripper or not) who want a friend with benefits (a minority from what I've seen) do seem to prefer men who are conventionally hunky. Otherwise, romantic feelings are involved, which, like most people, they want it reciprocated. So that's the danger of dinner dates and such. I won't repeat the old hell hath no fury cliche. But it's human nature, you feel a romantic spark, it's not reciprocated, and you go sour on the person, may prefer to avoid them.

On the other hand, I've met more than a few strippers who very convincingly acted as if lunch/dinner would be an awesome thing. My ATF. The MILF.

Not too long ago, the one I used the DayUse app with and spent the day, when I asked about dinner afterwards, said "oh thanks, I didn't want to ask, but yes, definitely."

When asked about where, she hesitated and said, "can we go someplace sit down? I'd rather not have fast food."

So we went to one of the mid-range steak houses and had a nice little dinner. She was a very pleasant "date". Far more pleasant than I expected.

Of course, that could be selection bias at work. I'm not going to be interested for very long in someone who wants to exit stage left as soon as I'm done.

Right, I don't doubt Muddy's got the correct read on his OTC girls 🤣 But all of these stories of the stripper choosing to get dinner or go out to drinks (again, in my case, I had a stripper ask me to take her back out AFTER we'd banged and she could have gone home).

For the more dim-witted among us, who apparently need things spelled out, that doesn't mean any of us think the stripper wants to be our girlfriend or something. It just means that she tolerates our company enough that she's happy to go eat somewhere fancy on our dime, provided we stay out of the picture when she puts a photo of her dragon roll on her IG story to make her friends jelly.

Yeah, there's only three strippers with whom I've spent time where I am certain they actually enjoyed my company enough to hang out. One was a dancer in a club in North Carolina, but I suspect it was more the company of my wife which attracted her. The other two are my ATF and the MILF.

The rest of them, when they say "Of course I enjoy spending time with you", I mentally add "as long as your money holds out!" No matter how nice they act, they are there (whether in the club or in a hotel) to make money, and while they'll sometimes stick around for a little while in order to ensure future revenue, but there's a shelf life even for that.

I have gone to Olive Garden with someone from this board 😎

But PSD, the question is, did you really enjoy it?

Yes I had a nice time and I would go again if invited by that person. ❤️

Notice how we love to talk about filling strippers with unlimited "soup" and "bread sticks". We can all guess now Freud would interpret this.

@PSD it's your own fault none of us can think of a costume we like better than just two smile-face pasties.

===> "I have gone to Olive Garden with someone from this board "

Olive Garden was really the best he could do? Pseudo Italian food made with mostly reheated stuff and sauces full of sugar? Sheesh you'd think that the lucky fella would've treated you to something a little nicer. Just sayin. 😁

I doubt most strippers would want to go to Olive Garden with a customer.

We can’t all be as handsome and charismatic as Shailynn, Subraman or Juice.

There are few men who are true lady killers like SJG as well. (Or SCPandit).

But, thinking of spending 4 hours in a Best Western with an old guy groping and sticking his dick in you - or 2 hours in an Olive Garden and maybe 1.5 hours in the Best Western with a horny old guy - the Olive Garden becomes quite a delicious place to spend a few hours…

Most of my dates with strippers consist of smoking so much weed we forget where we're going. Looking for places that are still open then fuckijg and falling asleep. Then trying to figure out what we are.