Who’s Significant Other approves of their Antics
ChesterCheetah
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So I’m just curious , since I think many of us are married how many are in the clubs without the wife knowing ? Or do you tell them half truths like omit the handjob or OTC romp you got afterwards. It is easier when you don’t have to worry about washing off glitter or ho perfume when you get home I gotta admit.
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That fact was what made me a Pathetic Loser.
Now, I am divorced and I can do what I want. So my relations with P4P women can go as far as I want them to, and that is awesome.
SJG
How emotionally satisfied are you now?
I went through a 5 yr phase where I went a lot more behind her back. It's definitely not how I want to live, as the guilt adds up. So for the last year I'm back to our agreement of the occasional trip. And I'm much better off personally. I don't see myself going to clubs like those 5 years. I'm into other hobbies now anyway.
I never got extras and I always held up the rule of no direct contact with pussy or dick by either party. Nothing more than high mileage dances basically. Although she doesn't know the extent of my lapdances, I'm pretty sure extras would cross the line. High mileage would make her upset but likely not a deal breaker for us. Since she never directly asked what I do in clubs, I never had to tell her any half truth.
I recognized right away that the greatest danger is if an outside woman feels that she is being taken advantage of.
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I was always very restrictive in going beyond limited ITC adventures.
And then there was a decade long stint when I dropped all such things and lived by the rule of strict monogamy.
Why the marriage did not work then, well the wife was just not willing to allow a partnership, people working together on a shared and agreed upon vision. That way they share in the successes and the failures. She would have none of this. She just wanted to be able to stand back and crack the whip.
I needed to terminate the marriage much earlier than I did.
Rebuilding has meant working very hard to reinvent myself. This is proceeding, but it is the work of a life time.
At least now I do not have to hide or conceal which women I am seeing.
Overall I do not think married guys should have anything to do with the sex industry.
SJG
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In past discussions, they've trusted me not to seek extras, the same way I've trusted them not to suck random dicks. One insisted on fucking me multiple times the night before any SC trips. I didn't complain.
What was the definition of a PL 6 ? You have alibis for your alibis . I think he put that part in there for me.
She would not be happy knowing I go by myself. Something happened recently and I’m rather shocked she took it as well as she did. Someday I may post about it, but who wants to post themselves in a negative light.
Like other people have already said my strip club trips were going way down even before COVID and that put it to a grinding halt, I still haven’t been clubbing in 2021 because I haven’t either been anywhere worth clubbing at this year or I haven’t been alone. I’m hoping this fall I will be able to get out more and club a few times. At the moment I don’t miss it because I have a new adventure going on.
I spent about 10 years living 1/2 time overseas, and developed essentially parallel lives in the two countries, and women who were unaware of one another were part of the story. This (and a spy novel habit) taught me to keep my sins to myself. And I mean that in the sense that confession is a fundamentally selfish act: the confessant feels unburdened, the confessor feels dirty or angry or at best nothing. The former is always the beneficiary of the confession. So I own my sins, keep them to myself, justify them in my own little ways, and don’t ruin her day by confessing to them. In a way, the duality is liberating… I get to be a different person in the club, free from scrutiny. But it’s also convenient because I get to do dirty things with women way out of my league while keeping my day job as a happily married man.
I lied once about this once (busted by perfume in my nose), and felt terrible till I came clean. We talked / negotiated about it, and now I have spending and frequency limits that we both are ok with. She knows I don't do extras, but that I do like to fondle.
One time she called me the next day after he had left to travel home. She was shocked that hubby took $400 out of an ATM. "Just how many of them do y'all fuck when you go to those places?"
The irony is Hubby is a real strip club lightweight. He is too shy to even get a dance, but loves to tip at the stage. Plus it is a place he can smoke his pipe. So his wife assumes he is cheating on her and just accepts it, but he really isn't.
For all I know she's fucking the gardener as soon as he leaves.
I'll add that I've been busted by my wife around half a dozen times for going to a club and also have lied my way to an acceptable alibi at least as many too. If my wife hasn't divorced me over it by now she's not going to unless I do extras and beyond or I spend too much on it. Also I think I'm lucky in that she has a father that was a bit of a PL himself and a childhood BFF that was a stripper.
I made a huge set of mistakes, and I regret the pain I caused. I was an idiot, and I hurt a very good woman.
It was my stupidity. I ruined a good thing.