The Condom Conversation

I haven't used a condom since I was a teenage and birth control pills had not yet come on the market.

I am snipped and have retrograde ejaculations so I am not worried about knocking any one up.

At my age even with ED meds I still need all the help that I can get to get it up. Condoms tend to desensitize me. So I won't attempt to use them.

I've never had an STD. Maybe lucky but part of it is being some what cautious on who I have intercourse with. BBBJ not so much!

I used a condom once and will never again. My little penis needs the feel of a vag to get him off in an enjoyable way. If that isn't an option (I will never pressure a girl to fuck without one, if she is uncomfortable) I'd rather get a hand job - which I totally love anyway. That's how I see it.

With a 40 percent of your gross income going as child support in this state I wouldn't fuck any woman of child bearing age unless I had personally performed her hysterectomy. You guys who go bareback with dancers/escorts are risking your future for a fuck. That ain't pot odds imo.

The responses in this thread just reinforce my resolve to always wrap up unless I am in a relationship.

80% of guys that message me on SA ask me before we even meet for the first time or get any details outside of name and number if I'm willing to raw dog them. It honestly freaks me out because I know none of these guys are looking for an exclusive arrangement.

I'm not scared of getting pregnant. I use two different types of BC and have pondered getting a third. I want my uterus to be a dead zone to sperm. Only reason I haven't gotten sterilized yet is due to concerns about triggering early menopause.

STDs are always my primary concern. Everyone seems eager to ask for bareback but aren't as eager to show when their last test result was. And no one has ever asked me - even knowing I'm non-monogamous or a SWer (or the stigma behind it). I think out of every person I asked to see test results from, only a quarter of them had recent results ready to show or were willing to get tested and show me the results before anything happens.

Conversations like this make me happy for my marriage and getting snipped at 32. Never a rubber since then.

i would prefer having sex and enjoying it with a condom. but there is a sensitivity issue.

"...but aren't as eager to show when their last test result was. And no one has ever asked me "

I can bring up my own test results on my phone. On several occasions I've paid for my SB's testing.

For those of you with multiple partners per month, condoms are only 30- to 50% effective at preventing HSV and HPV. Of course Covid is a far greater concern right now.

Condoms are all shit. I do use them, but I’ve yet to find one that fits and they always break.

"80% of guys that message me on SA ask me before we even meet for the first time or get any details outside of name and number if I'm willing to raw dog them."

Wow, that's pretty scary. I'm with Muddy on this--don't really want to fuck without a condom, although I hate using condoms for BJs.

On the flip side of this, has anyone noticed an increase in the number of dancers willing to do FS raw? I've noticed a significant uptick, and the girls that are wiling usually don't ask. That's not something i usually cover in the pre-VIP talk. Some girls will bring it up and say they will do FS only with a condom, which is my preference, but I assume that with condom is the norm. However, lately I have had several that didn't mention it and when the moment came just started to jump on without a wrapper. I have had to stop some of them and insist on a condom. I wish I could say my strength of will allowed me to do this 100% of the time, but . . .

Anyway, I'm getting tested pretty regularly.

It’s a generational thing. I’ve noticed a LOT of folks in their 20’s forgoing condoms. I attribute it to the. Growing up after AIDS became a manageable disease.

While I've gotten quite a few BBBJ's from dancers, I've only once fucked one bareback and it wasn't my intention going into it. I had been with the dancer several times before and she had always put a cover on me before sticking it in. This time she just sat down on my bare pole which totally caught me by surprise.

She texted me the next day and asked if we had really done it bareback and if so please tell her that I was clean. Said she was really drunk even though she didn't act particularly drunk. Anyway, this happened last fall so I know Covid had nothing to do with her going bareback at that time.

It's been my experiance. That most dancers don't care if a condom is used or not.

No one likes condoms, but I'd prefer decreased sensation over 18 years of child support and drug-resistant gonorrhea or syphilis (which are huge these days).

With a dancer, every time. With a civvie, only if she's responsible, and wants a kid less than I do.

Based off the responses you can see that you have been lied too by media, music, tv..ect...Having sex is natural but having multiple partners is not, thats why you need the safety of a condom. Cronic masturbators that have sex with each even if they dont like each other, has led to the rise of fake sexual assault accusations. if you need a condom to have sex youre better off keeping it in your pants.

I figure if she's willing to bbfs with me, she's doing it with lots of guys. No thanks. No way with a dancer

That being said, I've had several SA girls , on a first date, start to go bare before I was even ready....and I've had to pause to put on the cover

I think this discussion reinforced my discussion to wear condoms 😂

Condoms aren’t great - they reduce sensation - and that’s an important aspect of intercourse. However, the concern over disease is enough to keep me using them. I don’t think twice - I just wrap up and enjoy it as much as possible.

I once had a newbie stripper in VIP that made it clear everything was to be covered. Started with CBJ, the CFS. She switched back to CBJ, said it looked like it would be better without the condom and pulled it off. I am thinking no more FS from that point on. After some BBBJ she said "that's more like it", turned around and mounted me and hit it hard. I asked if I should pull out to finish and said "don't you fucking dare pull out".

After, she gave me the line about hardly doing it anyone. I'm thinking hardly anyone "today"?