Healthy hobby versus addiction?
Electronman
Too much of a good thing is never enough
In recent years, we seem to be labeling any and every pleasurable activity as an addiction, it might help to suggest a some terminology clarification.
Hobbies are activities from which they derive pleasure, such as playing video games, fantasy football, building model planes, playing cards, etc. These activities would be classified as hobbies as long as they produced pleasure (note that compulsive behavior often does not produce pleasure) and the hobbies did not get "out of control."
Addictions also involve pleasurable substances and activities but efforts to obtain the addictive item (e.g., drugs, sex, video games) become so powerful that these behaviors displace other important behaviors (e.g., making a living, maintaining a family) and produce damage to the addict (e.g., social and/or health damage).
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When I plan vacations, I place other activities and good weather on equal or greater footing than club monger factor of location. You won't see me planning a January trip to Detroit just to sample the clubs there. Although I visit clubs often, I can drive right by them without an itch to stop in if I have some other things going on. I haven't scratched the itch on several occasions to stop by clubs near interstate exits on a long drive that would cause me to arrive well past reasonable dinner hour at destination.
On the flip side, I've stayed at club later than intended several times to the detriment of next morning activities. I'm retired, but still have other fish to fry. For a good part, I manage not to let clubbing activities be too much of the main driver.
After I met my ATF - expensive addiction
Thinking about clubbing, one of my current additions.
Strip clubs are not for everyone but most things are not for everyone - some people really enjoy 'X', some people really enjoy strip clubs.
Most remedies/"medicines" have side-effects thus they are not perfect - in-lieu of an S.O. one is happy/fully-fulfilled with, being hard-up and lonely 24/7 IMPLO is worse than getting some type of "remedy" via strip-clubs
However they can fit some of the needs/gaps if you are single - and I don't mean (just) extras.
Mongering is an absolute necessity for me. I have no desire to date or seek a relationship and deal with the noise, drama and crap that comes with it. Been there, burned badly and not going through that hell again.
I’m perfectly content to pay for pussy and am fortunate to have the means to do so for the rest of my life. Still, I budget wisely.
So I guess I’m in the addiction class, but it’s a healthy addiction.
I was married, had a great wife, and a good life. I wasted that because I was addicted to the short term buzz of strippers and lots of booze. I was an addiction - it was destructive and unhealthy.
Now, I’m divorced, and my life is ok. I’ve found that by using moderation and restraint, I can club and not be a fool.
So, it was a costly and unhealthy addiction. It’s a hobby now. But, if I start drinking hard again, I’m pretty sure it will become an addiction.
I am in that situation today, I met a girl, I been her regular for a some months (lost of visits), done some OTCs, and now I find myself wanting more and more. Like somebody said earlier, it makes you feel young again. The main issue is that I know I need to stop, and find the next stripper I want to fuck, but I struggle, because if feels good, and is giving me the "feeling" of romance. I love her texts, the pics, the attention, and like the feeling......so what I am doing about it? I am quitting her, because I got what I wanted, is not going any further (or should not go), and is not healthy or good for me or my REAL situation, so I need to let her go...........
Hope this makes sense, is a dangerous game/hobby/addition, it is expensive, and you could put yourself in very bad situations (DUI, STI, and others), but is FUN, and feels good.......
Just be careful, and always keep a clear and realistic understanding of whatever situation you are in........
No judging what so ever......
Spending several thousands on my wife is a healthy hobby.
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Only if this harms the guy's finances! If you are able to do this and not hurt your finances...you are simply an "enthusiast".
At least that's what I tell myself!
It's a hobby. I love looking at beautiful women....and if they are scantily clad or nude, even better. Add the possibility of contact and even more....and you have a great time!