Do you often go to strip clubs with other regulars/friends? If so, do you share somewhat private information about dancers? For example, if your friend likes a dancer named Candy and she does extras, would you tell him? If your friend had a CF and you get more mileage than your friend, would you tell him? Is there a line?
I have met over 60 TUSCL members. Of those I keep in contact with about 15 of them and meet about a dozen of them at my favorite club. I do share intimate information via PMs with those 15.
I've shared this many times, I often SC with friends. It varies over time, but usually somewhere around 50% of the time, I'm in a group. Over the decades, there's been a small core group, and then we sometimes invite others, who might join us for a few years then drop out, etc. The really key thing is that we're all PLs; even the new guys get a little lecture on how to behave (I wrote an article about it).
-->"For example, if your friend likes a dancer named Candy and she does extras, would you tell him? If your friend had a CF and you get more mileage than your friend, would you tell him? Is there a line?"
I've discussed at length the huge advantage of SCing with a group of other PLs, especially if there's a very high level of trust and friendship . Sharing info is one of the big advantages. Fuck yes, if Candy does extras, I tell my bro. Fuck yes, we compare mileage, that's part of the fun. There's no "line" per se. But whether or not I tell my buddy that his CF gave me more mileage is a personal call; if I think it will bum him out I won't.
Years ago, there was a guy I clubbed with frequently. We were on the same page as to what we wanted from the club experience and we'd been friends for decades. So, there was a lot of trust. We're still good friends and see each other regularly. But, he got married, had a kid, and made the decision to walk away from strip clubs.
So, I go to strip clubs on my own now and prefer it. I can go when I want, leave when I want, and not have to concern myself with anyone else. My time in the club is self-centered 'me' time. I don't get a lot of that, so I value what little I can carve out.
I met my first TUSCLer at Desire a few weeks ago. We started chatting at the bar and he used some TUSCL vocabulary terms that "outed" him. Shamefully, I don't remember his profile name. He just posts reviews; not a discussion guy.
We had a good chat. Exchanged some war stories about local clubs, as well as some tips, etc. It was cool, but there was no intent towards becoming "strip club buddies". And that's fine.
I find it super fun to club with friends. Friends + alcohol + hot scantily clad women = the fun trifecta. Confidentiality is key and not many guys can keep damn mouths shut so that limits the population. There’s 2 guys I club with but not frequently cuz they live distant. Took a close friend recently, we had a blast and he wants to go more but can’t / won’t because the dummy has his phones “share my location” synched with all family members. And yes we share info freely. Nothing to hide. None of us cares if one gets better mileage than the other.
Most of my club visits have been with friends after work. Since I started working alone, only a handful or a few more times have I been with others and most all were either bikers or TUSCLers.
If I had friends, I might SC with them. I’m an asshole, thus “friends” are far and few. I Think I had a friend several years ago, but can’t remember her name. As far as sharing secrets ... I have never kissed and told to anyone that actually knows me.
About 6 or 7 years ago I began messaging with another regular at my favorite club. Through the years we’ve compared notes anonymously and have shared intimate knowledge of many of the dancers. About a year ago I was leaving, had just gotten in my car, and there was a knock on my window. It was my “friend” who introduced himself. I only club alone because I’m an extras kind of customer and friends don’t like waiting for me to do my thing.
I use TUSCL lingo in SCs on occasion just to see if another PL recognizes it. Kind of an internal game I play. One of these days, I might accidentally meet one of you all. 😂
I think I may have figured out a couple of guys on here. Their reviews looked like things that happened while I was there. I’m thinking about messaging them but since I’m such a newb at this I figure they’ll ignore me anyway.
So far the only person I’ve gone to clubs with is my dancer friend. She’s turning into quite the wingman. lol.
shadowcat said "Be cautious? What's I private guy going to do? Say yes and beat the shit out of you or say no and beat the shit out of you for asking?"
... sigh...
No... I'm not implying that there's going to be a fight. But, in addition to not telling people that they are having fun wrong, I also don't think it's cool to insert yourself into someone else's fun uninvited.
It's a basic respect thing.
Some people go to clubs for simple reasons, and for others it's more complex. And that's none of my business.
Yeah, not all people enjoy being identified online.
There was a girl who was from the Austin area and very active on tumblr. She would constantly post selfies and vids of herself doing pole tricks and the like. At the time, I’d check tumblr often and she was one of several I’d follow.
One time I saw her in the club. And it was super slow, so it’s not like I was interrupting her customer time. But I approached her and told her that her tumblr was awesome and she’s great. It was an awkward moment and I don’t think she appreciated it very much.
Didn’t think my actions would be a big deal, if she was open enough to have as many photos of herself out there as she did...but evidentially not. I won’t be making that faux pas again lol.
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When i have met fellow TUSCLers at HKTJ i share with them which BGs were the ones I wrote about or had unusual experiences with.
I will generally not give any info, other than helping them avoid robs
-->"For example, if your friend likes a dancer named Candy and she does extras, would you tell him? If your friend had a CF and you get more mileage than your friend, would you tell him? Is there a line?"
I've discussed at length the huge advantage of SCing with a group of other PLs, especially if there's a very high level of trust and friendship . Sharing info is one of the big advantages. Fuck yes, if Candy does extras, I tell my bro. Fuck yes, we compare mileage, that's part of the fun. There's no "line" per se. But whether or not I tell my buddy that his CF gave me more mileage is a personal call; if I think it will bum him out I won't.
So, I go to strip clubs on my own now and prefer it. I can go when I want, leave when I want, and not have to concern myself with anyone else. My time in the club is self-centered 'me' time. I don't get a lot of that, so I value what little I can carve out.
I met my first TUSCLer at Desire a few weeks ago. We started chatting at the bar and he used some TUSCL vocabulary terms that "outed" him. Shamefully, I don't remember his profile name. He just posts reviews; not a discussion guy.
We had a good chat. Exchanged some war stories about local clubs, as well as some tips, etc. It was cool, but there was no intent towards becoming "strip club buddies". And that's fine.
Confidentiality is key and not many guys can keep damn mouths shut so that limits the population. There’s 2 guys I club with but not frequently cuz they live distant.
Took a close friend recently, we had a blast and he wants to go more but can’t / won’t because the dummy has his phones “share my location” synched with all family members.
And yes we share info freely. Nothing to hide. None of us cares if one gets better mileage than the other.
Think I had a friend several years ago, but can’t remember her name. As far as sharing secrets ... I have never kissed and told to anyone that actually knows me.
I only club alone because I’m an extras kind of customer and friends don’t like waiting for me to do my thing.
So far the only person I’ve gone to clubs with is my dancer friend. She’s turning into quite the wingman. lol.
Even if you get the ID correct, some guys value their privacy, etc.
This site is anonymous for more than a few reasons...
I’d message them here first for exactly that reason.
... sigh...
No... I'm not implying that there's going to be a fight. But, in addition to not telling people that they are having fun wrong, I also don't think it's cool to insert yourself into someone else's fun uninvited.
It's a basic respect thing.
Some people go to clubs for simple reasons, and for others it's more complex. And that's none of my business.
There was a girl who was from the Austin area and very active on tumblr. She would constantly post selfies and vids of herself doing pole tricks and the like. At the time, I’d check tumblr often and she was one of several I’d follow.
One time I saw her in the club. And it was super slow, so it’s not like I was interrupting her customer time. But I approached her and told her that her tumblr was awesome and she’s great. It was an awkward moment and I don’t think she appreciated it very much.
Didn’t think my actions would be a big deal, if she was open enough to have as many photos of herself out there as she did...but evidentially not. I won’t be making that faux pas again lol.