Obsessed with a Strupper
LDJunkie
Enjoying lap dances for 15 years and counting...
But on Friday I met this stripper that I absolutely can’t get over my head. She was probably around 30 years old. Beautiful in a charming sort of way, sexy as fuck without being overly slutty. She seduced me like VERY FEW strippers manage to do it.
I rarely have a conversation prior to the lap dance. I usually like to get things done straight down to business. But with this one I had a long 30 or 40 minute conversation. I told her a little bit about me, my marriage, job, interests etc. She told me she had been doing this for years but that she was also a Medical Assistant. Our chat was quite enjoyable and made me feel comfortable.
Then She gave me a good old fashioned lap dance with the intent of making me horny but didn’t liked to be touched. Only she touched me. She knew how to do her thing exceedingly well. I left short of LDK.
Thing is, I haven’t stopped thinking about her. It’s been 5 days now. That night I got home to my wife and had the most extraordinary sex with her, and while I was at it all I was thinking of was this girl. She got me obsessed. I lust for her. I have NEVER had an OTC before. But this girl just made me consider this for the first time. I swear if am tempted to look for her at the club and it’s just my fantasy to ask her out. Chat with her, dine with her, and have sex with her.
I am 34 years old, married for 7 years, a family man, reasonably happily married. But man, what the fuck is going on with me ???
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If you want to know how to convert your time with her from ITC to OTC, there are many posts here to provide any number of strategies and techniques. But they all center around two key issues:
1. Being "transparent" about what you want (i.e.: Have enough game to move from stating intent to closing the deal), and
2. Making sure she is DTF (Down To Fuck).
Bear in mind if she is willing to meet you OTC, especially if she's just a good actor, you are probably going to have to share her special place with the last guy she saw OTC, and the next.
i've thought about stripper vs. PL attractions when i pondered why do i immediately click with certain dancers and totally not click with others?
i reckoned it this way: maybe it has to do with your/my government name. (hear me out)
in my world, folks who have a name that sounds similar to mine, we get along. or if, let's say my name is steven which starts with an s. dancers whose government names are stephanie, stacey, we'll somehow get along fast. either on her side or on mine. but chicks whose names start with a first letter that's not typically associated with mine first letter, so, let's say my name starts with an s and hers start with the letter d for debbie. we won't click as fast. that's in my world. i've noticed that.
so in relation to you, find out this chick's government name. maybe it's something close to yours. or something that matches your name. i've also noticed that letters around your name can also compliment. like if my name's steve. folks with names that start with r and t, like richard and tom, we'll click because their names starts with a letter that's near mine.
take the famous duggar family on reality TV, for example: the parents with the what 18 kids where everyone in the family starts with the letter j, i believe. that's no accident. that's why they're a family. that's why you sometimes see such "cute couples" as Joan & Jeff, Chris & Christine, etc. Or even Michelle & Barack--M and B do 'go together' like millions and billions. This is also my reason why sometimes torrid love affairs pop up with folks...names and letters chemically pull them together...
i'm only answering your post this way, with this response since you seem at a loss for your attraction to this chick and you're wondering why you think of her so much. i don't have a rational answer. but i'd say start there, with her actual first name--see what her actual name is and see if it's a name that's like close to yours or compliments your name somehow. blame the attraction on that and chill on that.
you're happily married w/ kids. avoid going the otc route with her.
There was one dancer I liked so much. She never allowed anybody to touch or showed her bare tits during all dances. I was taking 5 th dance from her and started touching her tits and she said no touching baby I told her I would tip and she obliged and in the next song she showed her tits (these are not topless dances)
From then on my hands roamed freely on her.i tipped either $10 or $20
The illusion of infatuation in your case will inevitably lead to disappointment when you learn the truth about the girl/stripper.
Infatuation is “ the spark at the beginning” of a relationship that suddenly ignites with a new person, in your case you are going in your mind from a business relationship to a romantic and sexualized relationship with the girl/stripper. Because that spark, that sparkling, delightfully sexually intense feeling when you first fall in love, feels so good, you are likely to want the feeling to last forever.
The feeling of infatuation doesn’t last long once you come back to the reality.
No matter how good the match, the strong sexualized draw of infatuation, even in the best of situations, is only a temporary phenomenon associated with newness and insecurity.
You said you enjoyed sex with your wife thinking about the girl/stripper, everyone does that in occasion, thinking about a “sex symbol” during sex.
If she is not the type of girl you can get in the civil world, she is out of your league and unless you improve yourself to be in her league, she is just getting money out of you and you won’t be able to even get sex ITC or OTC unless she is in need of money and you pay the price.
You have admitted to be obsessed with this girl/stripper you probably have a fantasy that she will be able to fulfill all of your unmet emotional and sexual needs.
Obsessive people lack self-esteem. You should work on improving your self-esteem. Spend some time developing your positive attributes. Focus on taking good care of yourself by eating right, exercising and getting enough sleep.
Good luck, please let us know what happens.
Marilyn Monroe starred in a movie about it...
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The more mature and experienced strippers know how to appeal to a man's mind in addition to his body.
My recommendation as a fellow married man is to keep it all a FANTASY ITC. Even if it is "real" on her part. She sounds like good ATF material.
Last time i felt this way about anyone was a co-worker a few years ago, which led to a short affair. I am not the sort of man who is actively looking for an affair. I guess I am used to getting things the easy way, but whenever a woman makes it difficult for me to get her, it’s when I most enjoy it. That was the reason I started dating my wife in the first place, she was very good at seeming to be “disinterested” in me when I first met her.
I guess I just have to wait to cool down from the feeling and not visit the club in a month or so
I guess what intrigued me the most is that there is a slight chance we both bump (no pun intended) into each other because we both work in the medical industry (assuming she is telling the truth, that she is also a medical assistant, some of what we talked about made me think she wasn’t lying). And of course she made it look like her stripper job was no more than extra cash to her.
Whether it is a fantasy or not on her part, it's best to just stick with your intent to satisfy a fantasy by going to the club. Ask yourself: are you at the club to get your rocks off and to relieve some stress or are you looking for a relationship? If it is the former, then, seriously, you should always keep it that way regardless of how your stripper responds to you. If it is the latter, then why are you married?
“You must remember this
A kiss is just a kiss
A sigh is just a sigh
The fundamental things apply
As time goes by”
You will never get this girl to fuck you OTC. But she will be glad to string you along for months by making you think that if you just keep spending a little more money you might finally get between her legs. You’ll stupidly keep throwing money at her until one day you finally realize that you should have listened to me when you posted this.
I’m all for a PL finding his DS and falling in love with her. But this woman is not a DS. She’s a low mileage stripper.
Move on. There will be another. There always is.
Let it go.