How active are you during a regular ass lap dance

yes.

Buying Dances Is A Chump's Game

SJG

I move some, not like dry humping (thrusting), but more swaying with the music along with her moves. Like if she's been grinding, and gets up to turn to face me, I'll add a bit of twist on her hips, like we're dancing and staring a twirl. Gently though, she's the main energy in this dance.

After my trip to Follies a few months ago, my front thigh muscles were sore, from all the upward thrusting and rubbing I had been doing while girls were on top of me! :^)

If a girls asks me to remain still, I will... But she only gets one song to prove herself. She has to make up for my lack of involvement....

Front Room Makeout session.

Then when it is time for your own pants to come down, then you invite her to the back room.

SJG

i equal the back room to the VIP/champagne/whatever room is the appropriate room for close up and personal sex.

The only time I move with any fervor is when she pulls jr out and sits on him deep. At that point, game on.

penis in face and pressed on clit & asshole

It’s sort of comes from the same reason I’m not into cowgirl or reverse cowgirl at all during sex.

Letting the girl sell you dances, when there is no intimate rapport established, taking her into the dance booth to 'see if she is good', rather than because she is already being good in the front room?

SJG

What the fuck is an ass lap dance?;)

Lap dancing started at MBOT, and it meant lap sitting. All front room.

FS was prohibited, but almost no other rules. Makeout sessions, though not universal,they were common.

Most of the time the addition of booths and back rooms does not increase the mileage, it just means that the girl does not have to just let it happen. She can control it. And of course it increases the house cut.

Sell a fantasy, delivering what is mostly a con.

Front room makeout sessions completely change this.

SJG

SJG maybe you should give a lap dance a shot some time. I guarantee it’s a lot more fun than writing a 30 page essay with 40 links that nobody reads every time you post. Just enter a strip club. Then come back to me.

Muddy9, what makes me different from you is that I learn from my experiences, I don't just keep mindlessly repeating them.

You want the girl to open up and let it happen, not to preform some mechanical service upon you.

SJG

for the most part I sit back and let the dancer do her thing. but I will move along to her pace if I feel it’ll make the dance more enjoyable.

I’ll also put my hands on her hips and guide her ass to my dick because some dancers try to avoid it lol

^^^^^^^ and I say that that is the real issue with booths and back rooms. Once you have agreed to the time and money formula, you pretty much have to let her do it.

Whereas in the front room, you can give her money, but there is no standing agreement. So you should be able to lead it, and with a little charm and all, the odds of a front room makeout session are good.

Then instead of buying dances, you invite her into the back room, when it is time for your own pants to come down.

You select the girl, the one you want to be waking up with in the mornings, you approach her yourself, and you continue to see her regularly and to stay in communications with her.

SJG

^^^^^^^ and I say that that is the real issue with booths and back rooms. Once you have agreed to the time and money formula, you pretty much have to let her do it.

Whereas in the front room, you can give her money, but there is no standing agreement. So you should be able to lead it, and with a little charm and all, the odds of a front room makeout session are good.

Then instead of buying dances, you invite her into the back room, when it is time for your own pants to come down.

You select the girl, the one you want to be waking up with in the mornings, you approach her yourself, and you continue to see her regularly and to stay in communications with her.

SJG

^^^^^^^^ better in the front room, then makeout session, then when it is time for your own pants to come down, then you invite her to the back room.

SJG

Seems to me most PLs are pretty-tame when getting-dances either bc they are afraid, or bc that's the way they like it - I've seen RILs that seem like they are in a PL-trance just lightly touching a dancer like she was a delicate-flower.

I'm fairly proactive mostly in the groping department but I don't try to manhandle them like a porno-scene - IMO one can get a good-contact dance w/o being overly-physical.

^^^^^^^ And that, plus the extra house cut, is why clubs have gone to booths and backrooms. Usually it is going to better if you can do as much as possible with the girl of your choice, in the front room.

Not for free no, you should be feeding her money. But in the front room you should be able to better lead it.

SJG

@muddy - why not put SJG on ignore? It will erase all of his bullshit from this thread.

I'm right there with you Muddy. But I never get the comments to chill or calm down, man your thrusts must be on some Peter North powerful type shit lol. Or maybe it depends on the dancers you pick.

@Pauldrake alright it’s done. I mean I just can’t do it anymore. It’s amusing to make fun of for a while but then it just becomes incessant.

I don’t get the comments either, but I also don’t just go for it right off the bat. I pay attention to the signals she’s sending. If she’s not sending them it’s usually one and done.

My hands are everywhere and I hump back

I keep a light touch and let her do the dance.

I prefer to do all the "work." She's welcome to join in but I'll lead things since I'm the one spending money.

That kind of preference is more likely when it’s a younger guy lol. I remember the last time I was cool with the customer pulling my hair (who was buying a shit ton of dances from me), and also just being generally enthusiastic like you, then I got to hear it from a manager. Who threatened to move me to day shift and also later trash talked about me loudly to the house mom.

Though somewhere in that yelling was claiming stuff like the customer was playing with my crotch and making out...and those two things I didn’t do. (But I have other reasons to suspect there was an axe to grind with me anyways.)

So lol yeah in short it may just not be allowed. Or at minimum may cause negative attention.

I grind, hump, rub, even doggie style during the lap dance as much as she allows it. Even though my hands are wandering through her ass cheeks most of the time, when I am about to LDK, I try to grab her by the waist to control her riding as much as possible. Some girls don’t like me to take control of the lap dance but I can’t help it.

It depends, at a club with a dancer I lay back and enjoy. With my bitches I do whatever I want. With my main bitch we fuck afterwards. I usually get a lap dance each morning.

With my bitches the impotent little progressive wjho calls others misogynist proved once again that only a d bag can be a progressive.

During a lap dance, I enjoy following her lead while I subtly push the boundaries.

I think it’s a big “it depends”. For me, I enjoy striving to make a connection with the dancer, if only for the moment of the dance. Sometimes the connection happens, frequently it does not. And that connection (or lack thereof) can impact the dancer’s activity, and thus my response to it. That’s why, for me, one-way touching just doesn’t make the cut.

I smash those titty buttons!

I dont really move around too much, sometimes ill lift the girl up, like cradling her by her ass lol i like to caress and kiss all over too but it really depends on the girl, the vibe, her body type, the club setup etc and none of that is going to happen from one dance except maybe caressing. You gotta work your way up to biting and caressing her asscheeks and getting a horny giggle or moan in response instead of a slap and security lol its really all about the energy, some girls you have it with, some you dont

I'm the laid back sort. Hell, aren't I paying to be given some TLC. There are times I'll move my hips with her, to let her know I'm enjoying what she's doing.

I take my cue from the girl dancing.........some want you to sit back and relax....others not so much.

I rarely do lapdances -- I don't see the point, I'm not an LDKer, etc. Would rather qualify her better then go to VIP. When I do do lapdances, I mostly just sit there and let my hands roam as much as possible.