Do dancers care if you’re married?
Someone mentioned that dancers would go broke without their married customers. I suspect this is true, but last night I met a dancer that really seemed to prefer that I’m single. We talked about relationship stuff like unfaithful boyfriends and how porn can make a girl feel extremely insecure about herself. Good conversation. I felt like she really opened up about herself which I enjoyed because I enjoy dances a lot more when I’ve made a connection with the girl.
Right before she started the dance she asked some follow up questions. Almost like she was checking if my story would stay consistent. Then she proceeded to do a great job.
I wonder if I had been lying and she caught me if she would not have been as intimate with her dance.
I guess it’s probably just a case by case basis where their reaction ranges from disgust all the way to enthusiasm when they know the man is sneaking around.
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last commentFor the most part, strong feelings about this are reserved for newbie strippers.
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The problem isn't married customers, the problem is married tricks looking for hookers in the club.
I don't think it should matter whether the girl is married or not.
But when she asks you questions, about anything, its to size you up.
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Sounds like she's a baby stripper. Give her 6 months and she'll probably have a very different perspective.
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Another realistic possibility is that she just told you what she thought you'd want to hear. For all you know, her next target was an older married man and she told him that she prefers married guys because they are less likely to fall in love and stalk her. It's called hustling for a reason. ;)
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Experienced strippers figure a married guy is more hard up for sex and see cash. Makes sense it's a different hustle than with single guys.
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Never met one that seemed to care
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I don’t think she was a baby stripper. She was very comfortable and she fully understood that a good LD isn’t about dance moves.
She also didn’t make me feel like there was a hustle. She was really good at the conversation part and thinking back on it I suspect that she has topics that she brings up in order to figure out what her customers are looking for. I think that whether or not I’m single was only a small part of it all.
I’m really happy with the way it all went and would get dances from her again if I go back to that club.
Being a stripper is a lot more complex than I ever imagined. I’m kind of amazed at just how good she is at those less obvious parts of the job.
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BL posted: "She also didn’t make me feel like there was a hustle."
The best ones never do BL. ;)
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Yup. And that makes it all the more impressive. Oscar worthy performance for a few bills
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I get asked all the time if I am married. I assume it's because of my age. I am widowed and soon as the girls know that, I normally get really good dances.
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Some of them like married guys better because they will not talk about whatever happens
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Dancers love married guys especially if they have kids. Many dancers are single moms and the find married guys easier to talk to. Its also because many dancers have father issues and are seeking affection.
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Almost always no.
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Since I'm single, I have no doubt some of them do care about that, but mostly, you're just money to them.
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Married, divorced, single, polyamorous...it makes no difference to me as long as they're spending.
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To the extent that it gives a dancer another clue as to how to get you to spend money, I think they “care.” Beyond that, some reasons I’ve heard for “caring” about whether a guy is married:
less likely to want to go on real dates.
more likely to keep certain activities on the downlow.
less likely to be a boisterous jerk who wants to get al handsy without tipping.
more likely to tip decently, or at all.
less likely to treat her like a whore, regardless of whether she is or not.
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Lots of good responses here.
@GMD: +1 for accuracy as to what he’s “heard” or experienced
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They don't if you are married. All they care about is . How much money they can get from you.
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Dancers tell me all the time how they prefer my small penis and man does it help make a connection
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I assume married guys are seen as preferring to just keep it business vs wanting to date them or stalk them (but of course it's no guarantee).
Some usually young and/or inexperienced dancers may see married custies as douches cheating on their wife.
Off the top of my head I can't think why a dancer would prefer a single vs married custy (not to say that they'll avoid single custies)
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Most dancers I've met get really disappointed when they learn that I'm married.
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^ LOL - it's not fair that you're off the market
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Married men are their specialty.
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They only care if you can pay them....questions about you personal life are just to size you up
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^I thought that was what the handshake was for.
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My original ATF stopped contact with me for 2 months when I was going through my divorce. She was afraid of getting dragged into it. She was very relieved when I told her that I had settled out of court.
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I don't think she cared, I think it's just a conversation starter or continuer and by building that connection she was able to make you enjoy the dances more.
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