Advice needed for a dancer that has rejected me twice (She initiated)
Liwet
If she walks away smiling, you spent too much.
I was not the one to pursue her. The first time, we made eye contact, she came over to me and sat in my lap, and we made small talk. She eventually got to her sales spiel and asked me into the VIP rooms. I countered with a reasonable offer ($100) on the floor and she turned me down and left. The second time, she came over and didn't recognize me, so I went right into my offer of what I wanted and what I wanted to pay and she got up and left without even saying anything.
At this point, I don't ever intend to give her money. Her rejections have caused me to focus on her negatives so it's easy for my psyche to not "have" her. My thinking is that if she ever sits in my lap again without recognizing me, I'm going to talk to her for a long time and caress her fantasy of getting me into an expensive VIP room. I figure at some point I'll get her to show me her breasts and maybe even getting a tour out of her as well. Only then will I turn her down and hopefully she'll remember me from now on.
But this seems childish too. Any advice would be appreciated.
At this point, I don't ever intend to give her money. Her rejections have caused me to focus on her negatives so it's easy for my psyche to not "have" her. My thinking is that if she ever sits in my lap again without recognizing me, I'm going to talk to her for a long time and caress her fantasy of getting me into an expensive VIP room. I figure at some point I'll get her to show me her breasts and maybe even getting a tour out of her as well. Only then will I turn her down and hopefully she'll remember me from now on.
But this seems childish too. Any advice would be appreciated.
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I don't do VIP. In my experience, $100 continuously is not low, and the girls that would accept it are the ones worth pursuing.
"Maybe just keep telling her what you want and how much you want to pay"
Maybe, but it's a chore.
If it makes you feel better, waste your time.
However, you could use that time, energy, and money to pursue someone who will accept your offer and show you a good time.
I would move on and find another dancer to spend my money on.
Also I think you guys are missing that Liwet wasn't trying to get VIP he was just wanting floor dances.
However if I remember correctly Liwet is really picky/demanding about how he wanted his dances done, pre-negotiating level of touch and telling them in advance to stay in a certain position. So I would bet the issue is a combination of the offer not being ultra generous and the terms being a bit demanding. And I would agree with everyone else that intentionally pissing off a dancer is a bad idea.
I am the kind of person I would do the opposite. I would bring up the fact that I pissed her off before and then apologize and ask specifically what I did that made her mad.
$100/3 songs
$150/15 minutes
$275/30 minutes
$400/60 minutes
There's usually additional fees on top of this (between 20 and 50 percent) and if you want special rooms at that rate you have to pay $150 to $300 for bottle service. My city is not known for extras.
At my highest spending levels, I really can't afford more than $100 per girl per month.
PaulDrake- You're right, I did misinterpret that he offered $100 for floor. Maybe her club set a rule on needing a certain number of VIP's sold each night by each girl? Who knows.
The next time she comes over - you could ask her for her rates. If her rates are exorbitant - she’s possibly got a case of GPS.
If she comes over and acts aloof or doesn’t reply to your comments - she’s playing games. I don’t go to strip clubs to play head games - so I’d say bye bye to her.
Time and energy are best used finding what you’re looking for rather than concerning yourself with someone who doesn’t seem to be a good option.
Honestly though, if your budget is that tight, you might want to consider a different hobby.
$100 for floor-dances is fair - there are some dancers that don't wanna do regular dances and just wanna do VIP - it's her right but I tend to blackball dancers like-that where they make it seem as if regular-dances are beneath them, they come across as supa-greedy bitches.
Anyway - hard to know if it was a misunderstanding or her thinking $100 for dances was beneath her - if it's the latter then best to just move-on.
san_jose_guy - commonly referred to as SJG this forum member is usually mocked or ignored, his comments should NOT be taken in any way as legitimate
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Strippers expect money. You can hand her front room money. But best if you select the girl and approach her yourself. Shouldn't send her away with nothing. If you want her, steer her to your own bed ASAP. If she is unaffordable, well maybe have to pass. But if you are open and generous that should help.
SJG
Or get a second job so you can afford the hobby
"if your budget is that tight, you might want to consider a different hobby."
I don't really understand this? What's wrong with spending frugally at a strip club?
Find another girl who will happy to take your $100.
Well it leads to post like this where you sound frustrated and "I'm going to talk to her for a long time and caress her fantasy of getting me into an expensive VIP room."
why dude? dont force it. she is supposed to sell you VIPs and you have to weed through the squares.