Keeping your ATF in line

WWJD

Tell them you know where to find them and you're in charge. What I won't do is be scared to go to a club because of one, so I'm down with the get dances from other gals strategy. When trading digits up front let then know my favorite dancer is variety so dont get attached.

It sounds like you think of her as your property. In my opinion not a way to treat someone you supposedly like.

I don't think the OP understands what an ATF is. A true ATF and there can only be one. would not treat you like that.

To answer your concerns:

1. here texting at 10PM: block her number if you don't want her texts
2. her taking their time to walk over to you: deal with it, she isn't your servant that is waiting for you at the door with your smoking jacket and slippers for when you arrive
3. her eyeing other customers after you bought her a drink: try engaging her in order to keep her attention

Sounds like the ATF has run it's course and it might be time for you to move on to someone new since it sounds like both of you do not relish the time together anymore.

I'm thinking he has some kind of domination fetish that she used to indulge for his money, whether consciously or not. Now she sees him as not worth the effort.

Good points @pistola @shadowcat @iam4u2screw I had a few in the past that knew thier place. My dream is that I run into them again. Can you believe that I once had an ATF who would jump off stage as soon as I came into the bar and run over to me? I got greedy and stopped seeing her for need of variety. Worst mistake ever.

@flagooner I was like you in my early days then I got spoiled. I hate to be the guy in a mcdonalds bitchin about mortons quality, but it is what it is

dang NJB i’ve never had a girl do that! must be ❤️!

You act as if you own them or something. They don't owe you anything.

What a fucking turd. Backhand them? Fucking pussy. Knew their place? I know your place: you're a piss stain on a dirty mattress, that is your place. By the way stupid, all time favorite means one.

@Skibum: tell us how you really feel. LOL

I do agree with ya though

If you’re going to make a stripper an ATF, you’ve pretty much set yourself up for the fact that she didn’t choose you as her ATF customer. Not meaning to be harsh with the comment but I don’t think you can keep her in line and you’ll just end up frustrated.

Doing lines will keep everyone in line.

You need to get a new girl and if it pisses off the CF Then tell her to straighten up or your moving on to some one that will give you what you want

That simple

I guess I'm just not cool enough to feel like I need to keep someone in line.

Reading through all these comments just makes me feel lucky to be this spoiled.My ultimate ATF was a girl who would get me to LDK twice in a 5-6 dance set. Drop dead gorgeous and looked like marina visconti. Was soo spoiled at the time I never bothered asking for her number. We built a good rapport over time. She knew I paid/tipped well, was respectful when it came to touching, and held good conversation at the bar. She would jump down to greet me because the other girls at the time would try to claim me. The sexiest thing she'd do cling harder to me when other girls spent too much time to talking to me. IT was cute.

imgur.com

All white knight comments aside the major lesson I want to give to everyone is if you ever get as lucky as I was take down her number lol. This girl was in the club religiously for 2 years, but all of the sudden dissapeared. Sometimes Ill watch an old Marina film for the memories.

pornhub.com

Well, being spoiled turned you into an ass.

@flagooner jealous

If you say so.

DC9428... that youtube clip and #2 of that series is funny. scary funny ... that a animated drawing can be... attractive like that. maybe more attractive than i feel comfortable with

Have you tried telling her that you ran out of money because you spent it on another girl earlier?

Lol good one, my ATF are some of the smartest women i know. When i enter the bar they might now always run up to me, but they play a game of chess where if another girl starts to get close they will suddently become my best friend. We may write off dancers a lot, but I find they are pretty cunning. Knowing when to approach you and how to empty your wallet quickly when they have another customers in the bar

"This girl was in the club religiously for 2 years, but all of the sudden dissapeared. Sometimes Ill watch an old Marina film for the memories."

Like shadowcat said, an ATF is the All Time Favorite. There can be only one, although multiple posters here want to quibble about it for reasons that I'm sure are important to them. This girl of the moment you're complaining about doesn't sound like an ATF contender, let alone the title holder. The one you're still longing after sounds like a winner.

Example - There were three girls this year who were in the discussion of taking the ATF title that someone's held on my list for 10 years. One of them stole from me while doing something that otherwise strengthened her case, the second is someone who will get too attached and I like too much to shitcan, and the third just freaked out. The third literally was one more meet up from getting the invite for a regular arrangement, but her life is so fucked up she'd rather fight about how badly everyone else treats her than be cool and not complicate my day by acting crazy.

How do I deal with a batshit crazy near-ATF? I'm giving her another day to remember that she created the "problem" and to hold herself accountable for her own behavior. I don't expect this to happen, so what's probably going to happen is we'll stop talking to each other and she'll feel better about herself for setting someone straight. "Keeping her in line" for my convenience would mean further damaging someone who doesn't need any more problems.

The shortest distance to a destination is a straight-line (Confucius - or maybe it was Juice, can't remember) - anyway it's usually best to be direct and let them know your needs/expectations and find a middle-ground where both parties are getting what they need.

Also - you may not be spending enough on them for them to wanna give you exclusive treatment - but not uncommon for dancers to become complacent with regs and/or get tired of them

Their still strippers. Why do you expect them to be reliable at all?

Honestly I think you're SOL. A hot girl in a northeast club is just not going to make a guy who cums in his own pants for $100-120 a priority. You'll just have to be content with them squeezing you in between more serious spenders who actually like to take their dicks out of their pants and spend accordingly. ;)

@NJBalla

Show up to the club with no money. Waste everyone's time. They can't play you if you have nothing to give xD

Foreskin

NJB make sure the bouncer is right next to you and then backhand them just like you said. if there's two bouncers try to get them both really close to you. yell something really obscene just to make sure they pay attention. from what i can gather this will be easy for you.

lol bouncers, shows how much clubs you go to in NJ willy, at regulars clubs you never need bouncers. However, in a perfect world I could tell the manager what the girl is doing and he'd backhand her himself

Just for the record all these comments in and njb is still happy to talk about backhanding dancers

@DC and @Willy yes my clubs dont have bouncers. Looks like the both of you should go to the gym before clubbing in the future. It makes the backhand stronger.

youtube.com

Level up bitches!

ya’all with atf’s... it’s almost like marriage with some of you.

DC... yes. that first girl in #2. pretty hot!

njb is wrong clanceys does sometimes have bouncers. certainly on weekend nights. njb overstates his knowledge significantly. i'm beginning to think he's a teenage boy

@willy my only regret about joining tuscl is revealing the benefits of TUSCL, clancys security staff dont classify as bouncers. They never check the LD room and seem to just be there to enjoy the show. In fact the only reason they come is to keep you from messing up the bathroom

Maybe try some different clubs so your presence will be missed again in your absence.