Dancer - Do you mind if I give him a dance first?
shadowcat
Atlanta suburb
I've had a few times when I have been sitting with a favorite and she sees another of her regular customers come in and then she asks "Do you mind if I go give him a dance first? He usually doesn't stay long".
I always say yes because I don't want to rock the boat but at the same time I feel like I am being taken advantage of. She knows that I am a sure thing and will still be there. However I am not a total PL. While she is gone I will get dances from others that I find attractive and if she should wind up taking the other guy to VIP, she has lost my business. At least for that day.
I always say yes because I don't want to rock the boat but at the same time I feel like I am being taken advantage of. She knows that I am a sure thing and will still be there. However I am not a total PL. While she is gone I will get dances from others that I find attractive and if she should wind up taking the other guy to VIP, she has lost my business. At least for that day.
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I was furious with her when she finally got back. Then she promised me some extra sexual favors on the date that we had scheduled for the next night. I got over it.
It also signals to me that the dancer is not worried about losing me as a customer. Even being asked (regardless of whether I say yes or no) is not the experience that I want.
1) I get right of first refusal. She always has to check with me first and if I want to get dances right away then we do so. If that means the other guy may go with someone else or he can't wait, then too bad.
2) Any time that I lose while waiting is made up with flirting and hanging out at the bar or tables for the same amount of time. If she leaves for 10-15 minutes for 2-3 dances as I wait, then she will hang out and flirt with me for the same time before our dances.
With this arrangement I have no issues. Also in general I make it clear with my faves to always assume I'm next for dances with them and if they see me ITC they should come over ASAP and let me know where I stand in terms of spending time with them.
Interestingly, later I learned that after I spoke with another dancer on my way out one day, this CF came up to her and accusingly asked her "so when did you get to be so friendly with magicrat?" She apparently didn't want to share my wallet with any of the other dancers there.
For me, I will try to honor appointments if it was made in advance. But sometimes if they’re dicking around with getting dances or tipping, then I’ll politely excuse myself for a few songs as a quiet reminder. But I come back and usually that’s all it takes.
If you like to do a sit and chit chat thing, maybe offer to buy her the club lunch/dinner? If she does, then she will be forced to sit with you for however long it takes to eat.
@cashmen : Those are some fast paced hustlers there. No stopping in the dressing room first to mouthwash/bodyspray between body fluid type of dances? :p
There are a lot of ways for her to go wrong though. If she goes back and does a room or whatever, it means I'm not doing dances/rooms with her that day. Any time she's spent with me that day is lost investment on her part. If she does that with any consistency it won't be long before I take my business elsewhere. I don't get offended or upset about it, I just move on. Obviously, its a sliding scale depending on how much I like the girl. If she's just average, I tolerate a lot less and stray a lot easier. If she's remarkable I'm more likely to stay.
Also, I don't wait for her to finish, so to speak. If while I'm sitting there I find some other form of entertainment I'm going to have fun. Maybe its just a dance or two, maybe its a new fave, maybe something in between. If I get bored, I'll leave.
There's way too many options there for one to get cuaght up in their feelings
She has always been one of the most popular dancers in the club. If she is sitting with someone when I get there, she stops during her tip round and tells me how long she expects to be, and she recognizes that I could get another dancer for one or more. One night, we we're sitting together at the bar, and she went on stage. Another regular had come in and asked her if she could dance for him. She came back and asked me if it would be OK and said, "It's OK if you say no!" I told her to go make some money, and that I would be there when she finished. Four songs later (~1/2 hour) they were done, I had gotten to watch a few nice naken women, and she had cleared $80 more money than she would have if I had refused. Another time, a guy snagged her on a tip round after her stage set. Same deal, she asked first and I said sure. This guy got ten lap dances (which says a lot about the quality of her dances!) and I admit I was a bit pissed off at him, lol. When she came out, five minutes from the nominal end of her shift, she apologized profusely and said she had been afraid that I would have gotten pissed off and left. "No way," I said, "You're worth waiting for.". She stayed 45 minutes past her normal quitting time and threw in a couple of free dances on top of that. That kind of give and take has been a part of our relationship from the first time.
I didn't have faves back then either but there were dancers at this club I'd get w/ every time I visited (along w/ other dancers).
One older big-booty AA-girl I would always get dances w/ would always make a beeline for me as soon as she saw me - this was a mixed-club w/ mostly Mexican laborers that didn't spend much and preferred to drink - so selling dances and making good-$$$ was not that easy especially for the AA girls - and why she would always make a beeline for me whenever I visited.
One weekend eve I get there and after 10-minutes of settling-in she spots me and approaches me - she tells me she'll be back and I assume maybe in 10-minutes so she can get her sure-$$$ - she proceeds to work the room for about 90-minutes b/f getting back to me (since it was a busy night) - this is not the type of club where dancers sit and chat w/ custies for long periods of times; most dancers basically lap-hop - I *was* taken a bit aback at her putting me in the back-burner sorta speak and getting to me seemingly when she had exhausted all her options working the room - I wasn't exactly pissed b/c I didn't go there specifically to see her and I always got dances from several different dancers (and did on that night as I usually did) - but it was so obvious she was taking me for granted and leaving me for last sorta as for me to not interfere w/ her $$$-making - I still got-dances from her b/c like I said I did not go there to specifically see her; but just how obvious it was.
But I handle it one of two ways, either "have fun but don't take too long" with a sly wink, or "let's go, he can wait" depending on how I'm feeling.
If we pre-plan a visit, then I would be annoyed if my CF wanted to get a dance with someone else.
For the times when I just show up unannounced, then I don't expect her to spend time with me exclusively.
Especially lately, since there are a few hot new girls that I like.
And they know you're a whiny little bitch, lol.