Insulted
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Older than dirt
I received a text from a dancer which I copied below:
"Ur literally the only.man that makes me feel so uncomfortavle w myself and i wish u wld stop. We can b great friends then all of a sudden u pull this shit that makes me less than impreased w u and question the kind of man u r deep dwn"
1. Should I be insulted?
2. Should I offer to teach her proper grammar & spelling?
3.i had asked her to fuck the night before and she declined. Do I need a better approach?
4. In the next paragraph I was called a pervert. Should I be complimented?
"Ur literally the only.man that makes me feel so uncomfortavle w myself and i wish u wld stop. We can b great friends then all of a sudden u pull this shit that makes me less than impreased w u and question the kind of man u r deep dwn"
1. Should I be insulted?
2. Should I offer to teach her proper grammar & spelling?
3.i had asked her to fuck the night before and she declined. Do I need a better approach?
4. In the next paragraph I was called a pervert. Should I be complimented?
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If we take her at face value, you tried the nice approach (friends) to manipulate her, then asked for sex. That's not a good because they don't like 'nice guys' (manipulative). But that's a stretch for me to assume that based on the gibberish she provided. She did call you a pervert so maybe something was creeping her out and you should back off and circle back later. Probably just your timing is wrong. Keep flirting with her then try again later.
She's been away and has returned but is pregnant & im to accompany her for an abortion. Last night I asked to collect on one of the "dates". She denied, saying I told her to forget about them when she left. I had the temerity to call her a liar and tell her that I intended to collect or there would be consequences. Fuck her if she can't take a joke.
It's reverse psychology on her part. "I hate you, you're an asshole," just makes you try harder.
Perfect example - I have a friend that dated a girl younger than him. She was a gold digger and he was on the fence about her... until she said she didn't want to see him anymore. Then it offended him and he went all out on her. 3 years later, has a kid out of wedlock, had to wife her up, then get a house, and a new BMW for her. She got what she wanted, he's miserable. Reverse psychology worked on him.
Fuck her, whether or not she can take a joke that’s my opinion.
THAT will make her uncomfortable.
I agree about returning the car.
This sounds like your ATF - but my memory might be off.
Free advice that I'm sure you'll ignore: don't get quite so involved in the lives of strippers you chase. No disrespect, but I think you like drama.
And then f2f there is always the possibility of preliminary physical friendliness. Civilianize the interaction.
SJG
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Gawker this story is way too fragmented for us to truely see whats going on. We need more detail and some narrative.
I drive a 20+ y/o POS-mobile that has a blue book value of about $500, 4 wheels, an engine, and it gets me from A-to-B.
I'm in the "Autumn of my Years" at age 72 with myriad health problems. She at age 32 is still a very beautiful woman, who brings me both pain & pleasure. She's no longer the cute blonde I first met about 9 years ago, but she is understanding and helpful (I.e. We recently were in bed together. Despite having taken vitamin V I was as limp as can be. It was like trying to put a clam in a slot machine. She cuddled, we talked, I gave her a full body massage and she then began massaging my back, then my ass, then there was a stirring in my loins. She rolled me onto my back and performed magic tricks with her tongue & lips . I developed a resemblance to an erection and got off in about 10 seconds. Far from having great sex, but I might the next time.
My point: there's an affection there which is unique in my experience, is not normal in our type of relationship, and to me is worth all the crazy shit we go through. We could easily both be admitted to a psychiatric ward, but the guy's with the nets haven't caught us yet. She's been clean since Christmas and claims she no longer has cravings for dope. So on one hand I'm bragging while on the other I'm warning about what can happen.
Based on reading your writings here, it’s obvious you have feelings for her. Those feelings go well beyond just sex. You have been through quite a lot with her, and if it was only sex, I think things would have ended long ago.
I’m not sure about your ATF’s motivations. I just don’t know - as I’ve not seen her writings about your relationship. I’d like to think she has a deep emotional attachment to you.
However, since you provide her with more necessities - and a safe harbor - it’s very difficult to see where her attachment lies.
Then - at some point - I realize that her body is your avatar - and then I understand a bit more.
I’m not saying it’s all about pussy. But a hot bodied 30’something can be very enticing.