Dancer: Let me walk you to the door
PeterEaster
Virginia - Last seen being walked to the door
Spent a couple hours with a fav in the club, and when I told her it was time for me to leave, she said (as she usually does) "Let me walk you to the door." So we walked to the entrance together, said our goodbye's, and a final hug. I think it's a nice little gesture to cap off a visit. Thoughts?
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It makes some guys feel special lol. Like she really gives a F about him.
Some PLs are so jaded about a stripper just being polite and nice I wonder how they have fun in the club. The whole point of a strip club is giving man a fantasy. Then it ends.
I think that's mission accomplished from the dancers POV. Just enjoy it for any try not to over ANALyze it too much. But if you do, then re-read Bj99's and rickdugan's posts by all means as that's likely what a seasoned hustler (dancer) is thinking.
Just enjoy the gesture and move on.
She's getting paid to make you feel good and she's doing that in all ways possible if she's a good business woman. Sometimes it is physical, sometimes it is emotional. When a PL enjoys either, it doesn't mean he has "fallen for" one or the other.
I haven't seen one post by PLs that enjoy the gesture simply for what it is as thinking a stripper is really liking them beyond the service that it is. LOL what's evident is you making a false assumption in your post.
Some PLs are capable of thinking in multiple dimensions as they enjoy a stripper being nice to them in addition to knowing they just paid for it (no shit!).
^ @PeterEaster LOL I think the most cynical ones are the ones that have fallen the hardest for the emotional trap before IRL and so they assume others can't separate emotional fantasy from reality just like they did at one time.
Also at my club it is pretty common for all the dancers just to be like that. It's done as more of the "club norm" depending on how the customer leaves her than possession of him. And it is not a busy club where strippers are immediately going to other customers so there's no time for small talk and "long" goodbyes.
Though I do see Bj99's POV. the practice is overwhelming used by possessive dancer types and RIL types. That's probably where the negative connotation comes from. Similarly to LDK and PE argument.
I maintain the club is a pseudosocial environment.
To me the club is to be enjoyed for all the ways provided to the PL. It's a fantasy experience to make a PL feel like a king, so I just enjoy it for what it is on all fantasy levels and role play being that king for the time I'm there.
It's like enjoying a video game for what it is instead of "realizing" that the game is a fake simulation and then not playing it anymore just because it's not the "real thing".
And yes, it is a GIVEN that I'm paying for it because it is kind of hard to ignore that I'm emptying my wallet in the process.
i don't care about/want to be walked to the door, but my CF always gives me a big hug before i leave the club and she sits with me prior to....and even after i've bought dances with her.
But what I do get is CF/ATF sitting next to me or has gone to bathroom/smoke...Another girl walks up chatting me up and starts to broach dances or something....she'll come right up to the girl and tell her "I don't think so." I know its all about the money, but I can't help but be tickled a little by the possessiveness.
I was OTC the other day and she said hey, what about so-and-so, I heard she jumped in your lap when I was off....And I said yeah, I couldn't help myself...A guy friend was with me and he was cracking up at my antics....and quite frankly the girl was decent looking I'm just going to have to get some dances....She says, what did you pay her 100? (I paid her 200)...No comment from me...She says, I'm going to have to talk to that bitch when I get in....She's just kidding, but still where else can a guy go and have some fine ass women arguing over him...Nowhere in real life that's for sure...
it is a rare treat.
:)
And who gives a fuck whether or not she's "genuine" about her intentions? Taken at face value, stripper B is the better stripper and she always gets my business over stripper A. And yes I know full well they both equally want my money.
My ATF DS is a stripper B type. Hence, she gets my business. (Not to mention that she's a totally hot and sexy 9+ and she gives the best high mileage lap dances.)
I can’t count how many times I’ve had a talk with a dancer that was just sitting with me telling her it was ok to go work the crowd. It’s a job and I don’t want to be responsible for making her whole night. They often leave thier purse or something else with me when they go try to get other dances. I didn’t know how I felt about that first. I joked with one of them that I felt like she was marking her territory, she laughed and said that was exactly it. She also said that it meant she trusted me, other wise she would have left something worthless, instead of her purse with a lot of $$$ in it.
--bj
and what's preventing him from still saying hi or goodbye to anyone else?? as he's walking out he still has the freedom to tell said dancer "one minute, just have to say hello to someone before i go"
I guess I don't see it as possessive behavior, because I refuse to be owned. YMMV
I think that sums it up for me. The biggest risk for a PL at a strip club is to read too much into things, and even experienced PLs sometimes make that mistake, so I understand why some guys here keep pounding on the fact that it's part of her service... but, for those guys not at such risk, no reason not to enjoy that part, as much as you enjoy her sitting on your lap, or flirting with you at the table -- every single one of those examples is exactly as much "calculated service" as anything else.
BJ99-->"It’s not good manners. It’s rude to guard a customer. He should be given an opportunity to say hi, or goodbye, to other dancers...It’s a sneaky thing to do, but if it goes over so well, maybe I’ll have to start."
It goes over very well. Sometimes, I *do* want to say goodbye to other people (strippers, bouncer, bartender, etc), in which case I say, "let me say goodbye to so-and-so, come with me or I'll say bye and then I'll be back." I realize some customers have trouble using their words, but I don't. If she offers to walk me to the door and I'm not ready, I tell her so. But that almost never happens, and I like it and in fact strongly prefer it. Whether you think it's sneaky or not, I'd bet many of your customers will like it.
You should try it sometime.
I’ll give you another example, very often I have clients at my place of business, we will conduct our business then when it is finished I’ll walk the client to his car. I’m not trying to guard them.
Even in your scenario let’s say yo did guard him what’s to prevent him from going down the road to another club. There are several areas here where there are clusters of clubs just a short drive apart.
^ If that's the way you "enjoy" clubbing, with cynicism, I got no issue. I'm just saying rather than be cynical about it, I take it at face value and enjoy it for what it is. And taking it positively at face value doesn't have to cost you any more than cynic who scorns at all SS.
And FWIW I think it is just as pathetic on the RIL that thinks her friendliness is anything more than good customer service.
In my experience I go about the whole experience of clubbing with realistic optimism and have fun with it. To be negative and cynical about all strippers' intentions is not that fun and a boner kill. But that's just me.
FWIW I'm open to ALL reasons that strippers and customers do what they do.
^ Walking a customer to the door *could* go hand-in-hand with BOTH being possessive AND better customer service.
It depends mainly on how much you paid for her 2 hours of time.How much you paid?
Eye think the mane reason is two make it more difficult four other dancers two approach him.
Is it better customer service?
If that is how it is perceived buy the custie, then yes it is. Eye just think it is a byproduct (whether intended or knot) and knot the mane reason four the accompaniment.
"FWIW I'm open to ALL reasons that strippers and customers do what they do."
Pretty simple
Strippers - $$$$
Customers - sexual gratification
Absent being guarded all night, the meaning I take away from being accompanied to the door is: "I would like to interact with you again". As with most things in life, there can be multiple layers of meaning. A stripper leaving her purse with a customer is a sign of trust of a customer. Making a display of trust toward a mark also happens to be an essential element of various types of cons.
Obviously, accompanying a customer to the door can also be seen as communicating to all the other dancers: "This is my exclusive regular, don't butt in", so it can have its downsides. A dancer can do that in the dressing room in a way that doesn't benefit me, too, though, so I just put in a little more initiative when I want to mix it up if that seems to be going on.
Similarly, sometimes I tip my favorite dancer of a visit before walking myself to the door while she is still on stage. It ends the visit on a non-awkward friendly note and I get to see her up-close before leaving (compare: just slinking off into the night or trying to glance a good-bye while she's sitting at another table) It might also encourage her to come say hi during a later visit which is OK, too.
It doesn't mean you have to be cynical about every little action. A walk to the door sounds harmless. If you're truly ready to go, that's fine. If not, tell the chick you still wanna check out some other dancers.
"FWIW I'm open to ALL reasons that strippers and customers do what they do."
Pretty simple
Strippers - $$$$
Customers - sexual gratification"
^ @flagooner I already said "no shit" to that point several times.
Are you using Goggle translate to write your posts now?
To me the really good strippers are like her. They are completely above the petty parts of the overall hustle and simply provide a good customer experience from the beginning of meeting a customer to the point that he's leaving her satisfied however it may be.
And they are especially not possessive. I have had that type leech onto me but in my experience the possessive types are not the ones that walk me to the door. The possessive types are the ones that sit down with me uninvited and can't take a hint to leave.
And by contrast the really good strippers have zero hustle other than making a guy feel great the entire time without bringing in any drama or competition with other strippers. Theses strippers are rare indeed but they can be found. My backup CF is like this more so than my ATF DS.
In my experience the ones that walk me to the door are the ones that know I'm going home anyway
So, just like her, I'm in it for money reasons as well.
"Her walking me to the door is "free" and a non-essential."
What am I doing wrong????
I have to pay my fav $20 for the privilege of receiving the exceptional customer service of her escorting me to the door.
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For me a $20 tip is about the max I'll tip any stripper for an LDK but it has to be at least four sings. I've given my ATF DS $40 when we do half hours once in a blue moon. On average I tip her $5 - $15 tip for 2-3 high mileage LDK dances. But that's just me.
She does better.
I point out which dancers I find attractive and ask for her opinion on them. She has saved me so much money by letting me know how lame they are.
That service she gives me for free.
petereaster. good topic.
I do this for any customer who I’m with for more than just a few dances—just to be nice! Some of you need to relax!!