When she asks for a tip, how do you let her down?

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• Papi_Chulo

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  7 years ago

  Yeah, it does put one on the spot - I don't have a go-to answer for that but maybe I should think of one for future encounters - I usually don't say anything and just walk-away
• BigPoppa99

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  7 years ago

  ;) I tell her the truth. If she sucked and was good... I tend to give her a tip. If she asks, and performed less than mediocre, I tell her how she can improve and say, next time. lol
• Chili Palmer

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  7 years ago

  Just pay her what is owed. If she asks for a tip, just shake your head and politely tell her "no." They rarely persist and if they do, stand your ground. It's not difficult. You're not there to train her, and if she doesn't do anything you think is tipworthy, then sack up and politely tell her it's not gonna happen. CP
• theDirkDiggler

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  7 years ago

  IME, the girls that tend to ask for tips are the ones that do the least for them. So they ask for them, because they are almost certainly not getting them otherwise. I just pay for the dance (as these girls are almost only worth just one dance if that), and if she says something like "No tip?" I just be honest, and say that i've already paid you for your dance; i only tip for extra or exceptional service. As we did only one dance, i think it's fairly obvious the dance wasn't exceptional. I don't like to do just one dance either. If she wants to make an uncomfortable scene, i can make one too. If there was something obvious that she needs to work on or improve that can be addressed in a simple statement, i might use that as a "tip" to her annoyance but she has to learn sooner or later. If it's like my previous discussion and i did multiple dances that were just between good and very good, i'll say i think i've been pretty generous. There's a good chance that we could do this again in the future. Would you rather i tip you 20% and do only half of these songs or less, or 0% of what we just did? You do know that 100% of 0 is nothing? Okay, maybe i won't say something that nerdy and many of these girls don't seem to be too good at math, but "most" girls don't "demand" tips after multiple dances. They'll might imply one, which is why i made my discussion in the first place to see how common it was for people to tip on top of multiple dances and if dancers really expected tips and would be ungracious or just getting greedy and wanted to maximize their income.
• indorula

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  7 years ago

  I am sure just saying no or ignoring them will work just fine.
• jaredlucas

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  7 years ago

  if a tip is earned a tip should be gladly paid. Otherwise just say no thank you.
• Subraman

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  7 years ago

  This is one of those things where the girls are using your built-in politeness and fair play instincts against you, in a situation where it doesn't apply. I find that it's best to say as little as possible, and say it with a smile, but with eye contact and confidence. Most of the time, it's just "sorry, no". Sometimes, I guess in my weaker moments, I'll say, "I don't tip, but if I'm happy with dances I get more dances later.", which breaks my own rule of not saying too much or giving her anything to latch onto and argue about, but sometimes I guess my inner pussy takes hold and just blurts that out. Never had a girl argue about it, though
• Abq2017

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  7 years ago

  I agree with Jared. I've had no problems when a tip is earned, but it turns me off when it seems forced that a dancer asks for one.
• Juslovin

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  7 years ago

  "the girls that tend to ask for tips are the ones that do the least for them" Good points and i have to agree with this. I agree with less is better when it comes to discussion. "but if I'm happy with dances I get more dances later" Like this approach Subraman.
• joc13

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  7 years ago

  Dancer: do I get a tip? Me: you might have, until you asked Even if service is great, if she asks for it, she doesn't get it.
• Papi_Chulo

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  7 years ago

  I have tried the "no habla ingles" line but that actually backfires down-here in Miami :)
• SirLapdancealot

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  7 years ago

  It doesn't matter WTF she says, I'm tipping (or not) based on my discretion which I have already quantified prior to her asking. And if I wasn't planning on tipping to begin with, I will put $1 as tip without her knowing and then when I hand her all the cash I will say the tip is included. Then later I hope she is pissed when she gets $1 for having the audacity to ask for a fucking tip. That is poor form in my book. And I couldn't give a rat's ass about how she feels about it. I can't stand the hustle and ROB game. Asking for a tip is bad ROB behavior, so I won't reward it. If you deserve a tip, I'm going to give it. I haven't met a stripper that deserved and received a tip actually ask for it. ROBs are the only ones that ever ask.
• Papi_Chulo

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  7 years ago

  Dances in the SoFlo mixed clubs are $25 which I consider expensive since they are often around 3-minutes; the dancers gotta give $5 to the house out of each dance (in reality the custy is the one paying for this) - some dancers pull the tip line telling custies they want a tip b/c they (dancer) gotta pay the club for the dances - smh, the custy is already paying a $5 tax and the dancer basically wants the custy to cough up an extra $5 so she can get the whole $25 instead of $20
• theDirkDiggler

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  7 years ago

  ^ If those girls are pulling $20 (their take) for a topless 3 minute dance, then that is damned good and better than most of the country including freaking Chicago. I wouldn't tip on any of those dances if there weren't extras involved. Dancers asking customers to pay the house fee twice? smh...
• indorula

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  7 years ago

  Exactly taxing the customer in this way is a pro-dancer policy because they are able to clear the full market price of $20
• indorula

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  7 years ago

  I think this was started by Tootsies which is owned by a publicly traded corporation, then the other South Florida clubs copied because it is an efficient way to extract a percentage of the dance revenue with minimal effort. Not sure this would fly in other cities but in Miami it seems to be accepted. And you better believe those bitches still ask for a tip lol
• Papi_Chulo

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  7 years ago

  ^ good insight - I was living in Dallas in the 2000s then relocated back to Miami and started SCing in Miami in early-2011 thus not sure when dances went from $20 to $25, perhaps when Tootsies moved from their old location to their current gynormous location but not sure when that was (2000s?) - $25 instead of $20 does make a difference monetarily and psychologically and does make me hold onto my $$$ more and visit less - IMO dancers could probably sell dances more easily at $20 than $25 and actually make more $$$
• TXbananas

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  7 years ago

  I open up my fanny pack, take out my coin purse then start counting out nickels and dimes. "There's more where that came from babe."
• theDirkDiggler

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  7 years ago

  ^ luv that! Especially the fanny pack. Why even bother with nickles and dimes? Pennies is where it's at. And if you have foreign currency that's worth even less, even better.
• rh48hr

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  7 years ago

  Just say no.
• stripfighter

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  7 years ago

  If I plan on getting dances in the future, I tell her "next time we'll keep going" otherwise it's a straightforward "no," hand the cash, and walk away.
• jackslash

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  7 years ago

  I tell her to buy low and sell high.
• Cashman1234

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  7 years ago

  Great advice and insight. I think DirkDiggler has some excellent insight regarding dancers who need to ask for tips. If it’s one dance and done - the girl should know that it wasn’t good. I think it’s rare that a PL intends to only get a single dance.
• JohnSmith69

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  7 years ago

  The ones who ask for a tip are almost always the least deserving. Like subra, I say something like "I don't tip but maybe we can do some more dances later." But if a dancer is asking for a tip, and I'm refusing, then there is zero chance of any future dances. Still, this sounds better than saying duck off bitch.
• londonguy

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  7 years ago

  @ sirlapdancealot. I couldn't have said it better. When I go to FKK's or have seen some escorts it isn't unknown for the session to end early because the girl has 'rushed' it. When these girl's as for a tip I tell them. " I just did, paid you for 'X' even though you got me out in 'Y'. Always say it with a smile. There faces are a picture. Thankfully very rare in FKK where I tip a high percentage of girl's that give fantastic service.
• Tiredtraveler

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  7 years ago

  The interesting thing I have found that many times the ones that give the worst dances are the ones that are most demanding for a tip. My standard answers for a dancer asking for a tip that does not deserve one are: "maybe next time" or "thanks for the dance" and leave the area. Since I am almost never a regular in any one club is can't just tell her "you give a shitty dance so bugger off" because she can bad mouth you to the other dancers. If I happen to be in a club I have been to several times and the staff and some of the dancers know my face and that I am not a cheapskate I can afford to be more firm is she persists but I try to never be belligerent and I never short pay. That is a fast way to the bouncer's ire.
• Call.Me.Ishmael

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  7 years ago

  "No."
• flagooner

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  7 years ago

  If she asks for a tip, how do I let her down? I ease her down gently on my tip before picking up the pace.
• pensionking

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  7 years ago

  I usually just say, "no, thank you, I'm good for now" and walk away. If she persists, I might say, "maybe next time -- that's up to you". She gets it. They are not as stupid as we might think. I agree with everyone that has said that the ones that ask are often the least deserving.
• Jascoi

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  7 years ago

  if she asks me for a tip after a lap dance i say 'i'll tip you on the stage'.
• larryfisherman

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  7 years ago

  I tell her I have no more money.
• theDirkDiggler

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  7 years ago

  ^ Sorry, all i have is singles, twenties and these annoying 100s. You don't want me to just give you a dollar, right? You want them all? No, i need them for the stage and the bathroom troll.
• theDirkDiggler

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  7 years ago

  ^ that was meant for PoolyD
• Papi_Chulo

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  7 years ago

  "... If she only asks for five, say sorry, all you have are twenties ..." Often times they'll tell you "oh, I got change"
• Dominic77

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  7 years ago

  I've never had a dancer ask for a tip. Not once. Ever. Maybe I'm lucky? Maybe j don't club often enough? The best reaction is to say, "no, sorry." And the pay her what is owed. If just like declining dances, where anything said after, "no, thank you," is said by the first loser. Same with tips. Saying less is more. Be confident, polite, and firm. "No, sorry."
• Clubber

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  7 years ago

  If asked, I always give them a tip. Could be cash all the way down to "Don't bet on horses."
• Liwet

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  7 years ago

  I'm in an area where extras are hard to come by so it's easy to say, "I only tip for extras."
• Papi_Chulo

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  7 years ago

  Show her the tip of your dick and ask "will this do?" :)
• jester214

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  7 years ago

  If they're polite, I politely say "no". If they're not I tell them "I never tip anyone who asks for it".
• Clubber

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  7 years ago

  jest, I have done the same, but say "I never tip anyone who implores". They have zero idea what that means, so it seems to stun them into oblivion and they retreat.
• rickdugan

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  7 years ago

  "Honey I think I paid you quite enough already." Done.
• Clubber

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  7 years ago

  Pool, I would acquiesce to your proposition. Intended double entendre. :)
• SirLapdancealot

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  7 years ago

  Lady Scoundrel: "I implore of you good sir, for a mere twenty percent gratuity for the services rendered. Would you be so kind?" Sir Pathetic PoolyD:. "But alas, madame, my musket has not been fired and your petticoat has remained unfettered. Would you be so kind as to return with me to the private dance hall for a full rendering of past service?"
• flagooner

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  7 years ago

  ^ LOL I'm trying to picture that scenario and am envisioning a corset constraining an ample bosom.
• SirLapdancealot

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  7 years ago

  ^ Back in the days when clubs were corsets only and PLs dealt with "CIB" (cum in breeches).
• Clubber

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  7 years ago

  Sir, "Back in the days" when a tip was a quarter for the jukebox. This was the Tootsies I first knew. God bless evolution!
• SirLapdancealot

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  7 years ago

  @Clubber Back in the day, the Tootsie I knew was a movie about Dustin Hoffman in drag. We've cum a long way since then.