My stance on conversation has changed
larryfisherman
California
I used to be not a fan of conversations with strippers. I didn't mind a girl coming up to me and the first thing that comes out of her mouth is "wanna dance"? After all why even waste their time? They are there to make money, and we are either gonna do dances or we're not. I didn't see the point of conversating before she asks you if you want a dance. Plus a lot of strippers I had come across can't hold a conversation, so talking to them became kind of painful.
I have come around now though. I absolutely love conversation. It's fun especially talking to these girls you have a "connection" with, you can talk about anything and everything with her. Sometimes on a slow boring night in the strip club a girl will sit by you and unexpectedly you will have conversation. You weren't planning on doing dances on this night, but you're having such as a good time with her, so you end up doing dances, and the dances are great, and it leads to more fun things.
How do you all feel about conversation with the strippers? Do you like it or do you wish there was less of it and getting to the point quicker?
I have come around now though. I absolutely love conversation. It's fun especially talking to these girls you have a "connection" with, you can talk about anything and everything with her. Sometimes on a slow boring night in the strip club a girl will sit by you and unexpectedly you will have conversation. You weren't planning on doing dances on this night, but you're having such as a good time with her, so you end up doing dances, and the dances are great, and it leads to more fun things.
How do you all feel about conversation with the strippers? Do you like it or do you wish there was less of it and getting to the point quicker?
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Yes, I do enjoy talking to a stripper as long as we have something to talk about. That's why I love MILFs as they are closer to my age we usually share common interests. Talking to a 21 year old stripper is usually like talking to a wall for me.
You are absolutely right, strippers are there to make money, so if a stripper sits with me (and I want her to sit with me) I will buy her a drink(s) and sometimes tip her accordingly for her time if I don't end up buying dances from her.
Good question Fishsticks.
If you want a couple of $ 1's when you dance or even me to walk up and place a 5 or 10 in your clothing you need looks and some semblance of being able to dance but having a drink with me and being able to converse is how I end up shelling out $$$
Usually strippers will start discussing their personal lives after you have discussed aspects of the club and who-you-are-what-do-you-do-for-a-living. It's almost universally filled with absurd situations that no sensible person would have gotten themselves into. Even if you have a sane stripper, she will have stories to relate from her friends. It can give you a sense of relief about your own life, that you are not handling all that drama (and cut down on the fantasy of dating a stripper.)
What I mean is that I don't pay to talk or for time, so if she's a girl I will not get dances (or more) from there's no point in talking.
Having said that, if she's hot to me and got a personality I enjoy, I'll talk as long as she's willing.
With a few local clubs, there are several Brazilian dancers, who barely speak English, and chatting can be difficult.
I enjoy my stripper interactions much more when I can really get into the fantasy. I choose strippers who pass a physical appearance threshhold, but that isn't enough for a memorable dance. My favorite experiences cum when we make a connection and I genuinely like her. That requires conversation.
I don't find a lap dance with a 10 that I don't know anything about much more enjoyable than masterbating, but it is more expensive and takes less effort. I do like masterbating but it doesn't compare, the same way as paying for sex doesn't compare to having sex with a SO.
A thing that makes me go "Arghhh" is use of the word conversate.
On the flip side of that coin, I've encountered some smoking hot dancers that were agonizing to talk to. I try to move them into a room as quickly as possible.
I hit $5 and $10 per dance dives thus I can indulge in contact dances vs talking - in the mixed clubs in my area with $25 dances then I may engage in more convo as to not burn thru a lot of $$$.
And as lurker posted, often times the dancers get comfortable when I speak with them and either the crazy or life-drama starts coming out from her and I'm not into listening to stripper-drama (it's a boner-killer for me - I don't handle bad-news/drama well).
I actually enjoy conversations but more so with men than women as IME I can often be on the same wavelength with other dudes vs women.
If i have no interest in getting dances with her, i might just let her sit as long as she wants, rarely touching her if at all, only somewhat engaging her in conversation (like answering her questions and not much more or occasionally asking her a generic question or maybe get club intel if it stays silent too long) so that other girls i see at the club that i've danced with before on a previous visit but i have no interest in dancing with again won't bother me while she's with me ;)
I go for aural stimulation.
Second, sometimes it's a shield against another dancer I want to avoid.
Third, it's a screening mechanism to try to figure out how she would be for dances.
Yes, those are exactly the reasons (or at least most of them) i would converse with a stripper, but i'm certainly not one of "those" customers that needs it from them.