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How many no responses to texts before you give up, no longer ask any more, and just decide to move on to find another?
I basically only text to ask or suggest a time to see them again. But after two or three attempts over a two week period without a response I give up.
Thoughts??
I basically only text to ask or suggest a time to see them again. But after two or three attempts over a two week period without a response I give up.
Thoughts??
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I'd say if you know her really well, have met many times and know her schedule, etc. then 1 or 2 times should be the most. She knows who you are.
If you just met her and don't really have much of a connection going on yet, then maybe a few more times would be appropriate as she might not recognize or remember you.
You have to realize, most of these girls are inundated with texts from PLs. I'm sure they have times when it's hard to keep up and try to remember who they texted back and who they didn't. And they have to juggle their time with the PLs also. They may not want to double or triple book their time at the club. So it can be a balancing act.
I think there can be a benefit in remembering her without blowing up her phone with neediness.
Bottom line is there are plenty of dancers out there so don't waste too much time on one of them if she's not meeting your needs.
I don't see any reason to discard something that has been developed over time due to something trivial.
I would recommend against getting all butt hurt about not getting a return text. If that is going to cause you to kick her to the curb, I question what there was to make you want to rate her as a favorite or regular in the first place.
Sure, it sounds macho to say you would dump her for this, but it seems like a gross overreaction.
On the flip side, I won't give up on a girl just because she blows off some random text. I don't need side text banter with a girl and I hate it when they blow up my phone - I'm just too fucking busy.
I wouldn't text any more. You don't want to come across all creepy and stalkerish. I'd just talk with her about it the next time you see her in the club with an open mind.
I had this happen to me about a year ago with my CF. I got myself all worked up because I had RIL symptoms. As it turned out she had just switched numbers because too many people had it. The first thing she did the next time I was in the club was give me the new number without me bringing it up. She hadn't texted me the new number because we have an understanding that she doesn't initiate texts with me.
It's an art not a science. I've txt'd some strippers and written them off as non-responsive a few hours later. I've tried some 2-3 times before getting a response, and some 2-3 times never getting a response. How much I'm willing to try depends on how much I expect to get out of it. Hotter girl, more effort from me. Some bitch I took a flier on, not so much.
You don't want to look creepy/needy, but more importantly, you don't want to be those things. I'm a proponent of treating strippers with honesty and respect and I fairly often actually develop emotional relationships with them, but at the same time I'm not going to get invested in a girl who doesn't treat me with the same respect I give her. I don't care how hot she is. Like I said, its an art. You have to decide for yourself when you're crossing into an area where you aren't having a good time with this. If you're angry/jeolous/etc, I'd suggest its time to move on. If that takes 1 text or 10, it doesn't really matter.I usually lose interest and stop texting before I start counting how many times she didn't respond to me.
At most 2x assuming it might've slipped her mind getting back to me - more than that one is IMO already passing the line of PL into something worse (but easy for me to say since I don't go gaga for any one bitch; o/w I assume I too would be RIL(ish)).
Many of these girls are often getting fined, suspended, and sometimes fired, from clubs - i.e. many can barely manage to meet their club's obligations thus not to be expected that they will come thru w/ flying colors OTC - and IMO often times the girls willing to do OTC are often the more fucked-up ones which often tend to be less-reliable b/c they/their-lives are more fucked-up (not saying it's a universal rule).
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That's why I always say: "strippers are the caviar of the sex industry!"
Like the civvy world I'd say you can text twice with no response before seeming creepy. Once she might have seen it, been busy, and forgotten to follow up (who hasn't done that with a work email?). Twice she's doing it on purpose.
In the past couple of weeks I've had two different girls, not strippers but young and good looking enough to be, both go silent. I had another way of contacting them and one said she lost her phone, the other's phone had been dropped and broken, and was still not fixed.
So while I was able to make contact with them in other ways, if I had dropped them due to not texting back I would have missed out. I really hate how unreliable these young girls can be. Of course, I really love how energetic they are in bed.
As for how many texts without a response I put up with, it just depends upon the situation. With a new girl I've only seen once ITC twice is about it before I purge their number. And as Papi quoted Lopaw "I'll beg for pussy and I'll pay for pussy, but I won't beg to pay for pussy". This is perhaps the best advice ever given on TUSCL. Follow it always.
1st text. NR. 2nd 1-2wks later, 3rd 1-2mos etc.
But that depends. Some are one and one and some have gone 6 mos or longer. Shit going on in her life and who knows, some quit then come back. Not going to get upset up over trivial matter.