Would You Really Ever Date A Stripper?

I bet a lot of us have, at least once. Once :) I've had a small handful of FWB relationships with strippers, which is one of the greatest things ever. Dating, which implies deeper commitment and deeper feelings, I've done once, and wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Well okay, maybe my worst enemy.

As I stated in the other thread, this might be a case of, at least to some extent, self-selecting for craziness. Or, in other words, the kind of stripper who would date (or even FWB) a strip club customer 15-20 years her senior, may well be craziest of the crazy, and it's the types of strippers who would never consider that who are a little more stable and balanced. I doubt it, but it's a theory :)

I dated a neighbor in my condos. Did not find out until late in the first date she was a stripper at a very high-end club. Deep down there were issues. Despite being very successful financially, I could tell something was not quite right.

Unrelated to that, the kiss of death was a bachelor party that ended up at her club. The other guys did not know I knew her and were VERY rude with her. This was a no-touch club in the 90's. Not sure if she was pissed I was at her work, that my friends from my new job were assholes, or what, but I never got that A+ pussy again.

I have low EQ and want as little drama in my life as possible - I can't even handle dating civvies thus dating a stripper I would have had to temporarily lost my sanity (although I'm not so sure I'm altogether there in my "normal state").

I'm not a risk-taker by nature and need to have things stable/in-place vs winging-it as it can be w/ strippers.

IMO it either takes a very carefree dude that just goes w/ the flow no-matter what the flow is and doesn't get worked-up about anything too-easily (def not me) or a very mature guy that also knows how strippers are/can-be.

At my age I'm not going to date any one.

I can't be w/ just one chick and if I was I wouldn't be w/ anybody else (for now I'm all about variety) - but if I was gonna be w/ somebody highly likely it would not be a stripper. and preferably someone that has their shit together and does not depend on me to take care of her.

Never dated. Went on FWB dates with one dancer who was around my age. Went to dinner, hung out etc. She was from Europe. She went back to get home country when her dad died and I never heard from her again. .

went out with a stripper a couple times. got a nice burger once and a restaurant another time. was nice and no pressure. and i was/am way over twice her age.

I've dated and had relationships that didn't involve P4P with a few strippers over the years. The relationships never last long usually because they're so erratic and I can only take them in small doses before I tell myself they're not worth the effort and move on.

Just the fact she's a stripper wouldn't preclude me from dating one. It's the fact most(all) are craaay to the Z....

Maybe though. If she's that one unicorn I'd do it... or just so god damn hot ;)

There have been times when I would have dated strippers, but for one reason or another, it didn't work out - baby daddy came back into the picture, a different one let herself go and I started to lose interest, etc.

When I was in my teens, a ex-girlfriend went on to become a stripper a few months after we broke up, but "fairly attractive and willing to have sex" was my main criteria then.

Anyway, the way I see it, there are different kinds of crazy. Some kinds of crazy are compatible and a lot more fun than sane, while other types, not so much.

I, too, imagine that at this point, I'm too old to score any more stripper FWB, but JS69 got one and he's older than me, so hope springs eternal :)

I never thought I was dating strippers. Might explain why at least one dancer got real pissed off at me one time and upset with me on another occasion. One dancer was actually upset that I never told any of my friends or coworkers about her. I guess she must have asked and I thought nothing of telling her. I never tell friends and co workers everything I'm doing unless they find out on their own or they are doing something similar already. I guess you are beyond a casual acquaintance if a dancer gets pissed off at you and is still talking. A pissed off dancer is full of drama. Watch out. She won't care if everyone in the club sees and hears everything. Remembering pissed off dancers seems amusing in hind site. They got pissed off over nothing in my opinion. Although one quit working at the same club for over 3 months.

Now that I'm older, I doubt I will be seeing too many strippers outside the clubs.

Dancers full of drama and trying to impose unreasonable demands was probably the reason I made a promise to myself to never go out with any more dancers when I moved to South Carolina. One dancer made me forget. I don't care for drama. I like to keep things secret. At one work place, as soon as it got out I was visiting strip clubs, I had a girl at work proposition me for sex. Another girl asked me if I thought she would make a good stripper because she was thinking about stripping. The area I lived in had a bunch of sex crazed people compared to other areas of the country. Another guy at work used to joke about going to a truck stop and fucking girls there or even a chicken. He was crazy. I shut him up by showing him pictures of naked porn stars sitting on my lap. I think maybe he never went to a strip club.

All these posters lamenting getting older. Reminds me of The Doors: "You're ballroom days are over, baby!"

I have had a long strange trip with my ATF Christie. Our relationship is not exactly dating. It has been fun and crazy and serious. Maybe I should ate her because she is no longer less than half my age.

For some odd reason this morning though, I thought I looked a lot younger. I did get a haircut. If I start getting asked to show my id again everywhere, I'm not going to be that happy. Maybe.

Ha when I first got in this board all i wanted to do in life was date a stripper. Well I got what I asked for. Shit goes from bad to worse in less than 60 seconds. Oh the thrill if it all and the amazing sex and sleep afterwards was almost worth it. She died OD....never again will I put myself through it.

Si

And trust me... watching them do their job while you're in the club is only cool once or twice, after that all you feel is that some f****** grimmy motherfucke can put his hands all over your chick for a few bucks

I've dated a few.

None of them ended on a good note.

Doubt that I will ever do it again. Too much work.

I'm currently dating one now, so I guess I have to say yes. I fell in love with a stripper in the past and although I slept with her, she had a fiance at home that I didn't know about, so it didn't work out. That hit me hard. Really liked her.

My current situation is actually a lot crazier. My girlfriend is not only a stripper, but a prostitute too. She works at one of the top two strip clubs/brothels in Cabo San Lucas. I don't want to say which one.

She's gorgeous and about ten years younger than me. I met her at the club and really clicked with her. I know she's a pro, but there really was and is chemistry between us. We spent several hours together in the club. Drinks, sex, etc.

It was great and I had to see her again. After a few more repeat visits, she started seeing me on her days off. At first I would pay her, but she stopped accepting my money after several times together.

The clubs/brothels in Cabo are very expensive. You are going to pay $250 to $300 for a bj with a girl at one of the nicer clubs. $400 to $700 for fs, depending on if you want the girl in the club or back at your hotel for longer than a half hour.

With prices so high, the strippers/prostitutes aren't being taken for sex every day. Some days they just make money off of tips, selling dances, girl drinks, etc.

Anyway, I know it sounds crazy, but I liked the girl alot and was paying her anyway, so why not. Sure, it's tough accepting the fact that she's sleeping with other guys, but I love her now. I've come to accept it. Waking up holding her is constantly enjoyable. The sex is amazing too, but I guess that's not a shocker. Anyway, I'm trying to convince her to quit the biz and let me support her, but so far she's hesitant too. She's saving to buy a house and is close to doing so. She wants to do it on her own.

I have done it but over time decided that if I couldn't feel comfortable introducing her to friends and family then she us is just a sexual plaything.

Stunning girl with crazy mad bedroom skills kept me in the game for two years. Was 25 years younger and we Enjoyed Travel ,three somes and various other fun. Never had an argument Now we just fuck a couple times a month and and enjoy trading sex stories when we get together.

There is no way I would ever date a stripper with the notion I might eventually marry her. Most of them have obvious problems I don't want to deal with in my private life.

Not interested in dating a stripper, but FWB would be ideal.

If dating them and not knowing they are a stripper counts than I have--I've referenced this before on prior comments.

If dating one before they became a stripper counts than I'm guilty on a second count. --I've also commented on this in passing on here as well.

The first one was a lot younger than me and I met through SA---by all criteria it was a relationship. I never felt used nor did I ever feel she took advantage of me. It ended on a friendly note--for a bit after we parted she would send me notes or pictures of herself--no nudes-and I am almost certain she wanted to get back together but I had no interest.

The second one is a different story and seems to have reappeared again ......where it goes or how it ends only time will tell. We all have that one......

BTW you are never too old........

I guess I can say I have dated a stripper, if going on two dates before breaking it off counts. This was a long time ago and this experience was very helpful.

I will try to make this short. It was several years before I ever set foot into a strip club. I was a 22 year old college student and I was at a party. There I met this hot 19 year old blonde with a toned and very flexible body. We hit it off and had sex that night. We exchanged numbers. A few days later I called her and we agreed to dinner that Friday night. As we were having dinner, we did something we didn't do when we met at the party. We had a normal conversation and got to know each other a little bit on a personal level. She told me a little bit about her family life. Her parents divorced when she was really young. Her father rarely ever sees or talks to her, and she hates him for how he abandoned her. She also told me she was a stripper and what club she worked at. While there were some warning signs, I thought to myself that this was just the first date. The night ended having sex at her place. A few days later, we met for lunch. Our conversation this time was very much like the first date and I realized this girl was crazy. I did not call her again or return any of her calls. I had decided I did not want to deal with the drama.

Several years later when I began going to clubs, I always told myself I will never try to date a stripper. FWB I'm OK with, but I certainly don't want a commitment because I highly doubt I will ever meet a stripper who has her shit together in her personal life.

@warrenboy75 but apparently you can be too young. I tried to get dates with strippers and I'm the youngest one here. What the hell am I doing wrong?

I did back in the 90s for a few months, a girl looking for citizenship.

It was great, but I wouldn't do it again.

Estafador--it's impossible for me to answer since I haven't been on this site all that long nor do I know you or have seen you interact inside a club.

For me, I used SA for a couple of years and found it to be a great source of meeting women--it just so happens a couple of them were strippers in the making, or wished to keep they were strippers a secret from almost everyone around them.

Since going to the clubs I haven't dated anyone OTC--I have had one ITC experience which I didn't put up a review because I am certain no good would come from me doing so. I was surprised the girl was willing to go as far as she did and the place did not have reputation for asking for extras.

There are as I have come to find out a decent amount of dancers/strippers on SA in the DC, Pittsburgh, Philadelphia, and Cleveland areas. If you do both as I do you start to recognize a few faces.....and the code of what they write in their profiles on SA starts to have a common pattern.

I've never set out to purposely date any type of girl, and especially not a stripper because of the baggage ( not that I don't have my own carry on case ) but I will say it seems the girls that work in the clubs can sense certain traits in guys. $$$ obviously plays a part as well, a large part, but over the last year I've been happy with the fun I have had and most of that can be measured by being able to interact with the women I want to and not settling for second or third choices.

Interesting comments. For the record I meant DATING not FWB, so technically I couldn't truly date a stripper because I'm married.

Years ago when I was involved with my retired ATF (which I will likely never come across another ATF again) my wife and I were having trouble. Call it the 7 year itch. I debated to myself, if I get divorced, do I go start dating this stripper? Being vulnerable I could see it happening even though I would know going in it was a huge mistake.

I'd say most seasoned strip club PLs (which is this entire board for the most part) knows the traps of dating a stripper and would avoid it. Some guy who has been to a strip club a few times and meets a stripper somewhere outside of a club, is much more likely to date one not having the slightest clue as to what he's getting in to.

I agree Shailynn. When I was dating strippers years ago it was in a very similar situation as you described, although I was in the middle of a divorce.

I did it right when I got back into the strip club scene and didn't truly understand everything in the industry. But I learned, the hard way. Hopefully we can impart some wisdom here for others to not make the same mistakes and fall for the same stripper shit that I did.

strippers have very blurry relationship/sex lines. I'm not sure you can really consider it dating a stripper unless she is paying your bills, or buying you gifts.

^^ I sometimes change the number of strippers I call FWB vs how many I was dating, based on how I define either ... and often go back and forth as to whether my perception of the relationship was the same as hers. Which certainly speaks to "blurry relationship/sex lines".

I've settled on classifying one as dating and the rest as FWB, more based on my feelings than anything else: I knew if the relationship progressed, I'd couldn't deal with her stripping so she'd have to quit, which meant I'd have to support her... which ultimately meant, the relationship didn't progress. Hell, maybe that one was a FWB too, but I nipped it just at the transition point.

Strippers are providing a service and are not worth dating at all. Not worth OTC either.

I have a few times and always regretted it...too much drama.

I'm not sure I would want to date anyone who worked nights and weekends till the wee hours.

Just to clarify the two I referenced I dated or at least to the best of my knowledge dated before they became strippers or at the very least before I knew. Both still to the best of my knowledge have hid they strip although from what I understand the veil is starting to drop from a few people's eyes in the one case.

In the case of the one it is because she told me she was going to start and I did everything I could to convince her not to because I could not see her being successful or adjusting to the lifestyle as much as I saw the move for her as a downward spiral in life she was not going to be able to pull out of.....

There have been two strippers that I 'tried' to get into a dating situation. Both attempts never got off the ground for multiple reasons. The first time was a CF who had an impressive legit job. I'm confident she was interested in a relationship too. It turned out she had major non-strippa drama in her life. Part of me feels like I dodged a bullet, part of me still wonder what could have been. The second was my ATF. The short answer there is that it was all SS and I was a fool for thinking it could have been more.

To answer the OP: being a stripper (assuming low mileage) isn't the deal breaker. It's the unsavory friends and/or the lake of being able to function in the real work and/or the uncontrolled spending and/or the illegal drug and/or there is 'Follies mileage' involved and/or etc.

In college I dated a few girls that the sex was great, but they werent super stable.

I wouldn't leave my wife for a stripper. But if I'm divorced in five years? Sure I wouldn't rule it out.

I have dated a couple and it is only good for a month or two. After that its too much drama and you realize they live life like idiots.

What follows is "out there." My wife's ex started dating a stripper and smoking weed while they were still married. The Ex eventually married the stripper and the two live together in a trailer in Ohio.

I'm still amazed that after all that, she not only is okay with me going to strip clubs, but she encourages it. I would not have expected that given her past.

In short, I wouldn't date an "active" stripper. I'd date an ex-stripper for sure.

@Dom

I think your wife is hoping you hook up with a dancer and leave her too. Maybe she's just too lazy to fill out the divorce papers herself or is looking for a better settlement.

Not a chance. Actually it's the opposite. She's trying to rekindle my drive so I find opportunity and success so we can have a more stable future. Just barely making ends-meet year after year sucks and wears me down. I don't know if you 350K club guys can understand that but maybe you do.

Nope. Never.

Whether it's online or "in real life", I have yet to encounter a scenario where a guy dated a stripper and it ended well.

Just because it didn't end well doesn't mean it wasn't worth it.

-->"Whether it's online or "in real life", I have yet to encounter a scenario where a guy dated a stripper and it ended well."

I think that's the bottom line. And while I agree with HungryGiraffe in theory, and will even further say I've met a few strippers who are amazing women who really blossomed after they retired, it's not my perception that some of the characteristics that led them to stripping in the first place (emotional damage, tragic family histories, impulsiveness, poor judgement, etc) ever fully disappear, they just get mellowed by age and by improving the quality of the people around them. Even dialed back from 11 to 4, that can still be some heavy shit to deal with. I am on a LOT of stripper's and ex-stripper's FBs... their divorce rate is 100% from what I can tell.

I'm currently dating a stripper, though when we met she never made it clear and only told me many months into the relationship. We're still dating now, and it has not been easy... So many lies, and of course, she cant keep track of them, which then just raises the distrust on my part. Deep down, is it worth it? Nope. I'm just seeing where this is going for now, but have thought about bailing so many times.

I am on a LOT of stripper's and ex-stripper's FBs... their divorce rate is 100% from what I can tell. + 1.

I find the Twitter accounts the most telling--for some reason because family is on FB they tend to go a bit easy on some of their comments......not Twitter. You really want to get a mindset of what they are thinking it's the place to start.

No. Tried it briefly once, didn't like it, and would never do it again. For starters, the overwhelming majority of these girls have one or more psychological issues that they are coping with. But even if one found the one in a hundred that was relatively balanced, he would need to be ok with other guys pawing at her and more during each one of her shifts. No thanks.

You're 100% right on the psychological issues....mine has PTSD from childhood issues and abusive/controlling previous bfs and a huge pot head (which I think doesn't help). See's a therapist once every 6 months (I think it should be sooner) and when we argue she uses manipulator tactics and then says I'm the one with problems and should seek a therapist! Its tough though, cos on the sweet days, there is an amazing girl in there, its just wading through the BS trying to unearth it and then treading water keeping it afloat.

The heavy pot use is subconscious self-medicating - she probably can't do any better at the moment and thinks/feels the pot helps her and that she can't do w/o it

@desertscrub You, me, and Charlie Sheen:
"I don't pay hookers for sex. I pay hookers to go away after sex."

I do remember one nice looking dancer. If she hadn't gotten pregnant before her last boyfriend left her, I would have been happy to be her boyfriend if I had moved to where she lived at. I stopped by to visit just a few months earlier after I had a job interview in the town she lived at, she mentioned if I moved there she could come over every day. I didn't know what to think about every day. Every day seemed like a stalker. Lucky for me, I did not get that job.