Letting go of favs
larryfisherman
California
I'm sure we have all let go of favs over the years for many reasons (put on too much weight, ROB behavior, aging, bad plastic surgery, just got tired of her, etc).
My question is how do you deal with your ex fav if you still go to the club she's at?
Do you tell her why you don't get dances from her anymore? Do you ignore her? Do you stay cordial?
I've got a fav that just got a terrible lips injection job. Yuck. I'm done with her for that. The last few times I've seen her in the club I haven't tipped her on stage and I haven't talked to her. I know eventually she's gonna ask me why I don't show her love or talk to her anymore.
I really want to tell her that I fucking despise her new lips, but I don't like being mean or rude to women, so I don't know what I would say to her if she asked me.
Opinions?
My question is how do you deal with your ex fav if you still go to the club she's at?
Do you tell her why you don't get dances from her anymore? Do you ignore her? Do you stay cordial?
I've got a fav that just got a terrible lips injection job. Yuck. I'm done with her for that. The last few times I've seen her in the club I haven't tipped her on stage and I haven't talked to her. I know eventually she's gonna ask me why I don't show her love or talk to her anymore.
I really want to tell her that I fucking despise her new lips, but I don't like being mean or rude to women, so I don't know what I would say to her if she asked me.
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My club has a lot of regulars and it is normal for them to move over to a sort of friend zone after awhile, as new costumers come in, and new girls catch their interest. It's just how it is. You could mention that you liked her natural lips, but it would be kinda hurtful to tell her it's why you aren't attracted to her anymore.
Tendencies towards conflict avoidance and worrying about what dancers think of you are not great are not terribly helpful in a strip club environment. You need to worry about your own entertainment more and her feelings less. After all, it's not like she's going to be the next Mrs. Fisherman anyway and I somehow doubt that your invitation to her next BBQ or kids birthday party is on its way. Just cut bait and if she gets dramatic, blow her off.
Eventually, she'll disappear into his windowless white van and you'll never see her again.
There's no reason to say anything that could hurt her feelings; she may well already feel a bit sensitive about the lips. No, I do not mention the lips. BTW, I can't remember what you said about the lips, but if they're injections, they get re-absorbed little by little over the coming months... unless she's getting them retouched on an ongoing basis
Yeah, cut back to zero. Why spend a single thin dime on a girl you're not interested in? She's a stripper and you're a loser; you owe her nothing, no dances, no drinks, no explanations. However, a decent loser would simply say that their interests have changed.
Am I missing something?
I thought @LarryDipshit said he just started hitting SCs about a year and a half ago. But apparently he's been letting go of his favorite for years now.
Oh, yeah, I almost forgot....
LARRY, YOU ARE FULL OF SHIT AND I DON'T BELIEVE A THING YOU WRITE.
w.r.t. her lips, yeah not nice to point out other people's shortcomings but perhaps telling her will make her aware she made a wrong decision and either gets it corrected or avoids from going further.
How can a fav dump you? (unless you have a OTC relationship with her and she decides to stop seeing you OTC) I don't think she would stop taking your money ITC.
@Rick- I'm a nice guy, I care about other people's feelings. I try to treat strippers like regular women, and she has been very good to me.
@Subra- she said she gets her lips retouched every few months.
I like Subra's answer the best. The problem is even when she was a fav of mine, I was still getting dances from other girls in the club, so she knows I like other girls. Telling her I wanna try out new girls is something I've already been doing all along.
@skibum- I don't know the circumstance, but I'm guessing something you did made her very upset?
I don't remember any asking for an explanation, but at times I have offered one when they ask for a dance if it seemed salvageable. If you treat every question at the club as warranting a full answer and explanation, you might be doing it wrong. The simplest answer is probably *shrug*, I just want to mix it up some.
There was a brand new dancer that I had broken in who was a lot hotter and a lot nicer person to boot.
She got phased out for the most part (I still to a couple of dances with her on occasion) after she introduced me to the woman who became my ATF. The next time I came in, she told me, "You should do some dances with her!"
Larry's approach to women is rong.
In the civilian world one has to let go of girls often.
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@sjg- I'm not gonna stay away from that club, there's too many other girls I like at that club.
Below is a link to Larry's first post that I called him out on. That was 16 months ago, but now he says he has been seeing this particular dancer OTC for 2 years.
According to his post he was in Detroit with a girlfriend and didn't go to strip clubs as recently as September 2015.
https://www.tuscl.net/?page=post&id=4016…
Most of my CFs have picked up on this kind of thing pretty readily, though. When it's time to move on, saying "I'm good for tonight" and getting a dance from someone else is pretty hard to misinterpret.
The circumstances when I would stop stage tipping a former CF or regular would be if she was overtly nasty or did something like grossly miscounting dances.
When it is just that am not as interested any more, though, they seem to correctly interpret stage tipping like how Bj99 described as moving into more of a friend zone. Ie., I still like them, but they're not who I am looking for a dance from that night. In those cases, when they get off stage, they generally sit down with someone who might be an actual dance prospect, even if I was the only one who tipped during that set. In other words, it a token of respect for her/what once was and is more fun than trying to not look her way especially if it's a smaller club or slower shift.
Typically, they just offer a friendly word or an interesting piece of intel while I'm there at the stage to tip. It also keeps the door open for a dance or two on an off night when there is no other dancer I am even remotely interested in.
The bottom line, of course, is that they were CFs and not GFs. I think it's for the best that couples' counseling isn't a thing at strip clubs.
Well, yes such clubs can be like being a kid in a candy store. They feel like that.
Oh well, you can't really have much of a relationship with any of them until you are at least partially ready to focus on just one, for a while.
Maybe find a favorite at another club, one you don't need to keep finding more girls from.
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