It's inappropriate to not tip a girl....for saying hi?
Estafador
BIG APPLE
Ran into something really weird. A girl said hi to me and was quick to ask for a dance. Wasn't my type so i said no and then she seemed like she accepted. Until she asked for a tip. I was shocked because she literally just asked me for a dance and nothing else. And she said "because she's a girl". I was confused because she did absolutely NOTHING for me and asked for a tip. Is this a thing g I'm missing or something because I have never heard this before.
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Asking me for a tip is a guaranteed way to not get one.
CP
In my early clubbing days, I fell for it a few times. Not anymore. But some girls will try... and say anything to separate you from your money.
If she sat with me for like 10-15 minutes and I'm not buying a dance then I'll be more inclined to tip her for using her 'time'.
I will say however, that maybe once a night a cute girl will spend a little time with me talking that for whatever reason I won't be doing dances with. I'll give her $5 and thank her for her time when she makes the pitch. If I DO want her to come back, I give her $20.
How many versions of this entitlement does one encounter in the club? Many. I like to see how others handle it. Depends on the mood I'm in if it's a flippant response or one based on politeness, along with how the dancer asks the question. There's a saying, it's not what you say but how you say it.
Asking if it's inappropriate for a dancer to ask for a tip is like asking if it's inappropriate for a customer for ask for sex. It's going to be asked daily so don't let it bother you.
And w.r.t. dancers asking me for a tip b/c they sat down w/ me - if I'm not interested in you and you sat down uninvited; bitch you should tip-me for wasting my valuable PL-time and not allowing me to get w/ someone that does interest me - dancers sitting next to you or plunking themselves on your lap uninvited is one of my biggest pet-peeves; I only got so much time in the visit to be being cock-blocked by an uninvited dancer. If I enjoy her company or want her company; then yeah I'll spend $$$ on her either via dances or a tip (usually the former). A while ago I had a cool ebony sitting w/ me bar-side for a few-songs while we waited for a 2-for-1; she was very good company and I wanted to get dances w/ her - she then got called up on stage; I'm not a stage-tipper but got-up and stage-tipped her a $10 b/c I didn't wanna make her feel like she wasted her time (and I subsequenlty also got dances from her, and more).
Generally you don't want to burn your bridges with girls.
Best is for you to decide what you want, and which girl you want, and then to approach her yourself and be generous.
SJG
In strip clubs they do earn money just for being female. That's just how it works. The money pays for them to be there, and to dress the part.
Keeps them out of the finance sector.
But best if you just go once in a while. See a girl outside instead.
SJG
After you've got an intense makeout session going with her, and it is time for your pants to come down, then you invite her to the back room. And then take her home with you too.
Strip clubs show you how life could be different. But in and of themselves they are not a good way of meeting any needs.
SJG
(1) A new favorite gave me a third consecutive lapgasm with her seductive grind and I tipped her $15 on top of the $45 for three dances. As I was leaving the club, she was sitting outside smoking and asked me for a $20 tip. I said simply "I already tipped you inside". We're still fine -- in fact, a possible OTC date may be developing.
(2) Last week at a dive bar, a formerly gorgeous dancer whom drug use has not been kind to plopped down beside me and, without any preliminaries, asked me to tip her. (She has blown me on two previous occasions.) I said "For what? You haven't done anything!" I followed up with an offer of $10 if she would take her top off and grind on me for one whole song. Done! Everyone won.
OTOH, I don't mind tipping after sitting together if I'm not looking for dances from a particular dancer that night. IMO, a backrub, intel about other clubs in the area, etc, can be worth what the dancer's cut would be for a lap dance.