Texting Frequency
houjack
Explosion in my pants
Is it just me, or do you guys also have girls that take hours to reply to text messages. Sometimes days.
I thought it was a particular girl, but I'm starting to think this is normal for strippers (maybe even younger girls in general).
I thought it was a particular girl, but I'm starting to think this is normal for strippers (maybe even younger girls in general).
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But in all seriousness, outside of my former ATF who would text just to chat, if I text a stripper, it's "are you going to be in today" or "when's your next shift." If she doesn't respond in a time I see fit to make my decision, it's her loss. They're working women with real (often strange) lives outside of the club, and sometimes plenty of other regulars they communicate with. To top it off, they're naturally flakes. I won't hold it against them if they are slow to respond, I'll just move on with my plans.
Or are you just chatting?
IMO most strippers do not like their job and only hustle when they really have to or don't have a choice - thus IMO most strippers don't wanna have to deal w/ custies unless they have to (need $$$ ASAP; etc).
PLs are the equivalent of same-day-loans; you deal with it when you don't have any other choice.
Of course there are exceptions just like in any field where there are those that like their job or just hustle more.
OTOH, my ATF, for all her virtues, is not very good at responding to my texts in a timely way -- if at all. It got so bad that we worked out a package deal last month for a certain number of OTC dates at a somewhat low total, which I paid in advance, with a sizable end-of-month bonus if (a) all of the dates went well (on time, no interruptions) and (b) she texted me adequately throughout the month. I know it's manipulative, but it had the effect of improving her performance both on dates and between dates. Results were mixed but mostly good.
That said, get used to it. :)
Then I realized that these girls are not living in a normal world.
I was expecting her to reply just like an associate in business would respond to a email or a voicemail. But these girls do not have any idea as to what it's like in the real world in a business situation. Fast money. Easy work hours of 6 to 7 hrs. And only having to work 3 or maybe 4 days a week. All the while drinking, smoking, possible drugs and having sex. These girls don't know what it's like to have a 8 am meeting and a presentation to show to a client that you've been working on for the past couple weeks.
So they are not going to put any kind of priority on responding to a text or a request. It's just not something that they feel is necessary anymore isn't their world.
One of the things that was a bit of an "aha!" moment for me, was when I put together that many of the attributes a stripper shows towards me as a customer, are the same attributes that led her to the point in her life where stripping became the best choice she could make. Customers are the lowest on her priority so we get it the worst, but the lack of response to texts, flaking, impulsiveness, poor judgement -- everyone around her, including friends and family, get a dose of that from her every day, it's who she is. It's not always conscious disrespect towards us, is how she lives her life, and why she's at the strip club, and meeting a guy twice her age for sex, in the first place
However there have been a few times it took her a day or 2 to respond.
Inconsistent response times are part of the territory, just need to get used to it :)
On the other hand, dancers I am "friends" with act more like typical females. Sometimes they may not respond for 2 hours or even 2 days, but when I really want to reach them I will usually call and they will usually answer.
Sometimes she'll answer in 5 mins ; other times 3 weeks. My ATF used to be as described by most of you, but since she stopped using narcotics she's cut all ties with her "friends", is sober, and usually gets back to me pretty quickly.