I might have Daddilac beat for PL of the year
larryfisherman
California
No matter how much I read these threads and get insight from some of the veterans on here, I still don't learn.
Case in point: There's this stripper I have been friendly with for months at one of the clubs I go. We've done dinner and a couple of sporting events as friends OTC. She is VERY attractive, but I didn't want to be her BF or exclusive to her as far as being her regular or anything like that. There are other attractive girls at the club, so I was spreading my money around, but I got dances from her semi regularly.
We had/have a really good connection, she had dropped a couple of hints that she wouldn't mind being with me. I didn't jump on the opportunity. She's been traveling a lot the past couple of months, and she hasn't been in town the past few weeks. The more time she is away, the more that I realize that I fucking miss her, and that I want to be with her. Of course some of it is lust, I love her body and I want to have passionate sex with her. On the other hand it's not just sex. I love just chilling out with her, having deep conversations with her etc.
I recently found she has a boyfriend that is taking care of her financially. That should have been the end of it for me, but I'm thinking shit I got money, I can take care of her financially, I can give her what she needs. I'm really considering telling her that I want to be with her, I will give her whatever she needs, and that I don't care who's in my way. My brain is telling me DON'T FUCKING DO IT, it's gonna end up disastrous. My heart is telling me that if you really care for someone then you will do whatever it takes.
I've thought about being with her. If I told my family I was dating a stripper of course they would not support it, but fuck em, it's not their life, it's my life. I can't really tell too many of my work colleagues and friends that I'm dating a stripper. With strippers you always have to worry about what they are doing ITC, and OTC when you're not there. All of this is screaming not to do it, but my heart is beating pretty hard for her right now. Of course there's plenty of other hot girls in LA, but they're not her.
My fellow TUSCLers I ask you to set me straight. Give me tough love if needed. Am I crazy for wanting to be with her?
Case in point: There's this stripper I have been friendly with for months at one of the clubs I go. We've done dinner and a couple of sporting events as friends OTC. She is VERY attractive, but I didn't want to be her BF or exclusive to her as far as being her regular or anything like that. There are other attractive girls at the club, so I was spreading my money around, but I got dances from her semi regularly.
We had/have a really good connection, she had dropped a couple of hints that she wouldn't mind being with me. I didn't jump on the opportunity. She's been traveling a lot the past couple of months, and she hasn't been in town the past few weeks. The more time she is away, the more that I realize that I fucking miss her, and that I want to be with her. Of course some of it is lust, I love her body and I want to have passionate sex with her. On the other hand it's not just sex. I love just chilling out with her, having deep conversations with her etc.
I recently found she has a boyfriend that is taking care of her financially. That should have been the end of it for me, but I'm thinking shit I got money, I can take care of her financially, I can give her what she needs. I'm really considering telling her that I want to be with her, I will give her whatever she needs, and that I don't care who's in my way. My brain is telling me DON'T FUCKING DO IT, it's gonna end up disastrous. My heart is telling me that if you really care for someone then you will do whatever it takes.
I've thought about being with her. If I told my family I was dating a stripper of course they would not support it, but fuck em, it's not their life, it's my life. I can't really tell too many of my work colleagues and friends that I'm dating a stripper. With strippers you always have to worry about what they are doing ITC, and OTC when you're not there. All of this is screaming not to do it, but my heart is beating pretty hard for her right now. Of course there's plenty of other hot girls in LA, but they're not her.
My fellow TUSCLers I ask you to set me straight. Give me tough love if needed. Am I crazy for wanting to be with her?
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Lol
But definitely blinded by the save a hoe syndrome that many of us (who are honest about it) have fallen into in the past.
There are so many problems:
1. She's a stripper (the rest are subsets of this)
2. She has lied to you repeatedly.
3. She has no interest in you.
4. She has been completely unreliable.
5. You have crying over this same fabricated story for over a month now.
GoVikings- apparently so, but I'm thinking of getting my Drake Marvin's Room mode on. "Fuck that nigga that you love so bad, I know you still think about the times you had".
Dominic you're probably right.
Mr. Deuce that is good advice.
Good point Rockstar.
Daddilac if you say to get out then it must be time to get out.
On a side note, I have seen her a couple times and she has not asked for money again. When she does I will kick her to the curb, I am enjoying the variety at follies
Gah! Who am I kidding? Run! Run far away!
You're not fucking any of those girls in the club and they all think you're a sucker. We've told you once, and now again, STRIP CLUBS ARE NOT FOR YOU.
You will not find what you want at strip clubs.
I'm not the best one to give advice, but this seems like a complicated situation. And seeing as she currently has a BF, unless she isn't happy with him, it'll probably be tough for you to pry her away from her man. But I hope it turns out the way you're hoping, larry
Have you read many posts on this board?
Clearly there are a lot of people that have nothing better to do with their lives.
Larry's posts feel sincere to me. He just seems stuck on trying to turn strippers into GFs
Anyways back to the thread.
@houjack- you are so right bro, I do know this and I keep telling myself this. The thing is I didn't go in the strip club looking for a girlfriend, I just met her in there and things kind of progressed from there. Also I don't know we can say ALL strippers are not dating material. There are some of them just stripping to pay tuition and are non extra low mileage girls.
I'm not trying to pry her away from her BF. I just want to let her know that I want her and only her. If she says she's happy in her relationship, then I'll leave it alone, I'm not gonna be obsessive and keep trying with her. I figure it doesn't hurt to try, I have nothing to lose.
If I go through all this though and she chooses me (realistically it's a slim to none chance), then I have to take everything that comes with being a stripper BF. I have to accept that she might be fucking guys ITC and OTC, she will be real flaky, there will be baggage and drama etc.
There was a new girl on here last week or so that provided really good insight. I think her name was Maxwell or something like that? I hope she chimes in on this thread.
LOL
Also, that's good you are well off, but imagine reaching a low financial point where you can't continue your SC activities. In my opinion, if the stripper knew this, she'd probably not want to OTC anymore or let alone contact you for no reason at all. Then you're left with chit chat in the club and I'm pretty sure she won't be dancing for free for you.
Two strippers I was seeing OTC who know I'm "sitting tight" until my funds get back right have been missing in action ever since they found out.
What? A boyfriend is no reason to give up. Girls change boyfriends for better ones all the time. Unless you don't think you're the better guy why would that make you give up?
I'm gonna think about it and sleep on it tonight. If I decide to do it, it will be tomorrow night.
This is the message I'm thinking about sending her. Tell me what you think lol.
"The last few weeks I have developed a major crush on you. The longer you're gone the more I realize how much I miss you. I know you got a situation, but let me be the one to cherish you. I want you and ONLY you. I can give you whatever you need"
Fucking Shakespeare right there LMAO.
Never, never, never fall in love with a stripper!!!!
Have all the fun you want with her, but do not get emotional about her.
I do like my ATF a lot, she is beautiful, sexy, fun, and we have great conversations.
We have a great time at the club, and an occasional OTC activity(only dinner dates).
Strippers should only be considered as "friends with benefits"....very expensive benefits....nothing more.
After sleeping on it, I'm 95% sure I'm NOT gonna go through with it. It's a very slim chance that I can get her now. She might get upset with me going after her after she told me she was in a relationship. It doesn't seem like a big upside going through with it.
No. Just no.
Neither is a realistic expectation.
Q: What does a stripper do with her asshole before work?
A: She drops him off at band practice!
Q: Who's is a total douche?
A: Larryshitforbrains
Thanks for all the advice guys! Greatly appreciated.
I do have strong feelings for her, and it doesn't look like it's gonna go away soon. What I will do is just let her know I have a crush on her, and that I miss her, and then I will wish her well, and that will be it.