Going after the bigger fish

To most people I'd reply with some sort of attempt to give good justification but you're The Godfather, all strippers want an audience from you, regardless of what number they are in the line.

Depends on the situation, in my experience.

If it was someone you had never gotten a dance from who you maybe-latered, it might be like it never happened. She might back off a bit until you show interest by stage tipping, etc, or might try waiting a little longer before talking to you next time.

If it was a CF or a regular, it could go either way. If she had been holding back, she might up her game. On the other hand, if she hadn't been holding back, she might start holding back. If she's more on the mercenary side, it wouldn't matter either way.

I've brushed off girls before in clubs because I was waiting for something better. Almost always, they have approached me again the next time I was in. Either because they don't remember me, (it's pretty dark in these clubs), or the manager sends them over, or it's slow and they want to sit with someone so that the manager doesn't get on their case.

I used to get frustrated if I didn't get the one I wanted. But now, I know they will be another time, and most likely, a younger new girl that's more attractive the next time too. So it doesn't bother me anymore.

Strippers' strongest motivation is making that $$$ - as long as they make that $$$ they are happy.

I also believe they inherently know they are competing against other dancers and that customers are not gonna always choose them (losing out to other dancers is part of the game) - they wanna make that $$$ and they know they gotta keep the custy happy in order to make future $$$ from him - I don't think many of them feel slighted and if they do to some extent IMO they'll be happy when they do get your $$$ instead of holding it against you.

It seems that more often than not when a dancer loses a custy to another dancer it seems if they blame anyone or have ill feelings towards anyone it's usually the other dancer for "stealing her custy" vs the custy having chosen someone else.

I tell her the truth, I don't want to get dances from her now.

The next time I just don't bring it up and if she does I feign ignorance, which in my case is very believable.

I've done this many times and and usually use some explanation that I was looking for them later and could not find them. I have never found it to be much of an issue in quality of the dance the next time. Probably because of what Papi said.

From a Dancer's perspective;

1. What do you tell her? "Maybe. Check with me later" I personally think is a really awesome neutral way to say "no" or to actually suggest coming back later. Saying something such as "I don't want dances from you right now" does not warrant any interest from me (personally speaking, obv) to return. I would see that as a way of simply saying no and suggesting for me not to return :p --When a guy tells me to check back later, I fucking check back later. If the girl doesnt return, it's most likely because she's afraid to be shot down again or she's busy. I find it hard to believe that any stripper forgets about possible money.

2)what kind of a time are you going to have? I mean, lets be honest...what time can you afford? I suggest starting with smaller amounted dancers (strippers would kill me for this) and if she is good, get more time! Therefore, less money and time is wasted on girls who give guys shitty lapdances. Her goal should be to make a guy spend as much time in VIP as possible (in my club, that's where the money is)..so she better be grinding the fuck out of you boo :p

Is she going to be pissed that you passed her up last time and just give you a meh experience or is she going to go all out to steal you away from the other dancer?

• I wouldn't be mad and I don't think most would, BUT there are petty dancers. Honestly, if I'm in a mood..I might pass the guy off. Lucky for me, I save my stripper funds..so, I'm not really pressed to give a dance to some guy who didn't realize how hot I was initially, especially if he was rude :( -meh or good dance really just depends on the girl.

Strippers vary..and one thing I've noticed through lurking on this site before making an account is a lot of guys on here generalize us. Questions like these are hard because who knows what personality type your "DS" or whatever is going to have.

Good luck and trust your gut? :p

@MilaniCashhh- I like your answer and because you are one of the few dancers that has come on here recently and added something to the convo, (most come here and ask us for info) I'm not going to tell you to show us your tits, but you can if you want to ; )

@shadowcat did you run into Savannah again? ;)

It seems like I face this dilemma about 70% of my strip club visits. And the answer to your question is: it depends. I've had some dancers I passed up act like it never happened when I see them again. And I've had others where it permanently changed the dynamic between us.

Ohh....that never happens to me at Follies....! :)

Neither. I skip the vip and go for a few laps from all satisfactory strippers. I can see how it would be different with extras included in vip though.

Great question shadow. First, let me add, a lot of times I don't want to start with LDs/rooms in the first 20 minutes of walking into a club because i just don't want to empty my wallet right out of the gate even if I do like her.

IME, 'ask me later' is much better than 'not now' but still like 75% never come back after saying 'ask me later.'

Maybe OT but... it's one of the things I truly miss about an ATF/CF situation: I'm highly confident in how to optimize my spending going in, there's probably no need to wait, and if I do want to wait, she know I'm a sure sell so she does come back later.

IME, the dancers MIGHT remember you if you did VIP with them, but probably not if you turned them down. At one club near Chicago I went there monthly for over a year and this same girl would approach me every visit in my first five minutes. I doubt she'd do that if she resented my continual refusals. Bad memory is a job skill for strippers.

The last time I put off a 'satisfactory' dancer I saw her go to VIP with another customer about 10 minutes later and she must have left right after since I never saw her again(this club had a mid shift that overlapped the afternoon and night shift so there was not a gap between the end of afternoon and night shifts) and she was actually the best girl I saw that night.

It's a dilemma, Shadow. In a similar way, I've had the same quandary when getting a good LD (often with a manual assist) from an okay dancer soon after I arrive, and if we don't stop, I'm gonna cum. I'm a once-and-done guy, so I want to spend a couple hours enjoying some play first, and then near the end, find my dancer-du-jour for the finale.

BUT, if I short-circuit the first okay dancer, and then can't come up with anything better near the end of my stay, I'm left wondering whether I should have just taken the first cum offered and then hung around the club for the remainder of my time already satiated. I'm evenly split - I enjoy the play a lot and even if I don't cum, it's still fun. But I also enjoy the release and count myself lucky to find a girl who'll give it to me out on the floor without doing a VIP.

Jeez, we're fucked up - Oh,the perils of being a PL!

I used to view this as a difficult decision, but no longer. The older I get, the less I'm inclined to take a consolation prize. If I cannot have a girl that I really want, then I'd rather go home empty handed. I, like many others here, visit the clubs quite often. I am perfectly fine with a certain % of those visits being nothing more than eye candy, some flirty interactions and a bit of booze to put a hazy glow around the whole experience. If today is not the day that I get to do ridiculous things to an 8+ that I really like, then there's always tomorrow.

Common sense tells us "A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush", This hobby however is built around fantasy and dancers building the fantasy for us. I let my little head specify the targets, and then use the big head to analyze whether the little guy is making sense or not...

If I wanted a 'sure thing' there's always calling an escort, but the club atmosphere appeals to me both for the thrill of the chase. You win a few, you lose a few.... but nothing is gained by not going for what you really want. You also have to be realistic about the environment you are in at the moment. If it is a sausage-fest and is near shift change you might do best latching onto the 'satisfactory' girl, If on the other hand competition favors the customer go for what appeals to you: It is up to the 'satisfactory' girl to up her game a bit. She'll get her chance if the big fish doesn't come around. I've long maintained that with beer goggles a six can be a nine (and I'd rather get a responsive high mileage six than a dead fish nine anyday)

Neither. I club more like Chessmaster where I'll get regular LDs since the club does have VIP anyway. If I don't want a LD I'll just watch stage and maybe tip or just take in the atmasphere while I sip my drink. so I'm spending a smaller amount spread over multiple girls and my visits are more spaced apart. So it's all pretty drama free.

When you have a large group of regulars (and I've never understood the concept of some PLs to only get dances from one dancer exclusively), there's always going to be disappointed dancers, but it's rarely a problem, at least for me.

Example: I was in my favorite club on Tuesday afternoon, lots of girls, including some new talent I hadn't experienced before. A favorite from a sister club was now dancing here, and she took me to VIP and knocked my shit out there. After cleaning up and while recovering at my seat, a favorite Latina dancer (and one who does "front room GFE" lol) came over, hugged me and asked if I was ready for her. I told her I waiting for another dancer (an incredible AA dancer I had not seen before) and she just hugged me, gave me a little kiss and said "Next time we will celebrate OUR Valentine's Day" and walked off. No drama whatsoever. Btw, the AA dancer was tremendous.

CP

Strip-clubs/strippers are often a crapshoot - but I'd say having patience and not jumping the gun is probably the way to go.

There have been times when I've visited a club and spent all my funds on pretty-good dancers only to see better and more desirable dancers (to me) later on my visit after I was tapped out.

Of course the opposite has happened where I'll turn away a pretty-good dancer waiting to see all that the club has to offer and then have regretted not getting w/ her - but all-in-all I think it's best to be patient and make a decision w/ the most facts in-hand.

If you miss out on the one you want to VIp with there is always next time.

I never do VIP without seeing it on the floor first. If a floor dance isn't enticing I'll Just get a couple of dances and say thank you. Then I keep my head on a swivel for something that looks good.

Sometimes I never make into VIP if the girls and vibe aren't compelling to peel off a few Benjamins.

Well today I didn't wait for the bigger fish. I was in and out of my favorite club in 1 hr 15 mins. Plus I made a good choice.