That fucking a civilian doesn't feel normal ? I remember a time in my mid to late twenties this was flipped.
I was married to a civilian and was used to the marital sex situations. Even shortly after my marriage early on I would date and fuck civilians usually waitresses and was used to that kind of situation...at those times the sex with a paid provider was odd and weird to me
Currently in my mid thirties and I've been having more sex with paid providers and it's the norm and I love how the situation but now I'm trying sex with a civilian waitress once again but this time it doesn't feel like I need it to...the girl is beautiful and the sex is enjoyable but it's not the same with a provider
I actually have grown to crave sex with a provider over a civilian
Any one else feel the same ? Any one got a reason why it's like this for me ? Have I became that much of a loner, player, bachelor, about me and my business ?
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last commentI went through a period of womanizing after a girl I was dating had cheated on me, and I figured it was better to be the one cuckolding than the one cuckolded. The girls I knew I could get had a certain vulnerability about them that seemed less attractive at the time. After associating with enough strippers, my view on that became the opposite, though.
Now a woman being authentic and having a certain vulnerability because it's real feels incredibly hot.
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Pp I understand your view but most of these hoes I get up inside yeah at first it's business but I repeat hit that Shit....over time they basically GF status...sex is very emotionally connected to des hoes...they need it and I need it....I understand not everyone experiences this...I'm beginning to believe I was designed to love and makes love to dem hoes...civilians are for lames and I'm no lame......I bet da pussy up like a hoe needs then I love dem like the father they wish they had...I'm almost pimping des hoes my game so tight.
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Fuck you jackie! You are in your mid 40's
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Nope. For me it is the opposite. When I was single I was having so much fun with civilian women that imy clubbing activity dropped off dramatically. The only reason that all of my side fun is p4p with strippers is because affairs with civilians come with too many headaches and risks. I have learned to accept that I am a dog always in need of variety. The least I can do is to avoid situations that could blow back to the homefront.
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Yeah Juice, I hear you. I only fucked civvies for a while, then it was all P4P. Now I have several civvie g/f's (well one is an escort but I don't pay her) and I don't have any current need for P4P. But I like how drama free P4P is...in fact I'm kind of wishing the escort WAS P4P because in larger doses she can be annoying. At least she's not as flaky as most dancers in that she has yet to miss a date, or be late even.
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Who knew Action Bronson with that mug was such a lady killer?
I guess there's hope for everyone then with the ladies...
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LMFAO, I'm da Mane
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Civilians are lots of drama, sex or not. I am big into monogamy but also abstinence, in my younger days. (I'm all for will power: delayed gratification, work for purpose, empathy, altruism, self control). Even when dating multiple women, I wouldn't fuck them, unless I was just dating one of them. That was what seemed right. I figured with no sex, that multiple partner dating, would be fine. Oooh boy! Was I ever wrong.
I think some women are raised (or perhaps hard wired, in some cases) for monogamy. They'd go ape shit when you told them you wouldn't go exclusive or if they just assumed you were exclusive. I always thought "dating" and "going steady" were two distinct things. The women never thought so. They equated dating=steady. In my defense, I was always honest and straight with when with what was going on.
Since then I've learned that women don't want ruthless honestly (like ruthlessly revealing in high-end audio). They ruthless part of too brutal for them. What they want is an iron fist in a velvet glove. With the emphasis on the velvet glove.
Myself, I never got into the variety of sex thing. It just seemed like, or rather I just imagined it, to be like sex but with a women with a different color wig on. So maybe I should be glad I don't have that itch.
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Yes. It's like any other addiction.
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Probably between the Navy and a stint in the merchant marine became more comfortable with hos, Had a few Civies and I agree with Dominic that there is an infinite amount more drama.
I think with the whole SD/SB thing the lines are even more blurred than ever... From what I read on here with guys who have regular OTC arrangements and or do the sugar thing, gifts (above and beyond agreed fees) and drama get added to the 'pay to leave' scenario.
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Meat, with me it's not addiction. It's a matter of money, time and expectations. I'm going to have sex with someone, P4P or otherwise.
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I'm monogamous relationship with my money
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Rick Dugan with a quick synopsis.
Does it come without the guilt? No judgement here, just wondering?
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Juice
Juice
Juice
SJG
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True story
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