Fair Game?
So, if the atf hasn't done right by me, but she has gotten demanding bc she's in a jam, and she starts extorting me by telling me about offers she's been getting, and she's not responding to texts, and I have been loyal all along, and she has told me if she catches me with another dancer she will tear out my larynx and gut her like a fish, and her club rotation is frequent due to being routinely hired and fired, and she's just about to start or is already PMS-ing... should I :
A. Change my name and move five states away
B. Make rounds of the clubs until I find her, completely ignore her, and take another straight to vip
C. Bring her a stack, a car, and a ring and tell her I can't live without her
D. Start taking applications for her place in my life
E. Stop clubbing altogether and find another hobby
A. Change my name and move five states away
B. Make rounds of the clubs until I find her, completely ignore her, and take another straight to vip
C. Bring her a stack, a car, and a ring and tell her I can't live without her
D. Start taking applications for her place in my life
E. Stop clubbing altogether and find another hobby
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I told you 2 weeks ago - you're not cut out for this shit and should start collecting stamps instead of messing with strippers.
Let her know that you're done with her and her drama, and you're moving on. Find another dancer, and explain to this one up front that drama will instantly crimp the money hose.
Option B is the closest to what I've recommended, except that it's passive aggressive. That typically prolongs / increases drama.
I would just cut ties with her and tell her your reasoning. You need to be direct.
Two things will happen..... She will change attitude and then it is up to you if you want to keep her around. But you might deal with the same shit down the road.
She will have a mini melt down and get then get the picture.
Don't be childish and try to make her jealous by taking another stripper to VIP with out talking to her first. After the talk with her.... enjoy your time but don't take anyone to the VIP. Just have a few drinks, sit at the stage, and tip. Don't do anything to escalate the situation.
I can get insight to what you're cut out for by the questions you ask.
Seriously - best best advice is move on, cut ties. If you run into her at another club down the road - say "hi" and move on, or ignore her. Just don't get a lapdance from her or allow her to hang at your table.
She is doing to you what a lot of women (and men) do in relationships. They keep you in it by threatening you. You mentioned "extortion" if I remember correctly you're married right? Do you fear she will try to expose your relationship to your wife? (One reason I don't club in my own town...).
That sounds like the best thing I can do for both of us, because I am such a PL that I really do care about her, even if to her I'm just another meatbag connected to a wallet, and a clean break or a fresh start is the best way to handle things to avoid awkweirdness in the future. Thank you!
If a stripper ever extorted me to that - that would surely make me sweat bullets but when meeting strippers - they never get much info out of me. I did OTC with one for 2 years once a month and she never knew my last name or what state I lived in.
Always remember this statement "never underestimate a motivated stripper." - George Clooney
In similar situations, what I've done is, just gone to the club and arranged to meet someone else. If she wasn't there, then I'd just have fun with that someone else. If she was there, I'd greet her warmly, then tell her, "I have an appointment with Mocha today, but have a great day!" It's never really gone beyond that, but I suppose if she asked, I'd tell her I'd like to meet some of the other girls, and leave it there. Then, I go have fun with Mocha, the same way I always do (drinks, dances, etc). Never with the intention of making her jealous, she ceases to be a concern of mine, period...
Every "relationship" with a stripper has an expiration date - it is only a matter of how quickly the gig spoils. For me, it is bad the moment that it stops being fun. You don't owe her anything and you can bet that she'd forget you in a second if it was convenient for her - you are nothing more than a temporary payment source in her life.
Now some guys who have one or any combo of the following issues: (1) get fucked up in the head over a little young pussy; (2) crave drama and excitement; and/or (3) are very lonely, that they try to get deep in the weeds with these girls' lives. Only you can decide if you want to be one of these guys, but I have never seen or heard an instance where this results in anything but stress and/or depleted bank accounts.
"Hell hath no fury.... "
Seriously, you have to take control of this relationship. I'd do a VIP with the hottest girl in the club while she's there. Show her you won't die if you're not with her alone.
"she has gotten demanding bc she's in a jam"
text "What are you gonna do about it baby?"
"she starts extorting me by telling me about offers she's been getting"
text "how much is he offering?" then respond, "have fun tonight [fucking him] babe"
"she's not responding to texts"
then dont text her
"I have been loyal all along"
means nothing aslong as she takes $ from you, tell her if she will fuck for free (wifey/GF), you are exclusive, if you green money pay her to give you attention, you will still mess around with other strippers form time to time
"she has told me if she catches me with another dancer she will tear out my larynx and gut her like a fish"
If ATF really feels that way about you, offer ATF to move into your home.
"her club rotation is frequent due to being routinely hired and fired, and she's just about to start or is already PMS-ing"
Doesn't excuse her behavior. Real women will apologize 1-2 hours to 1-2 days later if they say nasty stuff they didnt mean from PMS. If she doesnt realize what she said was wrong, then she actually meant it.
Since she's giving ultimatums - that's disrespectful. I'd call her bluff - tell her to go and enjoy the whales willing to put out $$$ for her.
In stripper/customer relationships - it's business. She has something you want - and you have something she wants. It's best that the stripper avoid threats - and it's best that the customer avoids threats too. You aren't engaging in that sort of behavior - so there's no excuse for her to do that either.
One question. You didn't make any sort of commitment to the dancer - did you? You didn't tell her that you wouldn't get dances from other girls? If you didn't do that - then she has no expectation of anything.
She sounds unstable - so best to cut ties and move on.
And when are you gonna review some clubs.
"Hot" doesn't always mean desirable.