A new one

Timex345
Illinois
A stripper who I met about a month ago texted me Saturday to come visit her that evening at the club.
I agreed. Later, she texted me. She asked if we could meet at a local strip club.
A club she would not be working at that night. She wanted me to pay her to hang out and relax and have fun as she put it.
I told her I couldn't make it. I was a little put off. I mean. Paying for your time while you are working I can agree too.
But, I refuse to pay for you to hang out at a club with me. I mean there was no promise of sex. But, I guess I will never know since I said no.
I have done OTC with other girls before. But, this arrangement was a new one on me.
Maybe I should have agreed to do it. But, I am not totally into this girl like some other dancers.

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  • JamesSD
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    9 years ago
    Was she expecting hundreds of dollars for this privilege?

    She probably worked it successfully one on a PL, Regular In Love, and is trying it again.
  • londonguy
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    9 years ago
    I think you did the right thing. Guys that go along with this only encourage these girls. I'd expect this from an escort where there is a guarantee of sex either before or afterwards, or even both.

  • rh48hr
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    9 years ago
    If sex was on the menu before or after the"hanging out"that would make sense As long as you didn't give her a dime until you had sex with her. Otherwise she would have strung you along with their promise of sex.

    You made the right choice.
  • jackob85
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    9 years ago
    I would say "we can hang out but that is not paid activity". If she just wants to club and hang, fine. If she wants you helping her tip some strippers? Fine. If she wants you buying a few drinks for her time? That might be fine. I would not pay her the $100/hr or half hour that an escort might want though. It could lead to a more quality OTC experience if played properly.
  • JohnSmith69
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    9 years ago
    You need clear communication. What are you paying, and what is she doing for you in return for that payment. "Having fun" is never an adequate description of what she is doing.

    I'd talk to her about it the next time you see her itc and see exactly what she had in mind. Taking a stripper to a club can be fun but only if you're fucking her afterwards.
  • shailynn
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    9 years ago
    You did the right thing and there's some good advice given in the thread.

    Next time you see her ask her to clarify what she wants. Tell her what you want, and hopefully middle ground can be reached and both of you are on the same page.

    From what you said, best case scenario is she was offering you OTC. Worst case scenario is she can stand to hang out with you, and wanted to party that night, and was arrogant enough to try to sucker you into paying her while she was partying.
  • mrrock
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    9 years ago
    Good call!
  • beguiled
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    9 years ago
    She was trying to rope you into a 3-way with her working girlfriend.
  • gammanu95
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    9 years ago
    Can't blame a girl for trying. If you were interested, you could have tried to negotiate an OTC from it.
  • Subraman
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    9 years ago
    Ya, that seems to me to be the start of a negotiation.

    If I felt like hanging out with her -- and unlike many here, I love hanging out with strippers, even if it's not an OTC sex thing -- my typical response is "if we're just hanging out, I'll pay for the alcohol and some lap dances for you, let me know if you're interested." I've hung out that way with plenty of strippers, totally enjoy it. IF she comes back that she wants to get paid, I'll tell her I'll pay her if we'll be having sex. If she says no to that, then that's that. But no reason to write her off until you've negotiated.
  • FTS
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    9 years ago
    Can a cop ever work undercover as a stripper? This is probably a stupidly ridiculous question, but anybody who's been with a pro knows the etiquette: never discuss money & sex. Money is for her companionship. But with strippers, it sounds like this etiquette will usually get you nowhere. Which brings me to my question...
  • FTS
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    9 years ago
    Also, to comment on OP, she used the words "relax and have fun." That phrase sounds like enough of an opening to discuss exactly how you would like to relax and have fun with her (panties off).
  • rockstar666
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    9 years ago
    Timex, you need to clarify if this was a date or a business transaction. The way you told it, it was a date but of course 99% of the time she'll hit you up for cash. That being said, I've had 'free' dates with dancers so you never know.
  • Cashman1234
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    9 years ago
    You did the right thing. If she was looking for payment for going to a strip club to hang out - that's setting a precedent for the evening - and it's a precedent that will lead to draining your wallet (and that's with out any promise of sex!)
  • Ugluck75
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    9 years ago
    That is crazy. Unless she considers it a date to be followed by OTC action, then there is no way I would pay a stripper just to hang out at a club with me.
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