Marriage Used As A Weapon?
san_jose_guy
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Tuesday, April 19, 2016 4:18 PM
How many people feel like I do that their wife used the marriage itself as a weapon?
What I mean is this, she is not such a bad person, and nor am I. But to make a relationship work it is necessary to face many outside challenges.
So we each had our shortcomings. And back when I married her I was not yet committed to having lots of sex. I still felt that to be out of reach.
So there are difficulties in living in this world, and each partner had their shortcomings. But there were still problems with the marriage which went beyond the short comings of either partner.
My wife used the marriage as a weapon. She pursued a war of emotional terrorism. She did this because she could. A girlfriend would not have done such because all it would have meant was the end of the relationship. And a woman known more casually, like say in a P4P context, would never have done such.
But my wife, she saw that leaving the marriage entails high cost and a high level of shame and personal failure. So with that to back her up, she raged and raged and raged, and was totally unwilling to work constructively towards solutions to any problem.
So is she horrid, or is it the way I see it, marriage is horrid because it allows such?
And has anyone else faced such a war of emotional terrorism, where you were always being struck by a hammer, where the marriage itself was being used as the anvil?
And I still suffer from Post Marital Stress Disorder.
SJG
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