DeviantTurtle

Marriage is not inherently bad. The idea of making a declaration of love to another person and having that reciprocated can't be a bad thing. A person that is willing to use the social stigma around divorce to force you to stay is a person with very little self esteem. They have a problem. I myself am married and in a very similar situation to what you have described. My wife has a problem with honesty and she has been manipulative since the day I met her. She lies and manipulates me constantly. Since I know exactly what she's doing, I manipulate her and the situation to be able to do some of the things I want to do. We've created our own little system of the way things work in our world. It's exhausting and sickening and honestly, I think I'm done. Would I ever get married again? No. Not because I think marriage is bad though. I'm just terrible at picking a good mate. I'm wiser now than I was in my early 20's, but I still worry that I would make the same bad choices that led me here the second time around. My wife and I are the problem, not marriage.

@Rockstar: I was not speaking of TER. Honestly, I haven't been to that site in years. In the PNW, there are boards that provide great information as long as you know how to read them. That being said, the board owners have let the hooker dictate things more than they should. That's where the pressure for good reviews comes from.

The downside to escorts is that you only get to inspect what she wants you to see because you are looking at pictures she has provided. Reviews help, but everyone has a different opinion of beauty. Plus, a lot of review writers are worried about their reputation and don't want to slam a girl for being fat or ugly, because other escorts will see it and may not want to see him and have her flaws exposed. The upside is that the rates are much lower. I can spend an hour of quality time for $200. That will include complete access to anything that is on the menu, multiple shots if you have it in you, and usually a shower before and after.

My experience is purely from the escort world because of my situation. There are no clubs in my immediate area, and the closest ones are pretty bad. When I do get a chance to travel to a more populated area, I usually plan some activities with an escort off a local board. The benefit is that I get to do my "window shopping" offsite and can then spend what little time I have enjoying the company of a lady rather than running game. Plus, it's cheaper and I know exactly what I'm gonna get. I'm lucky that I have a local board that provides reviews and access to chat with the ladies though. If I were in a different situation, I'd probably mix it up with dancers, AMPs, and escorts though.

Sounds exactly like my last visit there.