How can I handle this????
JohnSmith69
layin low but staying high
I just got a text from my wife's best friend. She saw me on a date with DS II, and wants me to tell my wife that I'm dating. She didn't ask why or how I was dating a college student.
We are separated so it's not the same kind of issue that this would've been a couple years ago. But still my wife and I are in the middle of a lot of financial transactions and she can make my life a lot more of a hell than she already does if she hears this. I just need to avoid the turmoil of this coming out right now if at all possible. Once the money is all dealt with completely I don't care but it's not nearly done yet."
I can't think of any good reason why I would be out to dinner with a gorgeous 20 something woman. We didn't kiss at dinner, and I don't think we held hands. But we weren't exactly discussing business either.
Her message suggests she is pretty sure this was a date but she's not positive. Can anybody think of a good excuse besides the truth?
We are separated so it's not the same kind of issue that this would've been a couple years ago. But still my wife and I are in the middle of a lot of financial transactions and she can make my life a lot more of a hell than she already does if she hears this. I just need to avoid the turmoil of this coming out right now if at all possible. Once the money is all dealt with completely I don't care but it's not nearly done yet."
I can't think of any good reason why I would be out to dinner with a gorgeous 20 something woman. We didn't kiss at dinner, and I don't think we held hands. But we weren't exactly discussing business either.
Her message suggests she is pretty sure this was a date but she's not positive. Can anybody think of a good excuse besides the truth?
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You can just say it is a young lady whom you struck up a conversation w/ at a Starbucks (she was studying there and had books and you inquired at to her field of study and it was X) – you then shared w/ her you are a lawyer and she says she's been considering law-school but she doesn't know if she's cut out for it. You are mentoring her and sharing your experience and one night while at Starbucks while you were talking w/ her and giving her advice you both got hungry and you invited her to a nice meal especially with her being a struggling college student.
By the way, it was the nicest restaurant in town.
Mikey, we don't text often but she knows my number.
you go right ahead with your story John. i’m all ears. your stories are almost as good as san_jose_guy's
But seriously – if you are separated perhaps it cannot be used against you – I assume separated people date all the time – sure the wife can be upset and use it against you; but hopefully you both agree that the marriage is over and what each of you do w/ your personal lives is each one's business.
BTW – as others have said – your wife's friend should really butt out and not stick her nose where it doesn't belong.
Nothing else. No bullshit stories, no elaborate lies.
She'll either tell your wife or won't. The fact that she texted you means she is conflicted. Keep it simple and she'll keep not being sure which is the best way to keep her out of it.
Try this - I was meeting a male colleague who backed out after i arrived. Saw this girl in the bar/lobby/by herself at a table and she seemed to be down in the dumps. To not eat alone and to help a stranger in distress, I invited her to join me.
I don't know what area of law you practice, but maybe you could just say it was a business dinner, which, for all intents and purposes, it was; just let them draw their own conclusions about who she was, along with the notion that, well, you're a lawyer, so anything involving that dinner is probably going to be confidential.
Hate to say it, but from my own experience, I'm 99.9% sure the friend will end up telling the wife.
So, plan accordingly. And have your story straight.
If she's not hot go with jester214's response!
Best of all, you can say it all with a straight face because it's all true!
Wow, who pissed in your cornflakes this morning? And why do you always preface your comments by telling us how long you've been a fucking divorce attorney, as if that means that your opinions on anything other than divorce law have some type of special credibility. I've been a lawyer as long as you have, but I don't feel the need to waive it in everybody's face all the time.
I think this was the perfect group to ask my question. My question was not a legal question. Instead, it was a question about how to best lie to cover up the fact that I'm having sex with a stripper. I can't think of a better group to ask that question of. And the answers I got were a lot better than what my lawyer would have told me ( after he got done laughing about the fact that I would pay him to ask a professional such a question).
As for it all being bullshit, this seems like a strange thread in which to make that tiring allegation. I understand if you want to claim that I'm lying when I say that a strippers mom wants to date me, or that I saw a midget shot guy. But being spotted in a restaurant in my home town at dinner with a stripper is not implausible in the slightest.
Ski is more generous in the review section!
But I figure some are and I might as well treat them as true! I'm even treating the idea of a suit-wearing lion that owns an AK and dates JohnSmith69's DS as true! Though I still wonder how he gets around the trigger guard with his fat lion paws! ;)
I wouldn't worry too much about it. Let your wife bring it up to you. Because if you start to tell lies and what not. You don't want to get into it.
If your wife (ex-wife) doesn't bring it up.... forget about it. If she does bring it up just tell her you took a friend out to dinner. If she starts to ask more questions... tell her, "I thought you didn't want to know this type of things?"..... that should shut her up right there. If it doesn't shut her up go with any story you want. But business associate or potential client or customer is something that would work as well.
At *most*, it rates "I can't discuss it."
Say she was an important client or that she works with you. Who cares if she's young, you can theoretically be an attorney by 25 or so, and one can be a paralegal, assistant, or law clerk before that.
I don't know what kind of law you practice or how much she knows about your firm, your practice, your work schedule, etc. But any good lawyer will be able to think on their feet and say whatever they need or make up any scenario that fits and gets the heat off them.
Mentoring sounds like a good idea, that would make sense. There's a lot of people that's unsure of law school, and they go meet with lawyers for advice.
I believe JS's stories, if they're not true, at least they're entertaining. A lot better than the garbage that is posted here on the regular.
Problem solved. You're welcome.
It sounds like she didn't assume prostitute. That's good. You may be able to make a joke along the lines of "I wish it was a date!" Since you're a lawyer you can legitimately say "it was work related but I unfortunately can't talk about it"
I'm not sure if you live in some ass backwards redneck state where fucking someone else before the ink dries can screw you over. But is it really so awful if you were dating? I mean, that is what people do after a divorce.
As a retard, I want to know why anyone would ask an attorney? Especially one of 33 years? Attorneys don't answer questions they just reference circular arguemwnts. Law is not black and white because judges use to be lawyers and don't want it black and white.
If you have been an attorney for 33 years you must be way below average. At 33 years, if you were good you would have had more than enough money to retire before now. Practicing family law is a license to steal. Wouldn't take me 33 years to do it either.
“As a divorce attorney of 33 years…” and “I've been a lawyer as long as you have”
well that would mean that you aren’t really 50ish but closer to 60ish.
not to worry but imho you do need to tighten up these stories. i mean a lawyer asking other people how to lie is pretty darn implausible. good grief man that smacks of a san_jose_guy level fabrication and you must realize what a collection of obviously lame assed lies all of his posts are i’m sure
strive for quality over quantity and i think your stories will begin to show a marked improvement
You were the one before who said you don't club or OTC in your home town. Need to continue to keep it that way, at least for a while.
SJG
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that’s what i was trying to tell John about his posts. thanks for simplifying the concept. after all, one imbecilic gravy drinking lying psycho is more than enough for this board
Or even better, I want her to suspect that I'm probably fucking a 20 year old, but not be sure how in the world the husband that she knows and hates could possibly land such an awesome woman. She will be trying to figure it out all of the time, thinking about me fucking a 20 year old college student day after day. I'm sure the friend will tell her how gorgeous the woman was that I was with. A 9.5 easily, with a low cut top that I was staring at throughout dinner with her permission. My dancer is what all of these middle aged plus women wants to be but never was and never can be -- a gorgeous knockout that every heterosexual male lusts for.
Note, this last post was written just as the weed kicked in. Hopefully this thread is dead and nobody will read this. If not, I'm sorry. The little head wrote this.
You're also being reckless these days. President separation JS69 would never have taken DS on a date locally.
Ideally there can be some sort of a peace treaty with the ex, after all the dust is settled.
And getting high is not what is needed at this time, or at any other time either.
JS69, how big were the bathtubs you used with the DS, like 90 gallons and 72"x42", or more like 148 gallons and 72"x 60", or were they more the corner type?
SJG
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Hopefully there can eventually be peace with the ex. No reason to have avoidable strife at this time.
SJG
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Agsin, dude, stop taking the blue pill.
When I'm not high, I agree with SJG that I should avoid antagonism. But I'm going to keep smoking weed, and it makes me want to tell her that I fuck women far less than half her age.
Alabegonz wrote, "Dude, you exude and is oozing the Beta Male Provider"
Okay, now I understand what you mean by Blue Pill.
I think it is best to be able to be flexible and to see things from multiple vantage points at the same time.
I think posturing should be limited. The Alpha Male stuff that the Pick Up Artists put out is nonsense, total bullshit, comical. It is only posturing.
I work to have real world victories. Often these are political. I don't just act cocky to impress women. But nor do I let them define me as some sort of money making machine.
I think also it is important to understand that women, to a large degree, still want to be provided for. Though this may not happen and may not even be possible, there is nothing wrong with them wanting this.
I think we all have been denied standing in this world. But because we are so brainwashed by the self-reliance ethic, we don't join political forces and stand up for ourselves or do anything to restore our social and civil standing.
I would like to see this change.
JS69, Still curious to know how much a large bathtub is good for, versus when you need a small hot tub. Related is how much water these take, whether it is coming from the water heater, or if you need heavy additional electric heating to make it work.
Thanks
SJG
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Doyle Bramhall II
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