Dealing with rejection
Clackport
Washington
I like most of you if I really like a dancer, I'll get her number. It might be to set up OTC, or it could just be to know when she's working etc.
If you ask for her number, and she doesn't give it to you, how do you deal with her from then on?
I rarely rejected when asking for the number, but I have had three dancers that said no. With those three girls I didn't spend a single dollar on them from then on. If she's stupid enough not to realize she can gain a lot of future business from me, then she doesn't deserve any of my money.
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If you ask for her number, and she doesn't give it to you, how do you deal with her from then on?
I rarely rejected when asking for the number, but I have had three dancers that said no. With those three girls I didn't spend a single dollar on them from then on. If she's stupid enough not to realize she can gain a lot of future business from me, then she doesn't deserve any of my money.
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@chess- if I'm trying to fuck her for free, and she denies my number request, I'll likely keep trying if I really want that pussy.
Usually such a refusal means I'm done with her, but there are exceptions. For example, last week I met a new dancer who really turned me on. After some good lap dances, I asked for her number. She said she doesn't give her number to customers. Given that she was new, I gave her a short lesson in striping 101, especially the need for a burn phone or a burn phone ap for customers to be able to talk to her about when she's working. She didn't seem to realize that she didn't have to give guys her "real" number. I will probably get dances from her the next time because her number refusal was the result of ignorance and she will likely soon learn.
+ IMO dancers are there to give dances for the $$$ I’m paying them for dances – way I see it I’m not entitled to their # or them hooking up w/ me OTC; all that is beyond the basic service of a dancer and it’s up to each individual dancer if she is willing to go beyond her basic duties/services
+ I’m not the perfect custy so I should not expect a dancer to be the perfect dancer in my eyes w.r.t. what she should be like and act (beyond giving me an adequate dance for my payment of a dance)
I’ve come to accept that dancers are as reliable as the weather (actually less) and just as one day there can be the worst weather and the next the most beautiful day; one day a dancer can give me crap/grief and another day/visit she can blow my PL mind – i.e. I don’t ride them off and give them multiple chances to “warm up to me” (unless her actions are too egregious but her not giving me her # is not an egregious action as least not for me).
So w/ dancers being so inconsistent/flaky (well; women in general actually but dancers worse :)) I just go w/ the flow since they can sometimes go from cold to hot unexpectedly.
I've seen her at her club 20 times and she always ask me if I want a dance and I always say, " no thanks".
I would make sure that she didn't misunderstand me if I were you.
Years ago I made the mistake of giving my number a little freely to dancers, and it turned into a nightmare. Contant txts on Friday and Saturday night saying "come see me at work" from strippers all over the country - eh not anymore. Your dancer may think you'll be a stalker unless you explain why you want her numbers.
Another example, this very pretty dancer was always all up on me when I was in the club. All she would talk about was "when are you going to take me on a date" etc etc etc. it go so annoying because she never even hinted about extras and never offered anything when we would get dances either. finally one day I gave in and said "here let me give you my number" and she flaked. Right then and there she was telling me all these stories to make sure I would return multiple times to that club specifically to see her.
If you get rejected, do you guys go back to that club and make sure she sees you spending money on other girls?
more often than not bitches like that don't give a shit of they lose your business. fuck 'em-your money will be more appreciated by the others you spend your hard earned money on.
I can't disagree with that one bit -- of course I'm not "entitled" to their number (I think use of that word is SW-speak, but I'll play along :). She could have any reason not to want to give me her number, and really it doesn't matter to me as to why, she could have good reasons or no reasons at all, it's 100% her choice. And, honestly, no hard feelings -- again, I don't think of it as "rejection", with all the emotive connotations, it's just her making whatever decision is best for her. No harm, no foul.
But! That also doesn't mean that I should completely ignore my own desires or dumb-down the experience I want to have -- and it's absolutely impossible for a stripper to meet my needs if she doesn't give me her number. So, her business model doesn't match my needs as a customer, and I move on (or, as I said, re-classify her as a drinking buddy and just roll with it).
I guess you really are using the right word for you -- if you're even thinking about some sort of revenge visit, then "rejected" and all that bad feelings that implies definitely applies. I don't think of it as rejection, it doesn't make me feel bad, and the thought of conspicuous consumption in front of her is a non-starter. She's not going to affect my future actions one bit.
Why bother? If she's good enough for dances, the fact that she won't give me her number doesn't change that. And if she doesn't want to fuck me in a cheap motel room, that doesn't change the fact that she lets me play with her boobs.
Ain't got time for that high school shit.
When I gave out my number freely back in the day - this was before such enhancements. Burner phone was an option but that became too tedious to carry around.
Besides, most strippers offer me their number before I'm even thinking about asking for it. Or else, by the time I ask, it's pretty obvious that she'll want me to have it.
:)