Stripper Advice - Jedi Master help required
shailynn
They never tell you what you need to know.
Several months ago I met a stripper in Detroit who I have a total crush on. I can't even speak when I see her. She's in her early 40s and I am 5 years younger than her. The few times we have chatted We talk non-stop but I still know very little about her. I don't know if she has a boyfriend/hubby, kids, etc. I think she's beautiful, she has a flawless body and we can chat for hours, we make each other laugh with no effort.
The strange part is just about every girl in Detroit is an extras girl but I have never been offered extras from her. I have had lap dances from her only 3 times (4 to 8 songs each time) and all have been the same: heavy make-out session, my hands everywhere, but she has never touched my one eyed snake, or suggested she wants to. To me it's like 2nd base. I have found it so awkward to ask, like I don't want to ruin the great vibe we have going during our lap dances, I just can't figure out a way to say "hey can we fuck for $200" without sounding like a total creep.
I'm trying to figure why she hasn't offered extras? Maybe it's because she has a steady stable of regulars. Since I first discovered her, I have been to her club probably 8 times, 3 I was able to spend time with her (two times I had to wait almost an hour to chat with her) one time she wasn't there, the other 4 she was tied up with a guy (different each time). I would wait for an hour and each time she was still tied up I would leave as there are plenty of guaranteed things in Detroit. But I want her...
I just can't bring myself to ask her anything specific, I guess I get tongue tied or I'm too afraid I will offend her, usually this isn't a problem. The tough part is I'm not up there every week, I'm lucky to make it there once a month, so a few times I've seen her she's even a little fuzzy on remembering me. This is the same club I had issues with being another dancers "property" too and this dancer always brings up how the other dancer talks about me and I have to convince this dancer that I have no interest in the other dancer. I think that finally worked on my last trip when I said "she has never kissed me like you do."
I'm beginning to think I want to fuck one of the few girls in Detroit that don't fuck custies, but hopefully I'm wrong.
I will be back up there at the end of October and I just want her to swallow my cum, any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
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Sounds to me like you are uncomfortable asking her for sex because you don't really view her as a stripper. In your heart, I think you need/want her to be a civilian that you could have a relationship with as more than a customer.
So if you want her to swallow your cum, you need to view her in all ways like what she is -- a very attractive srripper that turns you on massively. If you truly see her as a stripper, particularly as a Detroit stripper, then I think your reluctance will fade.
By the way I's bet she is an extras girl. If her dances are that good, and she works in Detroit, it's hard to believe otherwise. It makes sense though that she doesn't mention extras to you. She doesn't have to. You are paying her big bucks just to dance so why offer more?
There are many respectful ways to ask for extras, and there is zero chance that it will offend a Detroit stripper. Even if she says no you can keep getting lap dances, so there is absolutely no downside to asking.
Be yourself but I would ask before the lap dances and say something like: "you are beautiful and I enjoy getting dances with you but I really want more. Could we have sex (or whatever you want, bbbj hj, etc) if I pay you extra."
It's funny I haven't paid mega bucks for dances with her - 3 times - 1st was 4 dances ($100), 2nd time 8 dances (2 sets of 4 during the night) and the 3rd time 6 dances. To me that's not a lot of dances but maybe to her it is. She doesn't drink in the club so her sitting and chatting with me for an hour, she's not making anything, so one time she tied up almost 3 hours with me and made $100 before having to share her lap dance cuts. Oh well I really like your advice and I will use that line next time, if she declines I will bring up the question of would she meet me OTC.
This type of friendly and casual approach works well for me in more doubtful situations, whether or not she is amendable to what I am suggesting. If she is one of the old school girls with no interest in p4p and enough skills to earn anyway, then so be it. Worst case scenario is that she will walk away, which is no loss if you can't get in her pants anyway. But the odds are good that she will have heard this enough times not to get too offended, even if she says no.
Personally I tend to get pissy when guy asks me about extras but it's cause some dudes are retards and don't even know how to do it properly. Mind you, even if I did extras, these rude "Do you suck dick?" ; "Are we gonna fuck?" etc would make me cuss them out. So if you will be nice about asking her that, I don't see her taking an offense. I mean, it's Detroit,she gets asked to perform sexual services all the time. Besides, she makes out with you, she is not innocent at all.
I'll keep you guys posted - will have an answer by Halloween!