Negotiating With EX-Strippers
motorhead
Fat, drunk and stupid is no way to go through life
Is is still okay to ask for sexual favors from an ex-favorite who hasn't danced in 3 years? She texted me and told me her electric was about to be shut off. I feel guilty about asking her for a blow job in exchange for help with her utility bill. I've been out of the civie market for so long I don't know standard protocol, though I hear college girls give blow jobs for help with Calculus.
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Interesting.
I haven't had that situation come up... Yet.
I'll be curious how it works out for you and what technique you used. It could be another "system" like version 2.0.
I *do* think she contacted you feeling you would give her the $$$ w/o asking for anything in return – either b/c she sees you as a nice-guy or you've helped her in the past w/o asking for anything in return.
I personally would not have issues with helping someone in need stripper or not – the issue is as I mentioned – strippers are a different animal – my concern with helping a dancer is that it can easily become habitual – if they get used to you being their go-to guy then the requests will keep coming.
I also feel that the dancer may be jerking you (not in a good way) around – most likely she has a guy/SO who is fucking her for free so it is *his* responsibility to provide for her – I think she is being a selfish bitch if she is fucking another dude for free (SO) then asking you $$$ for nothing in return.
If this is a one-time thing – then yeah – perhaps – you probably don't know all the details of what may be going on w/ her and her situation/needs – but if it becomes more habitual then you gotta put your PL foot down b/c she is using you.
I also agree with being direct with what you want to help her out
"Come on over, I'm sure we can work something out to our mutual benefit. "
Matthew 7:7.
Naw. I don't remember calculus. More than 50 years ago I earned 4 credits in differential calculus and 4 credits in integral calculus. My slide rule is broken and I have never used it so just pay the utility bill and tell her what you expect in return.
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I wouldn't. By contacting you with that message at all, she was either running some type of pity hustle or she is inviting you to make a p4p offer. Either way, she made herself fair game for a p4p offer.
Unless of course you're telling us that you two chat all the time and are really good friends. Does she invite you to family events? Hang out with you just for the pleasure of it? Friend you on her personal FB account? If the answer to these questions is no, and I'm guessing that they are, then she is not your friend and doesn't really want to be. So if you are going to be a source of income for her, then get something for it.
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I have to wonder how many of the honeys think "shit, I wish the PL would hurry up, grow some balls and offer me money to fuck already".
I am a little confused as to understanding WHY you'd be timid in the slightest. The girl is not a naive little princess or genuinely your friend, she's a professional stripper who knows the deal ... hell, she knows the deal better than we do. She absolutely expects you will (or might) ask for a quid-pro-blow. Is it because she's manipulating you into feeling protective and paternalistic, as if she's the fair maiden who needs rescuing, and you feel you're betraying her by turning such a noble request from a vulnerable woman into mere vulgar request for sex-for-$? Hopefully you can tell by how I worded that last sentence, what I think about it.
All of that said, I definitely remember a time when I was vulnerable to such requests also, and was almost a little proud that in her time of trouble, she was coming to ME. That was literally decades ago, and I shake my head and laugh about it now. So I really do kinda get it, but suggest strongly you get over it... any paternal or protective instinct she's arousing in you, is her hustle (her tone of voice, how she frames up her current problems) working on you, or you misdirecting some truly noble instincts you have. Save such paternal, noble instincts for your daughter, or your wife, or whomever actually matters.
Maybe you could try to phrase it in a way that tries to avoid offense (real or fake). Perhaps by saying something like "sorry but I don't give or loan money to people who are just friends, only to women I'm in a sexual relationship with".
A great way to get a shitty paid service of any kind is to get it from the type of person who thinks it a grand injustice they weren't born a trust fund baby.